What is a lady's speech and demeanor?

Basic Definition

The traditional Chinese lady under the constraints of ritualistic thinking is not worth advocating, because it has erased the charm and value that women should have. The lady we advocate today is a lady based on traditional virtues without losing the values of modern society, a new woman in the context of a new civilization, a new culture and a new era. It is better to advocate being a lady than to advocate being a "barbaric girlfriend" or a "womanizer". This does not mean that the retro retrogression, anachronism, binding personality, but to make women more personality, charm and taste, to restore the original face of women. First of all, a lady should be elegant in temperament.　A lady is also a rank in the hierarchy of concubines in the Ming and Qing dynasties A lady's talk should be truly elegant and moving, and while having an everlasting smile and a magnetic voice, she must bear in mind the ten taboos of talking to people and the avoidance of conversation. Among the various views on the topic of women, it seems that "independence, equality, wisdom, spirituality" has become the **** same aesthetic ideal for all kinds of people. The popular line in the Book of Songs, "A fair lady is a gentleman's good friend," just shows that the virtue of a lady is an important part of traditional Chinese culture. Especially at a time when "savagery and sexual freedom" are being used by some as a label for the new woman, a lady's temperament and demeanor are even more precious. The meaning of ladylike temperament and demeanor is definitely not equivalent to the traditional Chinese sense of propriety, it is the new historical conditions, women in the instrument, speech, mannerisms, thinking and behavior on a unique Chinese characteristics of femininity.

Speaking taboos

Talking taboo: There is no perfect person. All people have strengths and weaknesses. People always have self-esteem, often do not want others to touch their own shortcomings, privacy, unpleasant things. Therefore, in interpersonal relationships, the speaker must seek to avoid. To talk to the object of some sensitive, special things, should be more for the sake of the other side.　1. interrupting others' conversations or snatching up others' words.　2. Neglecting to use generalization, making it difficult for the other party to understand your intention.　3. Distracting your attention so that others repeat what they have talked about.　4. Continuously asking questions that make people think you are overzealous and demanding, so that it is difficult to cope with.　

5. Treating other people's questions carelessly, making people feel that you ignore and belittle them.　6. Casually explaining a certain phenomenon, rash assertions, in order to show that he is an expert.　7. Avoiding the truth, containing but not revealing, so that people are confused.　8. Inappropriately emphasize some of the minutiae that are irrelevant to the topic, making people tired and embarrassed.　9. When others are interested in a certain topic, but you feel impatient, immediately change the topic to their own interest.　10. Pretend that the correct point of view, pertinent advice is wrong and inappropriate, so that the other party suspects that your words have the intention of teasing.　11. Physical defects. Speaking to avoid the physical defects of people, have no choice but to take an indirect way of expression. Such as limp people should be polite, "your legs are not convenient, please sit down first."　12. Family misfortune. Like the death of a relative, husband and wife divorced. If the person concerned is not the initiative to mention, should not be abrupt.　13. Personnel shortcomings. Shortcomings in dealing with people, undignified experiences and current situation, these are sensitive points that you do not want others to touch.　14. Entering the country and following the customs. "Enter a country and ask about prohibitions, enter a country and ask about customs, enter a country and ask about taboos." This is crucial to socializing success or failure.　As a lady don't think you are born to attract people to like, talk to others, pay attention to avoid, in fact, is to understand people, respect people, civilized, cultured performance. If you can try to avoid unpleasantness, everyone will be happy.　Facts have proved that the lady elegant and moving speech, will help socialize, help reflect the lady's personality beauty, will add a few points to her beauty

