The rituals and procedures between dating and marriage are how to carry out?

Prior to the founding of the country, men and women married by "parents' orders, matchmakers' words", pay attention to the "family", as for men and women do not have their own autonomy, free love is regarded as "treachery"! The free love is regarded as "treasonable". Normal marriage customs, generally through the matchmaking, betrothal, send wedding invitations, congratulations, welcome the bride, live days and other processes. Matchmaking men to 15 or 16 years old or even 12 or 13 years old, that is, by the parents of the central media to seek marriage, but also in the age of the child that is betrothed, commonly known as "doll marriage". If the woman hired the media to the male side of the marriage, the name is "inverted matchmaking", such as the female side of the male side of the requirements of high conditions, used to be called "climbing relatives". Parents on both sides of the party's appearance, character and family property after listening to understand that the basic can be, that is, to "allow marriage". When the marriage must be allowed to male family first, after the female party to allow, after the mutual agreement to marry that is entrusted to the matchmaker for "small Kai" (commonly known as for small words), set forth the phases of the year Geng and the birth date and month. Both central people (mostly fortune-tellers) "combined eight characters, no clash and do not like the prescription can be married. And then choose another auspicious day to exchange formal marriage contract, called "Daqi". There are also to the man's home to see in person, called "matchmaking", if the match is not successful, then do not eat the man's meal to leave. The age of intermarriage between men and women to the female big for the noble, commonly said "female big one, wearing gold clothes", "female big three, holding gold bricks", "female big five, race old mother".

The betrothal is often called "pass the invitation" or "change the post". The male family wrote a good invitation (i.e., betrothal book) with the bride price sent to the female family, the female family back to the invitation, as the basis for betrothal. After the exchange of invitations, friends and neighbors to send money to congratulate the male family to prepare a banquet to thank the matchmaker and friends and relatives.

The wedding invitation is also called "send life post". Men and women to the age of marriage (generally women over 18 years old, men as small as twelve or thirteen years old, as large as twenty-something years old), the man according to the woman's fate, please choose an auspicious date (commonly known as "choose the day", "look at the day"), and will be informed of the auspicious date of the female side, the female side, if you agree, will be Choose an auspicious day and hour, officially send a wedding invitation to the woman. Post written on the date of welcoming the bride, the bride's crown, sitting tent, open face, combing, up and down the direction of the sedan chair and taboos and other matters. The woman's home according to their own economic conditions, the purchase of bedding, clothing, jewelry, furniture and other dowries, do wedding preparations.

Hershey before the wedding, the man.... Friends and neighbors are prepared gifts to congratulate. Called "Hexi". To the woman to be married to send gifts, called "fill box" or "add box". The day before the wedding, the man prepared to celebrate.

Welcome to the wedding is commonly known as "do happy things". The day before the wedding, the woman will be dowry sent to the male family. The male party post happy couplets, hanging scrolls, laying the bed, fill the pillow ready to marry. In the evening, the bridegroom gives a "salute" to his close relatives and elders. On the day of the wedding, according to the established time, the male party arranged ceremonies, drummers played music, with a sedan chair (the poorer with a car) to the woman's home to meet the wedding. Marriage has a "big marriage" and "small marriage" points. A sedan chair for a small marriage, that is, the preparation of a sedan chair will be a ride to carry the bride, known as "not meet the bride"; big marriage with two sedan chairs, the groom by the official sedan chair to meet the bride, another sedan chair for the bride to be prepared to go by the youngest child to ride, commonly known as the "sedan chair children"; sedan chair should also be placed in a large red Rooster, back when the female pressure back to a hen. Regardless of the big or small marriage, the custom is more or less the same. Married women open face, on the head after the start of little food and drink, sitting on the bed to be married to the "confinement" of life. The man to the woman's home to meet the bride must bring a red jacket, red felt, red head scarf, and so on.

