Book Summary of The Good Sheep

1. The purpose of a college education is to provide opportunities for young people to experiment and explore, to discover new perspectives on the world and, in the process, to discover new abilities within themselves, (Discovering Yourself, Achieving Yourself)

2. The most thought-provoking aspect of parenthood is the fact that the parent-child relationship in affluent families is the weakest of any group, and this is true in comparison with that in poor families as well. To borrow Dr. Levine's words: Praise is no substitute for warmth, and ostentatious self-confidence is no substitute for self-sufficiency. (Parent-child relationships have nothing to do with the family's financial situation; what he needs first and foremost is warmth and sincerity. )

3. I read "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother" and then "The Tragedy of the Gifted Child". The former made me re-experience all the traumas of my childhood, and the latter helped me heal my wounds. Both books coincidentally but from completely opposite perspectives re-screened in front of my eyes all the bumps and pitfalls I experienced growing up. Since then, I have felt my heart begin to melt and become lighter. （

4. The missing part of my life: giving myself the opportunity to find happiness and creating my own freedom.

5. In Paradise Lost, Milton's Satan is not a monster as described in the poem, but one of the wisest angels. It was his inflated ambition that led to his fall. He came to the Garden of Eden and destroyed the happiness of Adam and Eve, he looked around and inwardly sprang:

The more I see of my own joy,

on the contrary, the more I feel the torment of my heart,

as if surrounded by abominations;

The good will become the woe,

and in paradise I will be more miserable.

This is the nature of envy - the better things are for others, the worse you feel, because that good situation does not belong to you. Satan expresses this more succinctly in his verse, "I am hell." (The people of the world are united in allowing others to have a better time than you.)

6. "Universities have forgotten that their greater educational responsibility for the growth of college students is to help them find themselves, to help them find their calling. Indeed, universities are no longer able to demonstrate the essence of what their education actually provides."

7. The university's curriculum is simply designed "without a firm long-term goal, much less the ability to define the qualities that an educated person should possess."

8. The development of a "liberal arts education" was initiated, the most famous examples being the "masterpiece programs" at Columbia University and the University of Chicago. The reason why colleges and universities still have specializations today is essentially a struggle between the depth and breadth of the two concepts. This struggle is not only between specialized and non-specialized classifications, but also between categories of majors and their own specializations. In almost any other part of the world, in England or in France, a scholar of chemistry studies only chemistry.

General education is important

9. But essentially they are vocational technical schools because that is the spirit of their teaching. Everything is technology-centered. While the top schools like to make it known that they teach to train students how to think, what they really do is hone their analytical and oratorical skills to set them up for success in the business and professional world.

10 Students who grow up being taught praise derive their self-confidence from perfectionism, so they are not equipped to take criticism. Because they grew up excelling academically, they are known as perfect students and are under a lot of pressure ( So, babies who are all about praise can't really stand criticism. )

11. In top universities, the main business is the exhausting array of extracurricular activities. It turns out that studying is really a byproduct. But it feels like learning is the most important thing, and participation in extracurricular activities has to be something and nothing

12. The low level factor measures the extent to which a person has been involved in something and the quality of the final thing accomplished. This figure is obtained by dividing the 24 hours in a day by the amount of time an individual spends on each academic and extracurricular activity. So, where time is spent, growth occurs

13. The only way the whole system can work is if everyone, including professors, lowers their expectations. It is true that the elite students do work hard, and they have always been smart as a group, but the quality of what they do today may not be maintained to a high standard.

So that's how it is, reading really does help

14. We have to ask: How can someone be so smart, talented, and driven? The answer is they can't be, and they aren't. Franco isn't, and neither is anyone else. Admission to a prestigious school is almost unattainable, but once you're admitted, if you go to class, to a large extent, you can survive.

Turns out it's the same with China, and this book is a really good way to take a peek at elite education in the US

15. However, because SAT scores tend to correlate more with a family's background, colleges are in effect allocating money to students who don't need financial aid while ignoring the families who really need it.

Right, the better the family's financial situation, the greater the likelihood of doing well in school, and now schooling is a form of resource allocation

16. The commercial operation of colleges and universities has led to the practice of schools trying to satisfy the short-term needs of their students at the expense of the long-term interests of the students, which is completely contrary to the original intent of education. I seem to see the shadow of Zhejiang University.

17. According to Socrates, teaching is to help an individual reconnect with his or her true pursuits. Positively

18. Of course, among the students with whom I have crossed paths, there are those who believe that a university education has benefited them, but they would always add, "If you want to go looking for it, the opportunity is there." The implication is that you have to go looking for it and work really hard at it. "Harvard remains one of the best educated institutions in the world," Ross Donat says of his alma mater. But "it doesn't actively educate you, nor does it guide or influence or even challenge you in a very deep way." Mark Edmundson, a professor at the University of Virginia, advises, "To get a real education, you have to game the school, regardless of its popularity. "In fact, the more well-known the school, the harder you have to work to get it.