Other qualities

Lady if there is no atmosphere, the charm of the atmosphere has become a commonplace, the virtuous through and through, there is no way to talk about it. Atmosphere of the lady can be a little powder, can also face the sky; can dress in fine clothes and food, but also can be a little bit of food; can live in a mansion, but also can live in a cottage; can be pointing to a thousand army, but also can raise the case.　In life, the natural atmosphere will be in some women show extraordinary elegance, and the sky and the earth as one, revealing infinite vitality. Atmosphere lies in the understanding of the overall situation. Knowledge of the big picture is not to comment on their own good and bad things in the world, but with a tolerant heart to treat all beings well. Women with this virtue in addition to the well-behaved and clever, but also add a graceful and elegant, calm and unhurried charm, cool as the breeze, bright like the moon.　Atmosphere is shown in the clothes and hats, also seen in the hands and feet, more exposed in the eyebrows and speech.　If a lady can enjoy every living moment at the same time, forging their own that frost does not wither, life and death of the atmosphere of character, then, heaven and earth is not just one more beautiful scenery, but another human model. The more such models, the more the possibility of the world on the day, the lady's taste will be more noble and pure, marvelous.　Atmosphere first learn to tolerate, allow others to live different ideas exist. The world, no wonder. Everything in the world, there is no absolute concept of right and wrong. Maybe the friends around by marrying so that the clothes and food, while you firmly believe that women should be self-reliant and self-reliant, can not become a man's appendage. This should be the difference between the concept of life, you will not despise her, spit on her, right?　Wisdom of the lady will not be so, they do a thing, every word first to consider whether to do so to harm others, how not to lose the lady through the nature of the color. Everyone has their own way of pursuing, may be the same way, and ultimately everyone **** with a purpose.　Lady is not out of place, pretentious, but can tolerate others, know how to respect other people's choices, but also can recognize different people's way of life. Atmosphere should also be expressed as enthusiasm. The American writer Emerson once wrote: "One cannot do great things without enthusiasm." The great poet S. Ullman also said, "The years only leave wrinkles on your forehead, but if you lack enthusiasm in life, your mind will be covered with wrinkles."　With enthusiasm, a lady will turn strangers into friends, will be able to sincerely tolerate others, will be able to make full use of the spare time to fulfill their hobbies, lady

will be able to have the mood to hammer the side of the supposedly virtuous.　The enthusiasm of a lady will make you become broad-minded and abandon grudges; it will make you relaxed and happy, even forgetting your illnesses, and of course it will clear the mind of weeds.　The character of modern ladies should be soft inside and strong outside, strong and soft, and under the soft exterior, there beats a strong heart. They are no longer the traditional lady's weakness, nor is it prohibitively strong women.　Modern ladies y understand that the deliberate pursuit of toughness, and women's real inner world is too much contrast, is no toughness of hardness.　Therefore, the modern lady with the most gentle way to exchange the most generous treatment. Moreover, they never abandon life and love, but love rationally and fully enjoy the sweetness of love; they live sincerely and enjoy all the beauty of life.　As a fashionable term, lady is the opposite of "tomboy" or "strong woman". Although the Chinese lady and the Western lady have inherited very different traditions, there is a spirit of common ground between them, and in this increasingly internationalized contemporary society, they are on the same path, and the two words that replace them are also translated into each other.　The Chinese lady is facing the gentleman, the Western lady is facing the gentleman, in the gentleman's concept, always "lady first. lady as the weak image of the mainstream society by the special care and attention. In the corset and skirt support prevalent times, well-bred ladies know how to pass out at the right time, so that the gentleman around the hero has a place. The lady is the schoolmarm in the female sphere and the underdog in the male sphere. This is the key to being a lady.　Modern ladies do not have to work in women's red, do not have to smile without showing their teeth, but they should still be quiet, gentle and elegant, is the behavior of the body in the middle of the rules. A lady is essentially a norm. More than a hundred years of women's liberation movements have taken women away from the ladylike spirit; the 1960s youth movement against tradition and the resulting "ultra-short look" dealt a severe blow to the ladylike icon; the 1980s white-collar women in wide, shoulder-padded suits and dresses were just as disruptive in their toughness. It wasn't until the 90's that the trend changed and people missed the women of yesteryear that the fashion industry re-emerged with a feminism that should actually be called ladylike.　People can play many roles in society, and contemporary society has given women unprecedented choices. Contemporary ladies pay more attention to the appearance, is the image, if a strong woman put on a lady's dress to become a lady. At the end of the century, the image of a lady could be dressed up in minimalist or neo-romantic fashion. Women dressed up as ladies with a soft smile and a little sip of a drink, but that didn't stop them from changing into jean shorts to go to a disco, or wearing a suit to go out into the world to earn a living.

