I would like to ask, what is the etiquette between men and women in ancient times?

China since ancient times has paid considerable attention to the norms of etiquette, in the life event of marriage there are many more must pay attention to the wedding etiquette.

Ask for the name, the second of the six rites. That is, the man sent a matchmaker to the woman's home to ask the woman's name, the eight characters of the birth date. After retrieving the gung sticker, divination and auspicious eight characters. Rites of Passage? Shihwangli": "The guest carries a wild goose and asks for the name; the master allows it, and the guest comes in to give it." Zheng Xuan's note: "The one who asks for the name will return to divine its fortune or misfortune." Jia Gongyan: "The one who asks for the name asks for the woman's surname."

The third of the six rites of passage. The third of the six rites of Naji. It is the rite in which the man asks for the name, combines the eight characters, informs the woman of the auspicious omen of the marriage, and sends her a gift to indicate that she wants to be betrothed. In ancient times, Naji also need to carry out the gift of the goose. Zheng Xuan note: "return to the temple, divination, get auspicious omen, and then make messengers to tell, the marriage is then finalized." Song Dynasty, the folk more in the form of joint marriage divining auspicious marriage. To the Ming Dynasty, to the medium of the book, the marriage instead of the joint marriage. Qing Dynasty, Naji a meter has been integrated into the process of asking the name and marriage. In the Republic of China, there is no Naji instrument, only a simple Divination Xi Yi, more than the female Geng sticker placed in front of the God of the stove, such as three days without the occurrence of unusual events, it is considered to be smooth, then take the male and female Geng sticker to the marriage.

Na levy is also known as Na Cheng, Na Coin. The fourth of the six rites. It is the man who sends the bride price to the woman. The "Fainting" Kong Yingda: "Na levy, the bride price is also. Levy, also known as "completion". The bride price is paid first, and then the marriage is consummated." The man is in the Naji know that the woman is allowed to marry before the feasibility of nazheng rite, nazheng rite without geese, is the only six rites without geese rites, can be seen in the ancients of righteousness rites of distinction. The generations of gifts have customized, folk jewelry, fine silk and other items for female line recruitment, known as the money, after the evolution of the wealth gift.

Please period, also known as the period, commonly known as the selection of the day. Six rites of passage in the fifth rite. It is the male family sent to the female family to notify the date of marriage. Shifengli": "please period with geese, the host resigned, the guests allow to tell the period, such as Na levies." Invitation ceremony has been the same throughout the generations, that is, the male family sent into the female family to invite the period, send gifts, and then make a speech, explaining the date of marriage, the female father said acceptance, and finally the messenger to return to resume orders. To the Qing Dynasty, the invitation period is more known as communication, that is, the male family with red paper, will be over the ceremony day, the day of marriage and other related matters written by the matchmaker or personally sent to the female family, and with the female family to discuss the wedding matters.

Personal welcome, also known as welcoming. The sixth of the six rites. It is the ritual for the groom to welcome the bride home. Daya? Da Ming": "Dabang has a son, the sister of the sky, the woman decided to Quexiang, personally welcome in Wei." The ceremony began in the Zhou Dynasty, when the queen was married, she was also welcomed in the Weishui River. This ritual has been inherited through the generations, for the beginning of the wedding. Welcome ceremony in a variety of forms. To the Qing Dynasty, the groom personally welcome, wearing red with flowers, or by horse, or sedan chair to the woman's home, the bridesmaid Zanxian worship his parents-in-law and relatives. Yue's family for the addition of double flowers in red for the delivery of the text, the Royal Wheel three weeks, the first to return. Bride by her brother and other brocade coverlet wrapped to the sedan chair. Sedan chair up, the female relatives of several people accompanied, said "send the bride", the groom at home to meet Hou.

Di Yan ceremony from the Zhou Dynasty to the end of the Qing Dynasty, in accordance with the six rites of marriage, in addition to Na Zheng (hired) gift, the remaining five gifts are required to the male messenger to carry the goose as a gift to send with the female family. Because the geese are birds, with climate change north-south migration and timing, and the spouse is fixed, a death, the other no longer choose a spouse. Ancient people believe that the geese south to north to go along with the yin and yang, the spouse fixed in line with the righteousness of the gift, the marriage to geese as a gift, symbolizing a pair of men and women of the yin and yang and smooth, but also a symbol of the marriage of fidelity and chastity. Later, because the geese are more and more difficult to get, people will change to use the wood carving of the geese instead, to the modern times, change to use geese, ducks, chickens, three kinds of live birds instead of laying geese ceremony, in order to set the marriage of the harmony. The ceremony of using geese was also adopted in Korea and other countries.

Negotiation of marriage is also known as negotiation of marriage. It is the initial stage of the marriage negotiation, i.e., the three stages of the six rites of passage, namely, Nacai, asking for the name, and Naji. Starting with the man sending someone to the woman's home to propose marriage, it goes through the procedures of exchanging invitations, divining the auspiciousness, marrying together, and meeting each other, and ends with the betrothal. Liaozhai Zhiyi? Frog God": "Although the reason but the, but also did not dare to discuss the marriage of other names."

The first of the six rites of passage, nacai, is to ask for marriage. In the Yuan Dynasty, Wang Ye's "The Order of Folding Gui? Answer": "One will ask for a hundred and ten cites of river tea, and the other will ask for marriage in dozens of verses."

