What should children with divorced parents do if they are afraid of getting married?

1. Will children with divorced parents divorce when they grow up, or will single-parent families divorce?

Well, I am studying in the United States now, and my parents divorced in primary school, but the economic conditions are not bad.

I'm with my mother now. I know that after their divorce, they just cried all night, and there was no particularly big reaction, because they didn't have any feelings for my dad.

I just feel sorry for him. Of course, you may say that I have three incorrect views, but I don't think family ties will have much influence on children in modern society.

If the education you give him is moral education, he will be strong and unaffected. My mother is from the countryside, and her education level is not high, which may make people laugh. She never even went to junior high school.

But she's very strong and runs a small company. I think you should tell your children to be strong.

And influence him with his own life experience. My mother is very successful at this. In short, don't let him be affected by his parents' divorce.

When he gets married, everything is up to him, as long as he doesn't misunderstand the concept of divorce.

2. What if you are afraid of getting married?

I used to think the same as you, but since he appeared in my life, my thoughts have gradually changed. He used to think the same way as me and didn't want to get married. We agreed to just be friends. Later, we fell in love, deeply in love.

I feel the beauty of love. I think, from your words, I think you are still eager to have an imaginary love, but this love has not yet arrived.

You have a psychological shadow, so you have higher requirements for love. You are an idealist. In fact, don't be afraid, as long as you accept others boldly, you will find true love, and when you feel it, you won't be so afraid now.

If you are not brave, you may miss a good marriage. Don't be afraid, brave enough to love.

There will be a good result.

3. In the face of parents urging marriage, how to eliminate the fear of marriage?

The Chinese New Year is coming, and marriages are starting to get together.

Many women don't want to get married or are afraid of getting married, but when their parents urge them to get married, will they feel very distressed and anxious? We can often observe such a phenomenon: when some female friends are about to enter the marriage hall, they suddenly feel fear and anxiety, unbearable, and even avoid marriage. In serious cases, they can avoid marriage many times. Such psychological problems can be called "marriage phobia".

These women have a fear of holding a wedding and getting married formally, and dare not abscond in front of a wedding that ordinary people think is wonderful. What's going on here? The survey found that these women's childhood family life was generally unhappy, some came from divorced families, some parents always quarreled, and so on.

From a psychological point of view, marriage is hereditary in the family. If parents' marriage is unstable, quarrel or divorce, children will have a kind of resistance to marriage, and children will be afraid that if they get married, they will be as disharmonious and unstable as the previous generation. Some children will choose to be single when they grow up, and some children will have fear of marriage and even fail to get married when they grow up. However, this does not mean that marriage is genetic, but that parents' marriage has a great influence on their children.

For example, some children born in unhappy families, their parents constantly speak ill of each other and vent their resentment against each other. Parents quarrel all day, parents divorce, and children may be afraid of getting married when they grow up. In fact, because of the influence of their parents' marriage, they will feel that no man in the world is a good thing and have a deep aversion to married life. This resentment is the emotion hidden behind "fear of marriage".

What is the harm and influence of "marriage phobia"? First of all, it created a marriage misfortune in advance. Compared with parents' divorce and quarrel, people with marital phobia have predicted the misfortune of marriage before marriage, which leads to the pain of both men and women in advance.

Secondly, it continues the pain of the previous generation and does not allow itself the opportunity to rebuild a healthy marriage. Unfortunately, parents' marriage may lead to the problem of children's marriage, but it is not 65,438+0,000%. Children may repair childhood trauma through psychological channels and establish a relatively healthy marriage, while women with marital phobia choose to escape rather than face problems actively, so it is impossible for both parties to grow up together in marriage.

So, what should a female friend with "marriage phobia" do? First, we must grow. The trauma brought by parents to their children can be cured by psychotherapy and psychological repair after their adulthood. Only growth can bring them a different fate from their parents.

Second, they need to gradually realize that the resentment towards the world and their spouses is the feelings of their parents. They are adults and may be independent. They don't need to continue their parents' feelings, but should create their own happy life. (This article source: Netease Women's Forum).

4. The influence of parents' divorce on children's marital psychology

Admire! The first is admiration. I admire such self-awareness and strong psychology (on the other hand, it is probably too fragile to imagine). I admire people like you. I support many of your views, saying that your question is more like talking than asking questions. Parents' divorce has a great influence on children, and so does parents' early death. I didn't expect to have such independent thinking ability to go on a blind date. It is certain that blind date will not have a good result.

The recommended talk show Lan Zhi (after ep09 in Lan Zhi), especially the second season of Lan Zhi talk show, has a special story about parents' divorce. Behind the misunderstanding and pain that parents' love changed their children's fate, a female fan was forced to date. I won't recite it.

I think what you need as much as I do is to talk and understand. If it's convenient, you can leave a contact information. I like people who think about life and love to think about life.

Well, why do I always ask others for contact information today? Sorry, please don't take it to heart.