Ladylike rules

There is no such thing as a perfect person. All people have strengths and inevitably have weaknesses. People always have self-esteem, often do not want others to touch their own shortcomings, privacy, unpleasant things. Therefore, in interpersonal relationships, the speaker must seek to avoid. The object of the conversation involves some sensitive, special things, should be more for the sake of the other side.　1. Physical defects. Speaking to avoid people's physical defects, have no choice but to take the indirect way of expression. Such as limp people should politely say: "your legs are not convenient, please sit down first."　2. Family misfortune. Like the death of a relative, husband and wife divorced. If the person concerned is not the initiative to mention, should not be abruptly said.　3. Shortcomings in personnel. Shortcomings in dealing with people, undignified experiences and current situation, these are sensitive points that you do not want others to touch.　4. Entering the country, do as the Romans do. "Enter a country and ask about prohibitions, enter a country and ask about customs, enter a country and ask about taboos." This is crucial to socializing success or failure.　As a lady don't think you are born to attract people to like, talk to others, pay attention to avoid, in fact, is to understand people, respect people, civilized, cultured performance. If you can try to avoid unpleasantness, everyone will be happy.　Facts have proved that a lady's elegant and moving speech will help socialize and help reflect the beauty of a lady's personality, which will add a few points to her beauty If a lady does not have the atmosphere, the charm will become vulgar, and the virtuous and understanding will not be able to talk about it. Atmosphere of the lady can be a little powder, can also face the sky; can dress in fine food, can also be a little bit of food; can live in a wide building, can also live in thatched cottage; can be pointing to thousands of troops, can also raise the case of the same eyebrow.　In life, the natural atmosphere will be in some women show extraordinary elegance, and the sky and the earth as one, revealing infinite vitality. Atmosphere lies in the understanding of the overall situation. Knowledge of the big picture is not to comment on their own good and bad things in the world, but with a tolerant heart to treat all beings well. This virtue of the woman in the well-behaved in addition to the clever, but also add a graceful and elegant, calm and unhurried charm, cool as the wind, bright as the moon.

Expression

Atmosphere is manifested in the clothes and hats, but also in the hands and feet, and more exposed to the eyebrows and talk between.　If a lady can enjoy every living moment at the same time, forging their own that frost does not wither, life and death of the atmosphere of character, then, heaven and earth is not only a bright beauty, but also more a human model. The more such models, the more the possibility of the world on the day, the lady's taste will be more noble and pure, marvelous. Atmosphere first learn to be tolerant, allowing others to live a different concept of existence.　The world, no wonder. Everything in the world, there is no absolute concept of right and wrong. Maybe the friends around by marrying so that the clothes and food, and you firmly believe that women should be self-reliant and self-reliance, can not become a man's appendage. This should be the difference between the concept of life, you will not despise her, spit on her, right? Wisdom of the lady will not be so, they do a thing, every word first to consider whether to do so to harm others, how not to lose the lady through the nature of the color. Everyone has their own way of pursuing, may be the same way, and ultimately everyone **** with a purpose.　Lady is not out of place, pretentious, but can tolerate others, know how to respect other people's choices, but also can recognize different people's way of life. Atmosphere should also be expressed as enthusiasm. The American writer Emerson once wrote: "One cannot do great things without enthusiasm." The great poet S. Ullman also said, "The years only leave wrinkles on your forehead, but if you lack enthusiasm in life, your mind will be covered with wrinkles." With enthusiasm, a lady will turn strangers into friends, she will be able to sincerely tolerate others, she will be able to make full use of her spare time to fulfill her hobbies, and she will be in the mood to hammer out her otherwise virtuous side. The enthusiasm of a lady will make you become broad-minded and abandon grudges; it will make you relaxed and happy, even forgetting your illnesses, and of course it will clear away the weeds in your mind.　The character of modern ladies should be soft inside and strong outside, strong and soft, and under the soft exterior, beating a strong heart. They are no longer the traditional lady's weakness, nor is it prohibitively strong women. Modern ladies y understand that the deliberate pursuit of toughness, and women's real inner world is too much contrast, is no toughness of hardness. Therefore, the modern lady with the most gentle way to exchange the most generous treatment. Moreover, they never abandon life and love, but love rationally and fully enjoy the sweetness of love; they live sincerely and enjoy all the beauty of life.