On this day, the bride woke up early to dress up, masked head red, drummers played joyful music, the groom accompanied by female guests in the send, to pay tribute to the parents-in-law, routinely "thank you" and other rituals, and then the groom on the sedan chair, the bride by their own loved ones with a chair to carry into the sedan chair, commonly known as "hair sedan chair! ", "Sedan Chair", guests in the car along. The bride will rise sedan chair when leaving home tears and sobs, to show attachment. On the road, the big red gauze lamps open road, pianos and suona play, car and horse sedan chairmen before and after the cluster, sedan chair face four closed, the bride shall not be in contact with the outside world, if the passers-by meet, that is, to avoid giving way. Came to the head of the male family village and the door, firecrackers, and according to the specified time and direction of the sedan chair. That is, someone lit a bunch of grass around the bride by the sedan chair for a week, known as the "prairie sedan chair", legend has it that can drive away the evil and ominous. In the drums and the sound of firecrackers, by marrying women and accompanying women to help drive the bride into the gate, feet on the red felt (said inverted felt), to the courtyard set up in front of the incense, and the groom and stood, and perform the ritual of worship of heaven and earth, after the ceremony, the bride into the bridal chamber. In some places into the bridal chamber, the male elders in the courtyard scattered jujubes, chestnuts, peanuts (some places sewed in the corner of the quilt or loaded into the pillow), but also to take the harmonic "as early as possible to get a son, and men and women with the birth of a flower," the meaning of. Bridal chamber candles high light, the groom uncovered the bride's masked red, with eating "broad-minded face", *** drink "cup wine", and routinely fill the pillow and other ceremonies, the bride began to "sit on the tent", also known as "sitting on the bed", more than one day. On this day, regardless of the size of the generation, the good people make a big mess in the bridal chamber, until late at night. After the newlyweds fell asleep, there are young men and women under the window "listening room" (listen to whispers) of the old custom. On the wedding day, the male family lights and colors, post red couplets, kill pigs and sheep, feasts and hospitality to friends and relatives. The territory also has the custom of marriage. That is, at the same time the same village, if there are a number of marriage, it is believed that who grabbed the front of who is lucky. Therefore, the time to marry more before dawn.

Live days, will be the third day of marriage, the bride back to the bride's home to live for two days, said "live on the day", or the woman's family post to pick up the girl son-in-law please. The bridegroom, the bride both went to the house, this is called "back to the door" or "recognize" (commonly known as "pick up three days"). The woman's family hosted a banquet for her son-in-law, commonly known as "son-in-law". After three days, the bride meets her in-laws and the elders of her immediate family, and makes offerings at the ancestral shrine or goes to her ancestors' graves to pay her respects, and then cooks in the kitchen. To the sixth day, the man's family to set up a banquet "will be in-laws", while banquets to friends and relatives. Liaocheng area in addition to three days back to the door, the bride's family will have to pick up 6 days, 9 days, 12 days, etc.; at the same time, there is also "live on the month" custom, that is, one month after the wedding, the bride's family to take the bride to go back to live a few days, and then sent back to the in-laws. This custom still exists today. At this point, the entire wedding program is over. Such elaborate etiquette, poor people are difficult to talk about, very poor people are accompanied by the elderly bride holding a small package to the male family that is the end of the marriage.

Before the founding of the State Council, the phenomenon of early marriage between men and women in the territory is more common. Wealthy families have more than a teenager or even eight or nine years of age that is married to marry, women's marriage age of 14 or 15 to 17 or 18 years of age, some "child brides" 12 or 13 years of age that was forced to "round room" to be married. In addition, men can be polygamous, in addition to the "main match", the other are called "concubines". After the death of unmarried young men and women, some people will be arranged by the bones and buried in one place, with the "underground marriage", also known as the "knot ghost relatives", or called "yin relatives". Poor people can not afford to take a wife, there are also into the female family into marriage, commonly known as "inverted door", or "old age son-in-law". There are also robbed marriage (mostly widows remarried), marriage of close relatives and other bad customs, after the founding of the country were eliminated.

There are more taboos on marrying a woman, such as doing the wedding dress taboo with widows and children incomplete, widows do not send the female grandmother, aunts do not marry the bride, aunts, sisters-in-law do not send to marry, the proverb: "Aunt does not marry, aunt does not send, sister-in-law sent bare buttocks".

After the founding of the People's Republic of China, the People's Government vigorously advocated free love and new wedding, red tape and etiquette were removed. The number of people in urban and rural areas who fell in love freely increased, but most of them still need a matchmaker. Both sides believe that suitable, that is, to arrange to meet, if mutual interest, the two sides to exchange handkerchiefs or pens and so on, this is called "for handkerchiefs" or "small meet", and then agreed on the date of engagement and ceremony. On the engagement day, the man carries heavy gold and gifts to the woman's home, and the woman's home hosts a banquet for the guests, which is the "betrothal". After the woman agreed, choose a day to the male family, said "recognize home", the male elders to "meet the gift". Many people take this opportunity to take pictures of their betrothal, and some still change their invitations. When they reach the age specified by the state, both men and women go to the government to register for a marriage license. Most people do not consider a wedding to be a marriage, so there are many other weddings. Weddings are much simpler than in the past, and the bride is usually picked up by her mother-in-law's family in a vehicle, or sent by her mother's family. On the wedding day, the man's family decorated with lanterns, firecrackers, feasts. The custom of haunting the room is still. Young people in cities and towns to hold a collective wedding or travel to get married as a fashionable, simple and civilized, more and more prosperous. However, the old concept of the family is still y rooted, there are still love is not free, asking for a bride price, disguised as the sale of marriage, arranged marriages and early marriages and other phenomena.

