Family Style, Family Language and Common Things Composition

Family style is the yardstick for family ancestors to moralize their descendants, and it is also the value system to maintain the ethical order of traditional society. The essence of family style is a kind of family culture, which not only regulates the etiquette between the elders and the younger generation, but also requires everyone to show good family education when interacting with people outside the family. In a sense, the family style of China people is similar to the family emblem of European aristocrats, and others will associate a person's words and deeds with the honor and upbringing of his family.

From strict family instructions to Zeng Guofan's family letters, family plays an extremely important role in China's traditional culture, such as farming, doing good, benevolence, filial piety and honesty. But now we seldom talk about these "old sayings", and the family style has become "my family style is very strong"-so we have all become "children without family education".

The concept of family style faded out of people's lives, which originated from the loss of clan concept. Although most modern people have not caught up with those great turning points, social changes and ideological debates, many historical discourses since the May 4th Movement have changed the family life of modern people from the cultural gene. In one historical "movement" after another, tradition has been pushed to the opposite side of modern civilization, resulting in the bad phenomena of smashing ancestral tablets, burning genealogy and ignoring family style. The clan concept disintegrated, the family style disintegrated, and the traditional culture also fell into a crisis of inheritance.

On the other hand, the family system in China society has been impacted by the wave of urbanization, and the original extended family has been replaced by small family units, which is also an important reason for the weakening of the concept of family style. The family planning policy and young people's desire to have children have decreased, and the nuclear family, which allows parents to live with unmarried children, has gradually become the main family model in China. Without family values, talking about family style is extravagant talk. In modern society, there are few pictures of four generations living under one roof. People's bodies are confined to small families behind security doors, and their hearts are confined to small times when they turn a blind eye to history and are indifferent to the future. When the population flows in the background of the disparity between the rich and the poor in urban and rural areas, the functions of clans and families decline and the traditional social structure collapses. The number of times a wanderer approaches his hometown and meets his parents and relatives should be calculated in years. After this year, we will meet again next year. How to inherit the family style? In addition, after the implementation of the family planning policy, only a few people have brothers and sisters, which directly endangers the blood relationship network that has lasted for thousands of years and its social ethics. With the development of society, the transformation from an acquaintance society to a stranger society has also made the inheritance of family style lose its external constraints.

On the contrary, western countries attach more importance to family than we do. No matter how big an official is, he always mentions his family in public; By contrast, our officials and celebrities seldom talk about their families in public. Not only are China people not used to talking about their families, but the importance of families is often subordinate to their positions and jobs. Like Gary Locke, the outgoing American ambassador to China, it is probably unthinkable for domestic officials to leave because their daughters are studying.

The loss of family tradition has aggravated the moral decline, interpersonal alienation and ethical anomie in China society to some extent. For example, according to the tradition of respecting the elderly in China society, you obviously should not hesitate to help the elderly after they fall, but today's reality is that most people choose to turn a blind eye or watch indifferently, which is actually a typical example of a bad world style defeating a good family style; Similarly, the poor quality of China tourists in the scenic spot has become a stain on the image of the Chinese community. In the final analysis, it is because of "unhealthy family style and lax family education".

Modern people often think that "people's hearts are not ancient, but the world is getting worse", but it is obviously difficult to regulate the behavior of social individuals and repair social order and values only by strict laws. In our country with profound Confucian culture, it is a very realistic way to solve the dilemma of trust crisis, moral crisis and belief crisis that plague the whole society, rediscover the value of traditional culture and draw strength from it.

Of course, advocating salvaging the scattered family style of modern society is not simply "restoring" feudal culture, nor can we just adopt empty preaching with cultural relics. The continuation of family education culture and the inheritance of traditional values can be fully integrated into the details of daily life. There is a scene in the public service advertisement of CCTV Spring Festival Evening this year, where the family get together for a reunion dinner, and the father reminds the children to let grandpa move chopsticks first. This reminder is a reaffirmation of family etiquette, and the incorruptible value of family style will certainly contribute to the restoration of the Qingming world style.

"The foundation of the world is in the country, and the foundation of the country is at home." The core of China's value system is family standard, and the changes of people's thoughts and social atmosphere often begin with the changes of family ethics. For this reason, in the process of crossing the "Three Gorges of History", we will eventually return to the reconstruction of family ethics to solve the difficulties of people's hearts. It is necessary for every family in China to cultivate and inherit fine family traditions, and regulate family order and social order with values rooted in traditional culture.