Universities provide resources, and top universities often provide superior resources, which is the reason for getting into a top university and going to a big company, but the road of life, ah, still need to walk on their own

19. Students reminded me again and again that the education provided by the school could neither help them get closer to their ideals nor guide them in how to pursue them, and they felt abandoned. It should be said that colleges and universities protect this type of student first and foremost, but this type of student often becomes the group that is the least adapted to the current college system.

Why?

20. The former president of Harvard University, James B. Conant, started a campaign in the 1930s to promote meritocracy, adopting a two-pronged strategy: while attracting a small number of exceptionally gifted students to serve as meritocrats, he retained a large proportion of the quota for future businesspeople, i.e., alumni donors. The two are mutually compensating populations. Today the school can kill two birds with one stone: it has carefully planned, screened and cultivated the best of both worlds, the virtuous and the donors. Rich, Virtuous, and Talented

21 I have visited many places over the years where I have sensed a strong hunger in students: they want to understand the larger direction and meaning of life; they want universities to be more concerned with their needs to grow as human beings, and less concerned with the development of competence in specific areas; they want universities to guide them to answer important questions about life; or they want schools to can give students the space and time to think about life's questions and have access to the appropriate vocabulary to communicate and share them, but this is what is missing in today's universities. In the next chapters, we will look at how to satisfy these kinds of hungers.

So ideals are at the top, realities are at the bottom, and ideals are instructive

22. Pursuing what the mission of the university is is nothing less than pursuing the purpose of life, which is the meaning of the existence of society as well as the meaning of the existence of human beings.

23. The responsibility of the university is first and foremost to teach students how to think.

24. Whenever we learn, we first need to "let go".

25. Learning is broad, life is elegant

What is liberal arts education

26. Self-educated people tend to be a little eccentric, a little obtuse and self-absorbed. Being told by two people that I'm not open-minded enough? How do you call that open-minded?

So it is necessary to keep a diary, and each diary is a thought and reflection

27. So the importance of a good university, a good university, what is offered is top notch, and you get to know more about the truth of the world. If you didn't go to a good college, thankfully we can still read

28. What everyone really needs to develop during college is the habit of reflection, that is, having the ability to grow from change.

29 . A true education, like a true religion, feeds us to become distinctive individuals who, when necessary, can be totally indifferent to what others say about you. The goal of such an education must of course go beyond that of a worker who merely contributes GDP to the country or a qualified citizen with a sense of public awareness. Self-awareness is an extremely private space in which you can find your own strength, security, autonomy, creativity and joy.

30. A person is interesting because he reads a lot, gets used to thinking, slows down, engages in deep conversations, and creates a rich inner world for himself.

31. Meanwhile, I happened to visit a friend who was attending architecture school. I found out that she wasn't happy either, and that she wanted to give up because her program was too theoretical and the students were too pretentious. My life-changing moment came that day when we were laughing and joking with two old friends, and when she announced, "I have to leave graduate school," my first reaction was, "I have to go to graduate school. I had to give myself a chance to study English Literature, and I wasn't going to let myself miss it again or I would never be happy. It was incredible how it happened, and even my reaction was a bit irrational at the time, but I can still pinpoint the exact place where that moment happened.

32. If you want to go through the mountains, why fear the waves?

That's super cool

33. Choose to do something spontaneous and pure, as you did when you were a kid; choose to do something you would choose to do even if there were no external rewards; choose to do something you can focus on without sleep or food; and do what you love to do the most, not what you think you like or should like, but what you really love. ? Work, life is like this, choose true love to have no regrets

34 . On top of meeting basic material conditions, a person's happiness comes from having a healthy social circle and engaging in meaningful work

35.Modern society gives individuals the freedom to think and choose, which is both a gift and a burden. Freedom can bring panic and disorientation, so we are more likely to opt out. Yes, but there is still the desire to live life on your own terms, you just need some guidance.

36. Ideals are like religious beliefs, and in my observations, students with religious beliefs have the strongest spiritual autonomy and the least dependence on outside voices.

37.One of the ****ty things she found in these people was that they were more willing to take risks. Like to be their own boss

38. the purpose of college is not to work, but to experience an education

39. skills, making mistakes is the basis of wisdom". Being successful all the time (i.e., never failing) is not a sign of competence, but a sign of vulnerability, because out of fear of failure, the individual tends to pass up opportunities that would have made him what he is.

