Gansu Zhangye engagement process and considerations

Engagement is simpler.

Engagement? In ancient times, it was called "Naji". After looking at the family is satisfied, both men and women's families should choose an auspicious day to hold the engagement ceremony, the day is usually selected in the two months and two days. If the man and woman were born in the same genus or one of the birthdays is not good, there are also selected single day.

The man's home to the woman to prepare clothing, carry a certain amount of gift money, two pork "gift side", cigarettes, wine, etc., to bring the pork gift side, the woman's home will be one of the cooked, returned to the man's home, meaning that the marriage has been. The woman's family should also feast guests, creating an atmosphere to friends and relatives to declare the engagement.

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Gansu wedding customs and culture:

One, said the marriage

Basic steps to say the marriage: the man's family through the hand of the matchmaker to obtain the woman's birth date and eight characters. After the woman's birth date and eight characters, Mr. Yin and Yang, if the male and female eight characters are compatible, the marriage is completed.

Then the male side of the matchmaker on the female side of the home to say goodbye, commonly known as "matchmaking". Female parents to get the girl agreed, the male youth choose a day to go to the female home "see daughter-in-law", and female youth to meet the exchange of marriage things.

Some young women will also return to visit the male family, known as "see the house (home)", of course, the male parents are not less than a gift. Some young men and women are free to fall in love with each other for life, and then ask someone to talk to both parents to get approval, you can be officially engaged.

Two, betrothal

Betrothal in Gansu is called "frame lock lock". Introduced from the adjustment, the two sides agreed, and then choose a day to hold the betrothal ceremony, the male father (or agent) and the introducer together with the young man, with a generous gift to go to the woman's home.

Gifts are generally happy wine, happy buns 12 (commonly known as "big buns"), happy money (called "lock lock"), happy silk (cloth), clothing and so on. The woman's family will gather elders and close relatives to accompany, feast hospitality.

Girls accompanied by their sisters and sisters-in-law go to the banquet to make a toast, and the man's parents will tie a red string with coins around the girl's neck, which is known as "tying the daughter-in-law". Legend has it that this tie, the girl tied into the male family.

Lin resignation, the woman's mother to the new son-in-law also have gifts, and returned two steamed buns, known as "back to the plate". Afterwards, the woman will be steamed buns to the next of kin, announced that the marriage was established. There is an important part of the betrothal, is the two sides to discuss the bride price money. Sometimes it will be a battle, but in the good offices of the introducer, will eventually reach an agreement, all happy.

Three, the ceremony

Also known as the "big ceremony". This is a more discreet part of the process, more than half a year before the wedding. The man's family chose an auspicious date for the wedding, the father about the introducer, with all the original bride price, wedding wine and wedding buns and trousseau clothing to go to the woman's home.

The woman's family is inevitably set up hospitality, please elders accompany. The time and procedure for the marriage was agreed upon during the meeting. Both sides of the children's family toast to each other, apologize to each other, say some good luck, all happy words.

Four, mention words

According to traditional practice, the man's family is the initiative of the marriage party, his parents should choose to marry the auspicious day, and the matchmaker to notify the other side, ready to marry.

This is known as the "mention" or "send day". The mention of words generally in the month before the auspicious day, called "every other month not mention words", such as in this month, at least ten days in advance.

V. Marriage

Commonly known as the "introduction of the new daughter-in-law". Auspicious day is approaching, the male party to organize the courtyard, wash the doors and windows, the word framing, decorate the new room, notify friends and relatives. Nearly two or three days, the man's family killed pigs and slaughtered sheep, supplies and goods, to receive relatives, please "chief", hired cooks, invited guests, please room under the (relatives), paste the wedding ......

Busy is not too busy.

The day before the auspicious day, receive the "ancestors", please "genealogy", offerings, incense and worship. On the morning of the auspicious day, the wine and meal, and send the bridegroom on his way. The welcome is usually 3 to 5 people, including the introduction of the bride, the matchmaker, back box people.

Bring happy wine, happy buns, happy clothes cover, windbreaker cloak and happy money ("open box money", "companion money", wedding invitation, etc.). According to the chosen auspicious time to the woman's home.

Relatives of the woman's family, relatives (the family), the day before the wedding, to the woman's home **** business. Determine the candidates to send relatives, generally eight or ten people, can be more or less, must be an even number. Generally speaking, "with the phase" and "avoid the phase". Friends and relatives and unmarried girls in the village, the day before with gifts or gifts of money to the woman's home "add box" (congratulations).

After the marriage, simply eat and drink a little, and then go to the boudoir first bet the pressure box money, and then put the cover on the bride's head, commonly known as "stop head". At this time the back box people first return. Bride dressed, carrying a red book (i.e., "wedding book"), in front of the ancestors burn incense to ancestors, and then kowtow to your relatives. A brother and sister guide out the door, and marrying people together to start.