Chinese women

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Chinese lady facing the gentleman, Western lady and to the gentleman, in the gentleman's concept, always lady first. lady as the weak image of the mainstream society by the special love and care. In the corset and skirt support prevalent times, well-bred ladies know how to pass out at the right time, so that the side of the gentleman heroes have a place to use. A lady is a schoolmarm in the female sphere, but in the male sphere she must play the role of the underdog. This is the key to being a lady.　Modern ladies do not have to work in women's red, do not have to smile without showing their teeth, but they should still be quiet, gentle and elegant, is the behavior of the body in the middle of the rules. A lady is essentially a norm. More than a hundred years of women's liberation movements have taken women away from the ladylike spirit; the 1960s youth movement against tradition and the resulting "ultra-short look" dealt a severe blow to the ladylike icon; the 1980s white-collar women in wide, shoulder-padded suits and dresses were just as disruptive in their toughness. It wasn't until the 90's that the trend changed and people missed the women of yesteryear that the fashion industry re-emerged with a feminism that should actually be called ladylike.　People can play many roles in society, and contemporary society has given women unprecedented choices. Contemporary ladies pay more attention to the appearance, is the image, if a strong woman put on a lady's dress to become a lady. At the end of the century, the image of a lady could be dressed up in minimalist or neo-romantic fashion. Women dress up as ladies with soft words and smiles and sips of drink, but that doesn't stop them from changing into jean shorts to go disco dancing, or wearing a suit to go play big down to earn a living.

Lady origin

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"Guan Guan Ju, in the river of the continent, the fair lady, gentleman's Martyrs," thousands of years ago, our earliest literature is the beginning of the praise of the lady.

Although there are different standards for different eras, in general, no matter which era of the lady must have the quality of beauty and goodness, this total requirement is unchanged. In the Tang Dynasty, women took obesity as beauty, and after the Song Dynasty, the fashion gradually guided women to artificially ravaged small feet as beauty. Although the society's appearance of women in the aesthetic concept of a serious aberration, but the requirements of their inner qualities, but always largely consistent.　From the point of view of modern society, life is changing rapidly, fashion is changing rapidly, many concepts are also competing to update, but I dare to assert that people's understanding of the lady has not changed to where.　Recently, the media said that one of the important criteria for a lady in the minds of the British is to pay attention to grooming and to behave in a proper manner. And cited the "secretarial" ladies as an example, saying that most of them come from prestigious schools, loyal to their duties, quietly work, polite and elegant, simple life, but do not have the desire to rise to the top of the promotion of colleagues do not gossip, to the superiors do not coquettishly.　Lady, is extremely precious minerals and the crystallization of the latter carefully carved, for more men, can only be a kind of inner yearning.

How to be a lady

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What is a lady? The phrase in the Book of Songs, has been summarized cleanly: "My fair lady, the gentleman good martyred". The "fair" one, beautiful also, is the kind of graceful and soft; "Shu" is kind-hearted, gentle character; and she must be able to let the men produce a strong "with the company, long time to stay together The "lady" is a woman with a good heart and a gentle character; she must also be able to make men have a strong desire to be with her and stay with her for a long time (i.e., 'a gentleman who is good at quarrying'), which makes the "lady" a good and kind woman.　The "goodness" can vary from time to time, and the so-called "Western Beauty in the Eyes of Lovers". The King of Chu liked the thin waist, while Emperor Tang Minghuang liked the richness of Yang Guifei, but "goodness" is the same requirement in every era ****. Xu Zhen of the Qing Dynasty made a "spectrum of beauty". The beauty of the ancient beauty, one by one for the analysis and decomposition. The appearance of the beauty must be forehead full and wide, lips like apricot small and full, to have "sharp teeth" and "chest", to have "willow waist" and "step by step lotus", but also to have "goodness" is the same requirement in every era. Step lotus", but also "hibiscus face" and "far mountain eyebrows", and then is not fat, not thin length appropriate. In addition to appearance, beauty should also have charm. "Leaning on the fence to wait for the moon", "sweet smile", "holding a lute and half cover the face, near the turn of the eye and a turn of affection" are beauty should have the charm. Furthermore, there should be specialties, the so-called zither, chess, poetry, painting, embroidery, etc., but also cut tea, incense, orchid protection, tailoring, butterfly, etc. Endless, if in ancient times to choose the beauty of the words is really a problem.　Beautiful and elegant, well-read, kind and respectful woman is a man's heart can never let go of the complex, how to do to be worthy of "lady"? I believe that different people have different answers.　Some people say that the lady is indifferent to fame and fortune, she is not tired of fame and fortune, and will not take fame and fortune as a yardstick to measure men, she will give men another side of the clean land, no smoke and fire and pressure.　Some people say it is youth, color, natural, straightforward, beautiful girls, should be "clear water out of hibiscus, natural to carve ornaments" of natural beauty, not too much artificial decoration, not too much of the mystery.　Some people say that the lady child insight, but never drink a few bottles of ink and often put forward a pedantic stance, she is good at listening, only at the crux of the "nudges" around the man.　 Lady