Samuel Beckett's cautionary tale of the "glory of defeat" refers to personal gain and growth. If we are setting standards that we are truly accountable for, then in trying to meet them, we should experience constant failure. We may be complacent about getting straight A's and perfecting the popular standard, but such success is clearly not comparable to true excellence.

The new solution to making mistakes is, yes, when there is no progress, basically no mistakes. When there is progress, exposure to different things, the chance of making mistakes will be high, but in progress, in real growth

When I was complaining that my parents did not have a lot of discipline, I am now on the road to my own discipline,

40.The American philosopher Ralph Emerson liked to quote the distinguished British military general Oliver Cromwell (Oliver Cromwell). " A man can only reach the top when he doesn't know where his path will reach". Thinking about it from another angle, when you try to reject uncertainty, then you reject the meaning of life.

41. The life and works of Rem Bond have inspired many young dreamers, and his unflappable wisdom has given me a lot of inspiration. Who was Rem Bond?

42.I wonder if the younger crowd is still brave enough to explore the blueprints for reconstructing themselves these days!

43. The principle that it is better to be fully committed to the work itself rather than to work for success became the North Star that stayed with me in the dark of night

44. The reason why more and more people tend to look at higher education in terms of investment and return is because of the increasing cost of investment.

So it is

45 . The children of truly low-income families face much stronger internal conflicts and have much less room for error than others.

46. Living a simple life in general is a freedom in itself because you are more comfortable with simplicity

4 7. Since I was a child, my parents made us understand that work is a means of subsistence, and that a career is a way to do what you love and get paid for it financially. My professional success is based on my parents' work. "

48. The first level of relationship between parents and children should be "friends". It is an extraordinary relationship!

49. Here are a few suggestions on how to improve yourself while attending college. Communicate with your parents no more frequently than once a week, preferably once a month. There is no need to tell your parents anything about your grades on papers or exams, or even anything while you are in school, and at the same time, don't expect to turn to your parents for help. If they wade into the details of your course selection or college life, politely decline. If they don't take your refusal well, then you need to tell them loudly that college is entirely yours, not theirs. New Ideas

50. Sorting through all the questions, I've found that the most common questions are also the hardest to answer, and are generally nothing more than the following, "What should I do?" "What school should I go to?" "What major should I pursue?" "What direction should I go after graduation?" And so on. I can certainly sympathize with the feelings of the questioners, but these are not questions that I or others can answer. The practical advice I can give is the same one we've all heard for a long time: take time to recuperate or slow down, break out of the never-ending pursuit of fame and fortune, get out of the constant state of being managed, explore the world outside of school, and develop the skills you haven't had a chance to acquire.

51. While I regret the amount of time I wasted in college and in the years that followed, I now finally realize that some form of "wasting" and "loafing" is necessary and healthy. Wastefulness is not really wasteful, just as practicality is not practicality, especially when practicality makes you unhappy. Writer Charles Wheelan summarized his observation, "Interesting, successful people tend not to live modestly."

52.Aristotle once said that happiness comes from our ability to excel at what we are good at, which is to say that we each have certain strengths, but only certain. An important part of knowing yourself is knowing what you have; going against your nature can only lead to half the battle. We all come into this world with a golden spoon in our mouth.

53. We have to ask, on what basis did he get his position? Who knows! He kept that secret so strictly that he couldn't get a fly in the ointment. Perhaps he was simply empty inside, which has to be rethought.

The few adjectives used to describe the character, ordinary, mundane, and unusual, do not make an impression. As I read the book for the 15th time, it dawned on me that this character description simply epitomizes the perfection of my former boss, someone who coasted through the bureaucracy and sat flat on her back. She had a mousy look on her face too, but it was more like a big shark.

54. Leadership means responsibility, honor, courage, fortitude, affinity and selflessness.

Instead of working to develop leaders, we should work to develop good citizens and thinkers. Thinkers are a group of individuals who dare to question authority, rather than being bent on becoming an authority,. Don't want to be thinkers, want to be doers.

54. If you're an environmentalist, then boycotts are aimed at other environmentalists; if you're a libertarian, then you're aimed at other libertarians. ****ing with your own group doesn't mean going with the flow ideologically.

55. In any life or work situation, there are always questions you shouldn't ask. As leaders, as thinkers, it is our job to identify and reveal these tough questions. When you question and challenge long-standing *** knowledge, especially the status quo of life that everyone has long taken for granted, you will incur the disgust of all. For your behavior forces everyone to question together, but they have most likely spent a great deal of effort to hide their doubts all along. It does take a lot of courage for you to behave this way.

