Inheritance of family culture genes

Every child has the shadow of his parents. By observing the child's behavior, we can know what his parents are like. Inheritance is not only the inheritance of physiological genes, but also the inheritance of social culture. For example, the husband of a family is prone to violence against his wife, so his son is also prone to violence against his wife. How parents discipline their children will do the same after they get married and have children. This is the inheritance of family culture, also called intergenerational inheritance, which is imitated by children through social learning observation from an early age.

The theory of social learning or psychological development is called social learning theory, which advocates that children acquire social psychology through observation and imitation, and emphasizes that the main way for children to acquire social behavior is observation learning and vicarious reinforcement.

First, observe learning, and learn by observing other people's behaviors and their results.

Children actively observe people and things around them every day and imitate them. The object of imitation is an example. Children often take their parents, teachers and older children as role models and consciously imitate their attitudes and behaviors.

Second, vicarious reinforcement, if learners see other people's successful and praised behaviors, they will enhance their tendency to produce the same behaviors; If you see a failed or punished behavior, you will weaken or restrain the tendency of this behavior. This shows that children not only learn through their own observation and imitation, but also observe the consequences of other people's behavior. If this consequence is affirmed and praised, he tends to actively learn and imitate this behavior; On the contrary, if the consequences of other people's actions are punished, he will stop imitating. This is the performance of alternative reinforcement.

The mechanism by which children learn social behavior through observation and vicarious reinforcement is the recognition of awesome, that is, children consciously imitate the attitudes and behaviors of role models.

In short, children's speech development, the acquisition of social behavior and the formation of moral and value standards are all obtained through sociology.

From the above theory, we can see that when a child grows up, he learns by imitating his family, teachers and friends. He imitated his parents first, so his parents were his first teachers. If parents are complaining and accusing, children are often accused and complaining from an early age, and will imitate the pattern of complaining and accusing.

If parents have their own cultural concept, this concept will be passed down. For example, when I was a child, I often heard my father say, "Sit still and think about yourself. Don't talk about others. " I learned to reflect. Once there is a problem, I will think about where my mistake is. How to learn lessons in the future? When you are dissatisfied with others, you will naturally try not to speak ill of others behind their backs.

For another example, I usually don't shake my legs when I sit, because my parents often tell me, "Sit and stand." When I was a child, I stood and ate, shaking my body involuntarily, and was slapped by my grandmother. Then I remembered the idea that I couldn't shake my legs when I was sitting and standing.

Once at dinner, my brother used chopsticks to pick up delicious food, but my grandmother stopped him, saying that he could not pick up the dishes on the plate. He only ate what was in front of him and what he caught, so I learned the habit of eating only my own side.

For example, when I meet people, I want to take the initiative to talk to them. When I was a child, my family greeted everyone in the village. When you meet villagers on the road, you don't want to talk to them, you can only smile or address them. This is also learned from my family's actions. It seems impossible not to say hello.

Of course, there are some bad patterns at home. As I went out to study and realized that some patterns were uncivilized, I consciously got rid of them. For example, leftover food should be saved for the next meal. Now with the improvement of living standards, try to eat as little as possible and be more exquisite, and throw away what you can't finish. For example, when I was a child, I spit everywhere, littered, and often spoke uncivilized spoken English, which gradually changed with my study outside. These changes are reflected in the behavior of others when they leave home for society. Of course, sometimes they accidentally reveal clues.

We should always keep a clear head, carry forward the fine traditions, throw away the customs with backward culture when we see them in the family, learn from the civilized habits of others, and make the family's cultural genes better and better.

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