Since ancient times, it has been the words of parents' life matchmakers. Did the ancients have to have a matchmaker to get married?

Now we often see in costume TV series that when the ancients were preparing to get married, they asked the matchmaker to go to the woman's house to ask relatives, exchange birthdays, and then got married after the wedding. Why did the ancients trust matchmakers so much? What role did the matchmaker play in this? Can't you get married without a matchmaker?

During the Western Zhou Dynasty, great attention was paid to etiquette. In order to better manage the marriage system, an official position was specially set up, that is, the marriage of men and women must be managed by the matchmaker, so there was a custom of "no marriage without a matchmaker". Later, after years of evolution, Shi Mei became a matchmaker. Later, the importance of matchmakers was promoted to the same status as parents. According to records, marriages formed through matchmakers and registered in yamen are considered as marriages protected by national laws.

In the feudal society of China for more than 2,000 years, "parents' orders and matchmakers' words" have always been the principle followed by the marriage system. Men and women have no freedom to get married at all. Marriage is entirely the words of parents and matchmakers, and whether men and women can love each other depends on fate and the mouth of the matchmaker. Therefore, the role of matchmakers is still very great. After all, most ancient marriages were arranged by parents, so if men and women can look at each other, they need to use the glib words of the matchmaker.

Moreover, the exchange of information, opinions and needs between men and women is inseparable from the running of the matchmaker. When both parties are satisfied and decide to get married, they will send each other an invitation and choose an auspicious day to get married. Even the man can't get married without the help of the matchmaker. Moreover, with the matchmaker, eight sedan chairs are usually carried to the man's house, which has an aboveboard identity. Without these processes, I went to the man's house and could only be a concubine for life. For ancient women, the matchmaker can decide their fate for the rest of their lives. So when the ancients got married, there must be a matchmaker. Of course, there are some exceptions. They went to the man's house and saved the matchmaker a step.