56. Innovative social entrepreneurship has been around for a long time and is not a unique product of the millennium. Let's look back at all the changes over the past 20 years or so, and observe two areas in particular that are closely tied to society and culture: technology and food. Smartphones, iPads, direct produce markets, and sustainable farming models are all good advances, aren't they? Assuming, of course, that you have the spending power to match. By contrast, let's take a hard look at changes in two other areas: politics and economics. The war in Iraq, the civil solidarity movement, the financial crisis, the growing and deepening problem of social inequality. We seem to prefer to avoid talking about either politics or economics. Contrasting the two, the "creative" crowd is busy developing "toys", but the world is sinking deeper into the abyss.

57. Politics is an ugly, long war.

58. The present service project is a group of middle-class "saviors" who descend on the poor and helpless with all the virtues of self-indulgence

59. The first thing I would suggest is that universities should teach young people to think. The critic Lionel Trilling quotes the title of an article by one of his colleagues - 'Being an Intelligent Person is Moral and Responsible'. The emphasis here is not on the requirement for everyone to have a high IQ, not on natural talent, but on the need for students to learn to use their intelligence and to realize it in an honest and ethical way.

60. It is better to be busy perfecting our resumes than to start perfecting our minds first. Be unique and help the world!

61.Part III What should we really get out of college? Creating the self, recognizing the self, and developing independent thinking skills are believed to be the educational pursuits of every family

62. Another study found that "college graduates generally have significant deficiencies in communication as well as teamwork, and are not able to approach a complex project from multiple perspectives. Only 1 in 4 students have the thinking and writing skills to do their jobs competently". Thinking and writing skills are important

63. The future is dominated by people who can build new industries and create new jobs, not people who serve existing industries.

64.Richard Greenwald mentioned in his book "The Miropreneurial Age" that the qualities that the new human should have include " breadth of learning, interdisciplinary cultural knowledge, information sensitivity, and flexibility in dealing with people ".

65. In addition, "the ability to learn throughout life and an attitude of continuous growth and innovation" are indispensable.

66. The ultimate goal of a Burson-Marsteller education is not pragmatism, but the ability to think beyond space and time and not be limited by the nature of your work. A liberal arts education is concerned with civic rights, the interests of others, and the construction of a healthy, creative, and free self.

67. the importance of books

? "Books are like an axe that cuts a path through our frozen inner ocean." Books are icebreakers for the ice cap of our mind.

68. When we read an article or admire a work of art, the crucial question is not whether I understand it, but whether the article or the work of art strikes a chord in me that ****s with me and thus helps me to know myself better. Linking with myself, the meaning of the zone of nearest development

69. No wonder there are counselors who use literature in counseling therapy. Words have a healing effect

Art downplays self-centeredness, teaches us to be compassionate, and improves our emotional intelligence, so maybe art really does make a better you.

70.On a personal level, knowing your past is how you understand the motivation behind your words. Everyone has a history, which creates a different way of coping and attitude in that person

71. Since the present can be different from the past, the future can also be different from the present. To become a leader, the past is the best place to start.

72. I frankly believe that the greatest progress in the future of the United States will be to enable Asians as well as Latinos to make an impact in different fields

73. We will no longer deliberately distinguish between work on the left and life on the right, between liberal arts on the top and professions on the bottom. They are fused unities that are interpenetrating.

Both the humanities and the professions

74. The reason for the prevalence of inquiry-based learning in American schools, to equip the next generation with the ability to ask questions, express ideas, and innovate. We eschew the filler learning of India, nor do we adopt the German system of early streaming, which divides young children into academic and vocational-technical groups, nor do we emulate the British style of undergraduates studying only a single subject. The United States as a nation has always wanted to produce versatile citizens.

We in China are fill-in-the-blanks

75. So what are we after? Is it the hope that everyone will not be satisfied with the status quo and learn to challenge the existing public **** order as well as the work system? Yes, it is. America is a **** and country, in the original sense of everyone ****ing together to rule the country.

76. The ideal professor that students want is a mentor who challenges the student's abilities and focuses on the student's personal development, with an emphasis on "mentor.

77. The best students have more opportunities to excel at state schools, and therefore develop stronger relationships with their professors. Brian Johnsrud further expressed his views on this:

Just as you are only a grass when you go to Tsinghua, you are a treasure when you go to Zhejiang University

78. The more important question is why you want to go to college and how you will utilize your college education, as opposed to which college you are actually going to. What are some of the factors you consider when planning a list of colleges you want to attend and when visiting campuses. You may be attracted to the luxurious student housing or the first-class gym facilities, but you should be more concerned about the quality of the students and teachers. The best way to get to know a school is to try out a classroom, which most college applicants fail to do.

79. "It's no more noble to try to take everything with your brain than it is to take it with your fists. Yes, there's always going to be a division of labor in this society; some people have to work and some people have to manage, but the managers aren't supposed to take all the benefits."