The disadvantages of grandparent intergenerational parenting are

There are five disadvantages of grandparenting,

1, old-fashioned ideas

Many grandparents have outdated education concepts and lack a correct understanding of the characteristics of the child's psychological development, which may limit the child's various exploratory activities. Coupled with the fact that many elderly people have aging knowledge and relatively rigid ideas, they see things in a rigid way and are prone to stick to the dustbin and adopt an overly traditional approach to educating their children.

Their backward education mode will affect the speed of the child's acceptance of new knowledge, resulting in the child's lack of creative thinking and sense of divergent thinking.

2, easy to ignore the child's growth needs

Grandparents are either afraid of the child fell, touched, or afraid of the child in the process of play injury, the idea is more conservative. They think that as long as the child is not bumped or touched, it's fine. They don't understand the child's nature of loving to play and move, and they don't understand the characteristics of the child's age and physiology, which hinders the child's normal movement and development.

3, easy to form a child spoiled

Most of the grandparents in the young, due to the living and working conditions of the limitations of the children may not have been well cared for, they are very easy to produce a compensation for the psychological, to the children of the love of the children as well as the love of the grandchildren are all concentrated in the grandchildren, too much attention to the task, so that everything to do on behalf of the child, everywhere, to accommodate the child, resulting in the child to appear to be the most important. The children's ability to take care of themselves and their children's needs is also a problem.

4. It has a great impact on the development of the child's personality

The intergenerational raising method may lead to the child's psychological mutation, and produce some psychological problems, such as psychological aging, social phobia, personality weirdness, and psychological vulnerability.

5, easy to cause children and parents of the emotional gap

Children long-term separation from their parents, the lack of due communication and exchange, space and time distance will also make the psychological distance between them further and further away.

Dos and don'ts of educating children:

1. Set an example. Role modeling is an important way to influence and educate children with the good thoughts and behaviors of others. Therefore, parents should always and everywhere check their words and behavior in daily life.

2, environmental inculcation. Parents should consciously create a good living environment, so that children are infected and inculcated. The family is the main place where children live, parents should organize life, deal with the relationship between the members, adhere to the correct moral behavior as the norm, the formation of unity and harmony of the family atmosphere, the establishment of a well-organized order of life, in order to cultivate the children's good feelings.

3. Criticize and punish. Criticism and punishment are the negation of the children's bad thoughts and behavior. Criticism and punishment, first of all, a comprehensive understanding of the situation, to grasp the specific circumstances and severity of bad thinking behavior, from the actual start of the error, criticism is to point out the harm, the root cause of thinking, the negation of its thinking and behavior, so that the shame and pain, and then produce the motivation to correct the error.

4, guidance to arrange the order of life. A good living order is an effective way to cultivate good habits in children. Guidance for children to arrange living arrangements, set up a good living environment, teach children to learn to arrange and use of time, so that it is organized. To let the children arrange themselves, parents can be on the sidelines to point out.

5, persuasion education. Convince the specific practice of education: one is to talk, parents according to the children's ideological reality, the facts, reasoning, so that children understand a certain reasoning, the conversation should be targeted, flexibility, attitude and gas, do not board face, condescending reprimand, sarcasm.

The second is the discussion, parents and children *** with the discussion. Discussions should respect the child, patiently listen to its views, there are incorrect views, but also to patiently reason, so that children know right from wrong. Parents should have the courage to admit that their views are not correct.