When the bride went out, the female family will be a red chopsticks scattered in the marriage, a pair of hands, while the male family will be "accompanied by women's money" scattered to the female family seven aunts and eight aunts. At this time the girl early cried into tears. It is said that when a girl leaves her mother's home, the more teardrops she sheds, the better, and every tear is a "golden bean" left for her mother's home.

While it is a happy event when a woman gets married, it is not possible to sound the cannon. In the old days, if the wedding party encountered milling platform, threshing floor, large trees, cellar wells cliffs, the intersection will be posted a book with a "red cover of the red paper," the red paper, called "road post", or red felt cover, called "cover the white tiger".

Sixth, pick up the new man

Waiting for the marriage procession, everyone will be at the intersection, the marriage procession will soon travel to the male home near the notification of the special responsible for watching the "chief tube", "chief tube" yells the crowd in front of the gate waiting for the welcome of the "honored guests! The "chief" yells for the people to wait in front of the gate to welcome the "honored guest" (the person who sends the bride), and the honored guest will be arranged to enter the courtyard first.

This time, the young people on the wedding car embraced, there are flowers, spray foam ribbon, of course, there is an important link here, is the bride off to accompany the "horse doll" to "dismounted money", the bride can get off! In this need to pay attention to, in some places in Gansu, generally the bride can not land, need to be held by the groom to the new room.

Honored guests into the courtyard, they greeted each other bowing into the room; there are also in front of the gate set up a wine case, set up a few simple dishes (called dismounted seat) to welcome guests. Then by the "chief official" pouring wine one by one to honor each person three cups, said "wind cup", and then welcome to the guest room in front of the ancestral tablets kowtow and incense to lift the gift.

After the ceremony, invited into the seat, "chief official" commanded the crowd of the seat, first tea and then rice, tea to gargle, rice is generally "four chokes plate". After the meal by the pre-arranged neighbors please go to rest "soup" (eat noodles), to the evening and invited to another set of hospitality, called "move seat".

Gansu custom is very generous treatment of honored guests, banquets have "thirteen flowers", "twelve Qi" ten full "and" nine kui "and so on, and to the first relatives and friends to sit with. During the groom's father, brothers and sisters take turns to toast, greetings.

On the day of the wedding, with the status of the honored guests are equally honored guests of honor is the aunt uncle (bridegroom's mother's mother's family), the reception and rituals are basically similar to the honored guests.

After the wedding, each of the neighbors received a person to arrange for the night to sleep. The next day, the family still set up a table, in turn, "send off" honored guests and uncle, then the man will send a pair of shoes to the "introducer" to show appreciation.

Seven, bed, the bridal chamber

evening, began to bed, there are men and women who are happy to see people (folk called "Dai head man") for the bride and groom "for the cup", that is, to find the red line feet, tied to the ends of a coin, placed in two cups full of wine, the bride and groom, the bride each end of the cup, drink half of the drink, and then drink from each other, because of the The "thousand miles of marriage" said a line.

Then the female leader began to make the bed for the groom, the bride, took out the walnuts already prepared jujube mouth singing auspicious words: "a handful of walnuts a handful of jujube, raised under the dolls running all over the bed ......." Finally, "sweeping the bed", while sweeping and playing with words. During the period of time, of course, there is no shortage of onlookers to make fun of the strange, asked the two couples to do some embarrassing games, so-called "cave-in".

In fact, the new room has already begun, the new daughter-in-law during the day to take into the door, there are women to interrogate the bride to test whether the well-behaved and clever, there are restless boys to tease and molest the newcomers to ask them to light cigarettes and toast, the new room all day long are laughing and noisy, bustling with excitement.

After the bed, closed the doors and windows, the new room lit a lamp, which is to be ordered until dawn. At this time there are good people of the same generation, lurking outside the cave to listen to the whispering of the two couples, called "listen to the room".

The old custom is that people do not listen to the ghosts listen, so if no one listens to a broomstick to scare the ghosts. This custom from ancient times to the present, just for laughs.

Eight, to be pro-room (relatives)

The next day to send the honored guests, aunts and uncles and relatives should be arranged by the proprietor of the sequential seating, sometimes dozens of tables. The groom's father (who can also be replaced by other elders) "pours" the wine for all the townspeople.

The bride and groom were accompanied by a man, one by one, to go to knock thanks to recognize their relatives, the bride's mouth sweetly called a variety of the name of the call to offer cigarettes and wine, of course, the caller is not to give the new daughter-in-law's red packet. The whole wedding ended in this lively atmosphere.

Nine, back to the door

Back to the door is an essential part of Gansu wedding customs. Three to seven days after the wedding, the groom should prepare gifts, lead the new daughter-in-law back to her mother's home, the same day to go the same day back, can not stay in the mother's home.

When you go back in the first month of the Chinese New Year, you can stay a few more days, and all the relatives of your husband's family have to go through the process, called "wave relatives".

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