Some people say that the impression of a lady is fresh, friendly and relaxed, like the green trees and flowers in the mountains, like the wind and the moon on the river, whether it is classical or modern beauty, whether it is light makeup or plain face.　Some people say that the first element of a lady is to be gentle, the world's flavors, to the water's posture is the most moving; nature's greatness of many, the same drop can not be penetrated by the water for the most difficult to resist, the woman is gentle, the man will be like the body and mind in the summer into the cool sea, tenderness for women is the source of all the beauty.　Some people say that the lady looks delicate, but the heart is resolute and brave, when life in the wind and rain, will not lose color and lose the claim, the world is not a sweet orchard, ladies are not greenhouse flowers and plants.　Some people say that a lady should be dignified appearance, elegant speech, in and out of moderation, not hot, read some poetry, good at proficiency; through some ink, with skillful.　Some people say that ladies are not glamorous, arrogant, they are proud, not petulant, in ordinary life to maintain the noble heart of the woman, they are not pampered, uninitiated, but happy to face life, so that all people are infected with the health and happiness of the angels.　It is said that a lady is a woman whose heart is full of goodness and virtue, whose love is to give and not to usurp, who cares for her family and does not distinguish between thick and thin, and who does not let the gentlemen be in a dilemma between affection and love.　Some people say that the lady is not due to the passing of years and disappear, she is like a deep imprint in the hearts of men, "the belly with poetry from the Hua" has a young, upwardly mobile heart, never give up in life that a calm, grace and leisure, love of life, life is therefore bright.　The world has also been said that the real lady is rare, women in the molding, men are struggling to find. "When *** cut the candles in the west window, but talk about Bashan night rain" is so beautiful, that is because the distance produces lovesickness, and modern society has dissolved the distance between men and women, in the past it is difficult to meet each other when it is hard to say goodbye is also difficult to meet now is to want to see, do not see, love has become a hot spicy hot pot, the tradition of the tide of commerce is a little bit of a little bit away from the less gentleman, it is also less lady. The traditional is being taken away little by little by the tide of commerce, less gentleman, less lady.　Some people say that nowadays ladies can only be found in three streams: female college students, intellectual women and white-collar beauties (perhaps this is a bit relative absolute). However, nowadays, due to the improvement of economic conditions, cosmetics, fashion, beauty and other extensive use of today's beauty is also more and more, the so-called "within ten steps, there must be a good-looking grass". But with the abundance of capital **** is the survival of the mind of the lack of greed, which is a major common problem of today's beauty, that is, in the highly educated knowledge of women, there is also a general shrinkage of the spirit of the moral and materialistic desire, many white-collar beauties are also more than two faces, the public in front of the elegant and flashy, but the private life of the paper and gold, and some have even degenerated into a mistress for the big spenders. Lady

I remember that I do not know how many years in nine "Tangshan Literature" engaged in an activity, rated "China's top ten beauties": timeless style type of Gong Li, youthful wisdom Yang Lan, sweet and serene type of Song Zuying, heavenly nymph type of Yang Liping, delicate daughter type of Yang Ying, noble and warm type of Mao Amin, bright and beautiful high-clean type of Zhou Jie! This should be the essence of today's Chinese beauty (of course, there are many beautiful women on the screen now), but this is only the appearance. But this is only the appearance, in the "Dictionary" in the explanation of the lady is a good virtuous woman, the modern lady but also independent, good state of mind, generous and natural social skills and better conversation, cultivation, temperament, dress.　Although it is said that the lady is a woman in the glittering stars, the world of knowledge will certainly make people elegant, but the most important than the soul of the most important, in fact, according to my view, the most essential features of the lady is: true, good, beautiful, do not have to deliberately carve, deliberately when it is not a lady.