Fengxin County, Jiangxi Province Wedding, etiquette and customs

Jiangxi Fengxin wedding customs

In the long feudal society, Fengxin wedding customs and similar to all over the world, married men and women, basically relying on the "parents' orders, the words of matchmakers". The marriage is basically based on "the order of parents, the words of matchmakers", and emphasizes on "the family is the right match, and the relatives are more close to each other". The form of marriage can be roughly divided into several categories, such as marriage in the womb, accepting child brides, explicitly marrying, and recruiting a man (commonly known as "inverted door"). Marriage procedures are very cumbersome, there are mainly the following procedures:

hair eight young men and women to the marriage age, parents will be central matchmaker to the appropriate family to say. Matchmaker will be the female "Geng sticker" (i.e., the year of birth, month, day, hour) sent to the male family, said "hair eight", the male family will be the female Geng sticker pressed in the middle of the God case under the incense burner, about seven days later, such as peace and quiet, the male parents will be the male birth of the year, month, day, The hour and the female born geng please fortune-teller "eight characters", generally more than four characters in the two sides of the eight characters match, to be considered "and harmony", which is slightly incompatible, can also be Yat strong marriage, but if there is a match, they can not be married.

The recruitment of men and women after the birth of the eight characters and harmony, the matchmaker will be the female parents proposed gift list sent to the parents of the male, such as no objection, the male facilitate according to the requirements of the gift list as a number of gifts (gifts of gold, jewelry, clothing, wine, meat, cakes and noodles, etc.) to the female home, known as the "line of recruitment" or "next recruitment! "The female party sends back shoes, socks, towels and other items. The female party back to send shoes and socks, towels, handkerchiefs and other items, and the hospitality to stay at the banquet, the men and women to meet, the male party to the female side of the "meeting gift".

Send section after the recruitment, the marriage relationship has been determined, men and women shall not be dissolved without authorization, any party to change without authorization, will be subjected to public criticism, for the people of the disgrace. If the man changes, he cannot ask the woman to return the bride price; if the woman changes, she must return the bride price to the man. After the recruitment, three festivals a year, the male party to prepare gifts to the father-in-law, said "send festival", the female party also give a certain return gift.

Pick the day After the marriage is determined, the shortest is one year, the longest is three years, it will be married. Before the marriage, generally first by the male parents to ask the fortune-teller to look at the "yellow calendar" to choose suitable for the marriage of the "auspicious day", written on red paper "to send the period sticker", with gifts sent to the female home, the female parents, if there is no objection, the female parents to send the festival. If the woman's parents have no objections, they will send back the "permission sticker". In this way, the date of marriage has been determined, no special circumstances can not be changed without authorization.

Send marriage After the date of marriage is determined, the day before the marriage, the female relatives to the female family "send marriage". After the bride "open face", accompanied by friends and relatives to eat "to be married wine" off the table into the boudoir crying, said "crying marriage". Good "crying" people, singing instead of "crying", euphemistic and moving, its content is nothing more than difficult to give up parents, do not forget to raise and so on. Friends and relatives hear the sound of "crying" and go to console, and give a certain amount of "wedding money", also known as "tears package". Good "cry" and friends and relatives more than one day harvest, considerable.

Marrying The day before the wedding, the man's friends and relatives to the man's home to congratulate the next of kin to send a generous gift, the neighbors "to make up". The groom woke up in the morning to bathe, dressed. In the evening, "make the bed". To invite "good fortune and longevity" to order bedding, and let the boy roll in the new bed, called "sitting bed". The morning of the wedding day, the matchmaker led the sedan chair to the female home to marry the bride, before the trip, the male side is often posted on the sedan chair a couplet, female relatives and friends in the village to welcome the sedan chair into the ancestral hall, unveiled the couplet, and quickly asked the local Mr. couplet, posted back to the sedan chair to show that when the door is the right family, men and women match; if the couplet is not the next couplet, is often ridiculed as a family name of the next no talent. Parents marrying a daughter, must be prepared to do a certain amount of dowry dowry, a large piece of "a carry", "four carry", "eight carry", "half a set of ", "full set of" said. Bride to get married, draped in red, by the "bridesmaids" (also known as the "bride") to help on the sedan chair, the bride more intentionally do not wear a wedding dress, not on the sedan chair, delaying the time to show that it is difficult to give up parents, unforgettable home state. Ultimately, the "bridesmaids" accompanied by the sedan chair to the male family.

