How to treat the sentence that a dutiful son is born under a stick?

It is said that "a dutiful son is born under a stick", which is a word handed down from ancient China. The original intention is that adults should be strict with children, and children can only be successful if they are beaten. This sentence has always been regarded as a mantra for adults to educate their children, but it is actually wrong. This kind of education is irreparable harm to children. "Discipline" is not "stick" violence.

In fact, in the process of parenting, there are only three main ways of interaction between adults and children:

1, severe type (over-controlled)

There are rules but no freedom; Have no choice; "You must do what I want you to do."

2. Spoiled type (not limited)

Freedom but no rules; Unlimited choice; "Do what you want."

3. Positive discipline (authority; Kindness and firmness complement each other)

Every child's personality and growing environment are different, so we should "teach students in accordance with their aptitude" in the education process. The above three methods are not difficult to choose, but how to choose is not a big problem.

If you really want to educate children, it is essential to set an example. Only by beating and cursing can you educate children, so they can't understand where they are wrong, because where they are wrong will cause their rebellious thoughts and run counter to their original intentions. Especially now, as children of 2 1 century, they are very precocious and know little about many things. If they really just establish their parents' prestige and educate their children by beating and cursing, they will hate their parents.