How did the ancient wise mothers educate their children?

Everyone's life, the mother's influence on his or her own is always huge, a mother's cultural cultivation, speech and demeanor, the way of education, a direct impact on the child's life.

The mother is the child's teacher of enlightenment, her words and deeds, every move affects the formation of the child's mindset.

So if a man can marry a good wife, he can be "rich" for three generations.

Of course, the "rich" mentioned here does not necessarily mean rich, but a person's mind rich, character rich, and ultimately make themselves into a person who can do something.

Throughout history, those who have made a difference, have made a name for themselves, most of them were y inspired by their mothers' ideas, which also made their lives successful. These mothers, the most famous than China's "four wise mother", they are: Meng mother, Tao mother, mother of Europe, mother-in-law.

These four great mothers, whose deeds have been widely celebrated, and whose sons have become pillars of the country, have influenced the children of China throughout their lives, and have become models of learning.

One of the four great mothers was Mencius

Menghu, the mother of Mencius in the Warring States period, was the first of the "Four Great Mothers".

Her son, Mencius, was a famous thinker and educator in ancient China, second only to Confucius in Confucianism, and was known as the "Sage of Asia".

Meng's mother's ability to raise such an outstanding son was due to her dedication to the education of her children. The most widely publicized story of her is "The Three Moves of Mencius' Mother".

Menghu's mother was widowed at an early age, but she never remarried and raised her son by herself.

At first, she and Mencius lived near her husband's mausoleum so that they could visit him every day. But after living in such a place for a long time, the young Mengzi actually learned the wailing nonsense of mourners.

Men's mother felt that such a living environment was not conducive to her child's growth, so she moved her home to the marketplace. But after moving to the marketplace, Meng Zi learned how to sell like the hawkers and merchants.

Men's mother didn't want her son to become a marketeer in the future, so she moved her home to a school. From then on, Mencius followed the school's scholar and learned to "study hard and learn every day". The reason why Meng's mother moved three times was because she knew the truth: "Environment affects a person's growth." Meng's mother also told the story of how she taught her son that if he didn't study, the loom would be cut off, teaching him that if he didn't study, he would be like weaving a piece of cloth halfway through its weaving process, which could not be utilized by others.

Similarly, if a person does not study hard when he is young, he will only be able to do hard labor when he grows up, and he will not have a future. From then on, Mencius studied hard and became a scholar of the world.

Second, Tao's mother

Tao Kan was a famous and good official in the Jin Dynasty, who lived a simple life and treated the common people as if they were his own parents.

When Tao Kan was a child, his family was very poor, Tao Kan's mother was frugal and saved all the money for Tao Kan to go to school and buy books. Tao Kan studied very hard and became a fishery official.

On one occasion, Tao Kan was transporting dried fish to the palace, and on the way, he passed by the place where his mother lived. Thinking that he was out as an official while his mother was living in poverty in the countryside, Tao Kan was saddened. "I haven't bought anything delicious for my mother for so many years, so let's take some dried fish for her to try this time!" Tao Kan thought to himself. So he asked his men to take a jar of dried fish to his mother's place.

Tao mother was very happy to see Tao Kan's subordinate bring the dried fish over, she took the dried fish and asked, "Where did this jar of dried fish come from?" The subordinate said with a smile, "This is the dried fish to be transported into the palace, Mr. Tao is considerate of you, and specially asked me to bring an altar for you to taste." After Tao mother heard this, her face immediately sank. After thinking for a while, she went into the house and took out paper and ink, wrote the word "seal" and stuck it on the dried fish altar. The minister rushed forward to stop her, saying, "Old madam, what are you doing?" Tao's mother said solemnly, "This dried fish belongs to the court, not to my son, I can't take it, you take it back."

Then she wrote a letter to Tao Kan, which said, "As an official of the court, you should do your duty, how can you be greedy for wealth and privately give me something from the court? If you are really filial to your mother, be a good and honest official!"

The return of the dried fish by Tao's mother made Tao Kan feel very ashamed. In this way, under the education and influence of his mother, Tao Kan became a good official with a good character and without seeking personal gain.

Three, Ou mother

Ou mother is the mother of Ouyang Xiu of the Northern Song Dynasty. Ouyang Xiu was an outstanding statesman, writer and historian of the Northern Song Dynasty, but his achievements could not be separated from his mother's great education.

Ou's mother was also a single mother, her husband died when her son was four years old, leaving her alone to pull him up by his bootstraps.

When Ouyang Xiu's father was alive, the family was relatively well-off, but since his death, the family's fortunes have plummeted, and the family has become increasingly impoverished.

Afterward, it came to the point that "there is no room for one, and there is no row of land". The widow and the orphan were living in such a situation, and the difficulties could be imagined.

Ou mother is a strong-willed woman, her family poor will not be poor, relying on their own hard work, will raise their son, and the most primitive way to teach Ouyang Xiu literacy.

This is the famous "Drawing Ogi to Teach": when Ouyang Xiu was five years old, his mother taught him to read and write, and to be a man of reason.

Ouyang Xiu, a child of the poor, was taught by his mother to be a man of honor, so he was able to excel in his studies, and he became a high school graduate in the eighth year of the reign of Emperor Renzong Tiansheng.

Ouyang Xiu actively supported Fan Zhongyan's efforts to maintain the New Law while he was an official, and was later demoted as a result.

But instead of complaining about his son's poor career, Ou's mother consoled him, saying, "You can't be said to be dishonored by being demoted for justice. Our family is accustomed to living in poverty, and I will be happy as long as you are not burdened in your mind and your spirit does not fail."

With a mother like this, how can a son not be great?

Four, Mother Yue

Mother Yue is the mother of the famous general Yue Fei of the Northern Song Dynasty. When Yue Fei was 15 or 16 years old, the Jin people in the north invaded the south, and the Song people in power were corrupt and incompetent, and the country was at a critical juncture of life and death.

Many selfish mothers do not want their children to go to the front line, hoping to preserve their heir's bloodline in times of war.

But Mother-in-Law was different from the average mother, she was righteous and took the initiative to motivate her son to join the military and serve the country with loyalty.

She even tattooed these words on Yue Fei's back with an embroidery needle so that his son would always remember the admonition that a man should be loyal to his country!

Because of his mother-in-law's positive encouragement, Yue Fei joined the army and fought bravely to kill the enemy, and he was soon promoted to the rank of Bingyilang for his repeated successes in battle.

When Kaifeng, the capital of Song Dynasty, was besieged by the Jin army, Yue Fei went to the rescue with Vice Marshal Zong Ze, and defeated the Jin army many times, and was appreciated by Zong Ze, who praised him for his "wisdom, courage, and talent, which cannot be surpassed by the ancient generals".

Yue Fei later became a generation of famous anti-Jin dynasty heroes, for the people of all generations to admire.