Where the marriage, the man's friends and relatives in the neighborhood more congratulations. To the thick friends and relatives to congratulate the thicker, generally more to send the hanging scroll. Hanging scrolls are generally fabrics, but also silk, wool, quilts, blankets, etc., but also to send crafts and decorations, and practical to send cooking utensils, tea utensils and other household items. Neighborhood general relationship with more "share" congratulations (mostly cash), how much each share varies. Cash wrapped in red paper, commonly known as "red envelope". The host family invited the gift givers to the banquet. In recent years, the wind of the banquet is becoming more and more prevalent, the specifications are getting higher and higher. Before the woman got married, friends and relatives sent some clothes, fashion and other items to show congratulations, but also have the intention to help.

The following is now Liaocheng marriage specific details, for your reference:

Shandong Liaocheng Guanxian rural marriage customs (details)

To participate in a wedding, is the Liaocheng Guanxian side, quite lively. The process of writing down, with everyone with the fun!

The bride and groom were introduced by the matchmaker, (now most of the countryside is also free love, the introduction of less and less.)

The bride and groom were introduced by a matchmaker,

(nowadays, most of them are free love, the introduction is less and less.

Some time before the wedding, the woman's family prepared the dowry, and so on the day of the wedding the woman brought into the man's home. And the man is ready: a new house, plus beds and other supplies. A few days before the wedding, the bride has to find her bridesmaids and makeup and hair dressers. Bridesmaids are usually their own yard (direct or collateral relatives).

The morning of the wedding day, the groom's family first car to the bride's home to pull the dowry (this trip the groom does not come), such as pulling away after the dowry. The groom and a team of people came to the bride's home, into the bride's home, to hand to the bride to take the wedding flowers, the woman should be prepared to give them to do the happy face. Then the groom and the woman's family photo. Winter bride to wear is usually inside a red suit, outside the wedding dress, wedding dress outside the two red satin (there is also a drape) the bride to leave the bride's home, sad crying, do not want to leave. The bride to get on the car, to change a pair of new shoes and then get on the car. Then she goes all the way back to the groom's house. Remember that the way back and the way you came must not be the same, do not go back. The bride to bring with her: copper mirror and candy, halfway, the bride to turn the mirror to the front, is to ward off evil spirits.

To the bride's home, the groom took the bride from the car to the yard, the yard has a lot of men in the yard, in the yard on the top of the two chairs, is to let the groom's parents sit. In the courtyard, they held the rituals of bowing to heaven and earth, bowing to parents, and bowing to each other as husband and wife. In the middle of the ceremony, there were a lot of people messing with the bride and groom, asking them to hug each other, and people running over to push them together. The more people make a fuss, the more prosperous it becomes, and if no one makes a fuss, it doesn't look good. Then let the bride into the east or west house to eat happy noodles, the bride ate can not swallow, have to spit behind the door, do not know how.

Then the bride into the wedding room, the people inside the door closed, do not let in, to the bride and groom out of the problem, so that the bridegroom to the bride to hold up, I should say that is lifted up, so that the people inside to see the end. Into the wedding room, and a lot of noise. Haunted for a while, the bride to everyone kowtow, in fact, not really kowtow, the main old lady shouting the names of people, and finally a bow on the line. After kowtowing, friends and relatives began to take the "head money". After they are taken, let the groom's mother face to face counting, and finally by her money to make up a whole number, to the bride to receive. After all this, dinner is served. The groom's family hires their own chef and cooks it at their house. Every village has such cooks, and they're very good. During the meal, the groom and a few others make a toast, but the groom doesn't drink. Then there is a gathering of the parents of both sides, at the time of meeting, set out good food and tea, but no one can move, only to see, this is customary, do not know what the reason.

Then the bride went home with her parents, waiting for the groom to pick up at night. Picked up back, can be into the bridal chamber stage, but I did not participate, did not see the night of the lively. Busy day passed, and then the next is every day there are men in the yard to invite the bride to dinner, recognize the door. The above is my online information for you, I hope to help you

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