Bidding Sedan Chair The sedan chair entered the village, the joyful cannons, the groom will welcome the bride into the ancestral hall, the first "Bidding Sedan Chair": a worship of heaven and earth, two worship ancestors, three worship of parents, husband and wife to worship sent to the bridal chamber, the bridegroom will be the bride's head to remove the cover scarf, and drink the "cup of wine", which is called "fm radio", "fm radio". This is called "fm radio". At noon for the main meal, a large banquet, as few as one or two tables, as many as seventy or eighty tables, hospitality, friends and relatives, and the clan, as many as possible.

Alarming the bridal chamber Newlywed night, men, women and children gathered in the bridal chamber, or cheering, or singing, and enjoy the fun, known as "playing the new room", there is a "new sister-in-law new sister-in-law, three days not divided into size," said. "Bridesmaids" are mostly smart, capable, articulate middle-aged women as she is the bride's "bridesmaids", but also the bride's protector, when guests want the bride to guess riddles, sing or do actions such as lighting cigarettes and feel embarrassed, "bridesmaids" will be responsible for the bride's "bridesmaids", "bridesmaids" will be responsible for the bride's "bridesmaids". Bridesmaids" will be obliged to act as an agent. Therefore, "bridesmaid" is also the object of guests teasing and laughing. The contents of the cheers were mostly blessings to the newlyweds, such as the popular colorful words in Yangshan and Bath Stream during the Republic of China: "Early birth, good things come true. The three elements and the first, the four seasons of wealth. The fifth son is enrolled in the imperial examinations, and the sixth son is born in the same spring. The seventh son is reunited, and the eight immortals celebrate longevity. The sky is long, the earth is long, and all ten are beautiful." Cheers every "drink" a sentence, will be able to get "bridesmaids" a "reward", such as red eggs, peanuts, beans, etc., are intentionally mixed with raw and cooked, the guests ate and shouted! The guests ate them and exclaimed, "I've got a raw one," meaning that I would be able to give birth. The new room to the late-night party break, the boredom of the bride and groom before they go to sleep "sneak" into the bottom of the bed or behind the door, while the bride and groom to go to sleep while the bride and groom wide clothes, suddenly grabbed by the door and go, so as to blackmail the bride and groom to give more "bounty", the custom of the countryside is also not thought to have been.

Back to the door Three days after the wedding, the bride's brother to the husband's family to pick up his sister, brother-in-law to return to the province of the mother's family, said "back to the door", the mother's family must be hosted a banquet reception.

The above, Fengxin feudal era wedding customs, most prevalent in the family of the powerful and prominent officials, the poor small family by the economic conditions of the limitations of the general from the simple. These old customs, from the end of the Qing Dynasty to the founding of New China, although due to the passage of time and the impact of war and other factors, the content and form of a slight change, but basically inherited.

After the founding of New China, with the promulgation of the Marriage Law, the old marriage system was gradually abolished, and the complicated marriage procedures were gradually simplified. Parents of their children's marriage, in a half-decision or not in the state, men and women choose their spouses, increasingly cautious. Men and women who know each other or introduced to each other, such as love, they will tell their parents, the woman's parents will invite the family or the main relatives to the man's home to agree on the marriage, said "Chajia" or "to see the field", the man to clothing, shoes, socks, towels and so on, each one. Each person gets a share. After both parents have discussed the matter, the man invites the woman to the store to "pull cloth" and sends a certain number of gifts such as meat, cakes, noodles, etc. and gift money to the woman's parents, which is the "engagement". After knowing each other for a year, the man and the woman would go to the local government to get a marriage certificate, set up a few tables of banquet on a certain day, and distribute candies and cigarettes to their friends and relatives, and then they were considered to be married. These customs continued until the end of the seventies.

In the early 80's, in the construction of socialist spiritual civilization, change of customs, the wedding ceremony, a new trend. Most of the young people in the towns and cities to get married to take a trip to get married, collective marriage, free weddings and other forms, not only to avoid the labor of organizing the pain, but also to reduce unnecessary expenses. In recent years, with the development of the economy, the towns and rural areas of the wedding scene more and more big, the woman married, the man must do color TV, refrigerator, motorcycle, VCD, air conditioning and other big things, welcome sedan chair has been discarded, in the towns instead of welcoming the bride color car, the banquet can easily be dozens of tables, the atmosphere of a grand and enthusiastic. This on the one hand reflects the improvement of people's living standards, on the other hand, it also shows that the wedding by the influence of the bad atmosphere of the swing, talk about the occasion, compare with each other and so on.