Harmonization of marriage is also known as the combination of eight, the ancient name of divination. It is understood that the marriage is one of the procedures in the name-asking ceremony. At the beginning of the two sides of the marriage, after the opening of the eight characters, the examination of both men and women and the name and birth date of the eight characters. In the ancient times, each party would do the divination by themselves, ask the ghosts and gods, and tell the family temple. In recent times, it is to ask Mr. Yin and Yang divination of men and women whether the fate of the match, the match is marriage, the match is not marriage, the two sides of the birth of the eight characters to be returned.

Pressing geng, also known as press post. Is a content of the six rituals of Naji. After the two sides of the eight-character post, the male family with a gift box mounted on the geng post, on the pressure of the hairpin and wish to send to the female family. Also, the other side of the eight post pressure in the family temple or ancestors under the tablets or offerings under the incense burner, intended to ask the ancestors to identify, such as within three days of peace at home, marriage is feasible, also known as the pressure of the geng.

Matchmaking is also known as the phase portal, to see. That is, in the marriage stage after the exchange of gung post, by the matchmaker contact arrangements, the two sides of the long pro face to face to discuss the marriage. The matchmaking ceremony has been similar throughout the ages. In the old days, men and women did not see each other, but by the parents of the long relatives arranged.

Betrothal is the ceremony of the marriage contract. Through this ceremony, it is said that the marriage between the two parties is officially fixed. In ancient times, the man took the goose as a gift to go to the woman's home to agree on the marriage, and the goose became a token of marriage. In recent times, more ornaments, clothing, food as a gift, sent to the woman's home, after the gift, the marriage contract is complete. Forms of engagement for the wedding book and financial gifts. Feudal society, betrothal is a mandatory procedure for marriage, both sides shall not regret. After the founding of New China, betrothal is no longer a legal procedure, as long as the man and woman out of their own free will, in line with the conditions of the Marriage Law, but also for registration.

It is understood to taste the soup offering flowers is engaged, the male parent to go to the female family, and the female parent together with the incense burning prayer blessing. After the ceremony, the female family feast. The first taste of soup on the table, on the soup four bowls, bowls on the mouth of the red line for the cross, line drop copper, to show the beginning of the marriage. Tasted soup, on the plate loaded with four pig's feet, each inserted on the red flowers, a knife in the plate, the knife handle wrapped in red silk, this is called offering flowers, including the conclusion of the marriage contract. After tasting the soup and flowers, the engagement is officially completed.

Negotiation of hire is a man and a woman agreed to marry, by the matchmaker to and from the negotiation of the male family bride price and the female family dowry type, the number of procedures. It is generally based on the family status and property of the two parties and the character of the man and the woman who are to be married, and is clearly marked by the traces of a sale of marriage.

The next insertion is a ceremony dedicated to the sending of marriage tokens of agreement. The man's family proposes to the woman's family to get engaged, and sends the woman's jewelry to the woman's family as a token of the marriage contract. Rulin's Lay History, 27th time: "But I explained that his family has no in-laws, so don't ask Mrs. Bao to come to the ceremony on her own."

The next wealth gift is also known as the next color gift, the next wealth, the next gift, the next gift, the past gift, the past color gift, put the fixed, the next fixed, the line of the big plate, the line of the hiring, the line of the hiring gift and so on. According to Guangzhou etiquette to understand the next wealth gift that is the completion of the marriage before the male family to the female family to send wealth gift. The quality of the number of gifts, different places, mainly depending on the wealth of the family. The Southern Song Dynasty? Wu Zimu "Meng Liang record? Marriage": "and on the bride price, the rich and noble family should be prepared to send three gold, the gold bracelet, gold, gold cape pendant is also. If the pavement house, or no gold, silver-plated instead. Otherwise, the rich and poor are different, also from their own convenience, there is no fixed ear." Under the wealth gift that is in accordance with the system of etiquette, but also to obtain the consent of the female party, the essence is to send and to be combined. Before hiring, the first by the matchmaker to execute the bride price post (gift list) and the female family to discuss, often both sides of the number of quality more controversial, need to discuss a number of times before being able to settle. When hired, the male family prepared gift book, placed on a red lacquer wooden plate, lined up hand-held shoulder gifts, accompanied by drums and music sent to the woman's home, the woman's family to assist in the gift will be set up for the woman's family, friends and neighbors to see the eye. The woman accepts the gift, and the marriage contract is formally established.

Back to the plate is also known as back to the gift, back to the love, answer back. Before the marriage, the male line bride price, the female received, depending on the circumstances to a certain gift. The Southern Song Dynasty. Wu Zimu "dream beam record? Marriage": "The male choose a day to hire, (female) also to gifts back." Because of the return gift with a plate, so called back to the plate.

Liangchen is also known as the auspicious day. It is understood that the auspicious day is selected for marriage. To be calculated according to the ecliptic or by Mr. Yin Yang selection, or according to the imperial calendar and selection. Li Shangyin's "The Flowing Warbler" (流莺), written in the Tang Dynasty, says: "The song can't have no original intention, and the auspicious day may not have a good date." The Water Margin: "Today is a good day to be married to Wang Ying." Most of the choice of the good day focuses on the day, season and month for good luck.

Following the gift is also known as with the share, make up the share. It is understood that before the marriage of a man and a woman, friends and relatives contribute money according to the agreed amount, and after the concentration of the congratulatory gift, delivered to the man and the woman who will be married. In the old days, the gift was limited to the male family's friends and relatives, modern female family's friends and relatives also from this custom.

Tim box is also known as tim room. It is understood that add box is received after the male family invitation period, the female family will marry the girl's auspicious date written into the wedding sticker, sent to the home of the friends and relatives, who received the sticker of friends and relatives, are generally money for the gift sent to the female family congratulations. Tim box and add makeup is different from the money and goods will not be given directly to the bride, but to the female family, is a ritual interaction between the family.