Talk about how to apply etiquette to practical life

China has always been a "state of etiquette", etiquette is not only an important part of ideology and morality, but also an important form of reflecting the construction of spiritual civilization. Etiquette not only reflects a person's spiritual outlook, but also reflects the morality of a unit, a region or even the whole society.

Modern communication etiquette books abound, many colleges and universities have begun to pay attention to this course, in the form of elective courses to make this course appear in front of students in colleges and universities, and even some of the liberal arts majors to set up this course as a professional course, spend a lot of class time teaching communication etiquette. But the classroom is mostly on paper, not much effect, the students just complete the basic task of listening to the class, and did not translate the knowledge of the books into practical action. In the communication etiquette, there are some basic etiquette on our daily life in the communication plays a vital role, such as: posture, expression, gestures, clothing, etc., these are commonly used in life is the most basic etiquette.

Gestures include standing, sitting, walking and squatting, which are not worth mentioning in most people's eyes. I remember reading a story about an American who wanted to negotiate a joint venture in China, and had done so several times before, with a very good impression. This day he came to the enterprise for the last negotiation, if satisfied with his decision to cooperate with this enterprise, so he met with the top leadership of this enterprise, in the negotiation process, the enterprise leader has been in an indecent sitting posture in the non-stop shaking legs, and finally the American to the inappropriate reasons and refused. Afterwards he met with a friend to talk about this incident, it turned out that he is not because of business reasons not to cooperate, but think a even sit are not good to sit in the leadership and how to put in a rigorous attitude to work. Perhaps many people feel that posture is not important, achievement, academic only important, obviously this concept is wrong, you never have a second chance to give people a good first impression. As the saying goes: "stand like a pine, sit like a clock, walk like the wind", stand as upright as a pine, sit as upright as a clock, men walk like the wind as fast and strong; women walk to be light and free, subtle and elegant. If you go to the interview, walk into the field interview, body crooked standing in front of the examiner, the examiner let you take a seat, your whole body leaning on the back of the chair, crossing your legs to answer the examiner's questions, even if you have the ability to, high education, I'm afraid that the examiner will be a big discount on your impression. So don't ignore the details, there are times when the details can determine everything.

Expression is the richest part of the human body's language, a reflection of inner emotions. People express their inner feelings through expressions of joy, anger, sadness and happiness. Expressions play an important role, and modern psychologists have summarized a formula: expression of feelings = 7% speech + 38% voice + 55% expression, indicating that expressions play an important part in the process of expression of feelings. Some people say that expression is the combination of gaze and smile, I think that in addition to these there is attitude, your attitude towards others determines what kind of expression you will face others. If your emotional color with anger, sadness, worry, thinking and other complex thoughts and feelings, then how can you with a warm smile, frank, cordial, friendly, God's eyes to treat others; if you with optimism to see the surrounding things, things and people, you will naturally smile, with a friendly gaze to communicate with others. Some people do not know how to place their eyes when interacting with strangers, they dare not look at each other or stare at each other, which is impolite.

Sometimes learning to look at other people's expressions can also help you in your work and life, so that you can successfully speculate on each other's psychology. For example: when a person is laughing, the corners of the eyes do not appear fine lines, it is possible to be in a fake smile; people in shock, the face of the expression of surprise can only last less than a second, if you see a person "surprised" for a long time, he is most likely to be pretending; eyebrows up, crowded together, representing fear, worry, worry; Biting his lips and touching his ears means that the desire for control is growing, which indicates anxiety. Crossing the fingers of both hands and holding them together, and stretching out the two index fingers against his lips means that he is telling himself that he can't say anything, which is a contradiction in terms of behavioral control....... All of these are theoretically based in psychology, so don't force others to say anything when they don't want to. When others are worried about the time to give some comfort and care; when others do not quite accept you in the fake smile when you can use action to persuade him to let him genuinely accept you, this is bound to let you half the effort.

Hands are the most important medium of communication in the human body language, beckoning, waving, shaking hands, waving hands, etc. all indicate different meanings. When a person is nervous, excited, anxious, the hand will be shown consciously or unconsciously. As an important part of grooming, hand gestures should be used correctly. The charm of the hand is not less than the eyes, and it can even be said that the hand is the second pair of eyes. Hand gestures show a very rich meaning, the expression of feelings is also very subtle and complex. Such as greeting, waving goodbye, clap your hands to praise, arch your hand to thank you, raise your hand to agree, hands rejected; hand caress is love, finger is anger, hand embrace is pro, hand cupping is respect, hand cover is shy and so on. In the interaction, in order to enhance the language of the speaker's infectious power, can generally consider the use of certain gestures, but remember that the gestures should not be too much, the action should not be too big, avoid "pointing" and "hand-waving". Greetings, greetings, farewells, cheers, applause belongs to the range of gestures, should pay attention to the size of its strength, speed, time and duration, not excessive. Under no circumstances should you point your thumb at the tip of your nose or point your finger at others. It is not necessary to accompany every sentence with a gesture, as too many gestures make it seem unnatural. However, appropriate gestures in important places will attract attention. Unnatural gestures, will attract many people's resentment, resulting in barriers to communication; beautiful and moving gestures are often full of surprises in the heart; very soft and warm gestures will be full of gratitude in the heart; very resolute and decisive gestures, as if a thousand pounds of power.

Dress etiquette involves what people wear, what they accessorize and what they use. Whether the dress is appropriate, and personal image, corporate image have a great relationship. There are three major principles of dress code: the principle of time, the principle of place, the principle of occasion. Time principle, the requirements should be dressed in line with the times, the four seasons, morning and evening, if someone is now wearing a costume in the street, the turnover rate must be one hundred percent, the time principle also requires that we do not wear summer clothing winter or winter clothing summer wear, or it is a different kind. The principle of place requires that we dress in accordance with the place of participation. Funeral everyone wears plain clothes, only you wear red clothing appeared in the funeral, others will think you do not know the rules, do not respect the dead. For example, in some business events, both men and women are required to wear professional suits. If you wear casual sportswear on business occasions, it will give others an impression that you are not strict.