There are people in rural areas who work as mourners. What is the custom of "weeping in mourning"?

Crying and mourning in rural areas is a new type of occupation that has emerged due to the continuous changes in society. Now it seems that this is a contradictory and unfair custom.

Funeral can be said to be an ancient funeral culture in rural areas. Rather than "crying", it is better to "sing" and cry according to people's current views. In this way, people express their sadness and filial piety. The louder the cry, the more filial they are.

In order to gain the reputation of a "filial son", some people would pay people to cry "mourning", so "mourning" became a profession. In rural life, I saw "mourning" when I was a child. It is difficult to see it now, but there are still some areas. But no matter before or now, in my opinion, making people cry is not a true filial son. What is filial piety? Supporting parents and spending their old age peacefully is filial piety, not the behavior of "being unfilial during life and crying after death".

Instead of spending money to invite people to "condolence" and win the reputation of "filial son" on your face, it is better to use the money to buy some food for your parents while they are still alive, so that they can be known as "filial sons" in your heart. "Filial son" instead of being praised and scolded in front of his parents. And unlike in the past, most of the funerals are now hosted by women, who usually use gongs and drums to accompany them. They also sing while beating the gongs and drums. Many families in rural areas are now rich, and they still pay more attention to holding funerals. It is precisely because of this that the bereavement industry is well fed. Professional mourners use tears, cries and songs to help convey the feelings of the deceased's relatives, and of course they also get money for it.

However, in modern China, where the economy and culture are developing rapidly, this mourning culture in rural areas may not last long. Deliberate "mourning" is not a culture worthy of inheritance and dissemination, but a dross of cultural customs that needs to be eliminated. The memory of the deceased also requires civilization and rationality.