Is there an inherent conflict between China's traditional culture and western educational ideas? How should parents choose?

The educational model in the west is very different from that in China. Education is done by people, and different people lead to different models. Western schools attach great importance to cultivating children's independence and self-personality, and students must express themselves. The school strives to push children into society and give them a lot of free space.

China takes care of children too much, suppressing children's personality and free space, and parents take care of them too much. In fact, too many parents are unsuccessful in doing things by themselves. People in China like to follow the crowd and compare with each other, lacking self-thinking and personal personality development. Intellectually speaking, domestic educational knowledge is more solid, and children's knowledge is larger and wider.

These two educational ideas have their own advantages and disadvantages. When educating children, we should pay more attention to them, observe and guide them rather than control them, and let them express and show themselves. Only in this way can we find out their advantages and disadvantages, discover their potential and help them develop their potential continuously. It is also very important that parents must maintain personal growth, not only in the concept and method of educating their children, but also in their personal work ability and personal charm.

This is a place that westerners attach great importance to. They won't lose themselves because of their children. No matter how old they are, they are still discovering their charm. Even an old lady can be a landscape, which is definitely a personality charm that radiates from the inside out. The word "charm" is hard to embody in China people. It should be something that every parent needs to constantly build, something that can generate great power in the process of educating our children.

I think western educational ideas are worth learning, especially in the aspects of "freedom" and "respect". But now everyone seems to boast too much. Western educational ideas are complementary to western culture, history, religion, national psychology and many other aspects and are an organic whole. If we put "education" in China's family, there will definitely be many problems.

A child is like a sapling. It is impossible to become a towering tree simply by absorbing one kind of nutrition. What we have to do is to let him know that there are many kinds in the world in the process of raising. As for what he wants to be when he grows up, he is free to choose. Instead of telling him from the beginning what kind of culture is good, how to live and what kind of work to do is successful. The premise of his free choice is whether he really knows himself. Therefore, children need multiculturalism, and only after "knowing" can they have it and make choices.