How to strengthen personal cultivation

The temperament cultivation is accumulated by the inner quality to a certain degree from the inside out very naturally show, improve it is not a day or two can do.

1. From the grooming: dress in line with their age, figure, personality, in line with the various occasions; walking back straight, girls do not speed too fast, twisted. Don't eat, don't swallow, don't make 'slurping, or blah blah blah' sound like no tutelage never seen the world never ate;

2. and people talk: eyes squarely around the other person's nose; don't dance, don't be aggressive; smile, keep a certain distance; tone of voice and kind, sincere;

3. Increase a variety of hobbies and interests: ensure that there are two, three kinds of interest in the study of slightly deeper; often pay attention to the elements of fashion, but do not necessarily follow immediately;

4. More books: in addition to some celebrity success stories, training materials, read some increase in eloquence, interpersonal communication, language arts books. Book titles are too numerous to exemplify here, please look in the bookstore.

5. Cultivate your ability in all aspects: adaptability, adaptability, coordination, organization, judgment, negotiation, responsibility, efficiency, creativity, courage.

5. Have a good heart, this is the most important point, away from this point, all the others have done is zero, because it will be revealed from your words and deeds, demeanor. Help all kinds of vulnerable groups, coworkers, friends, relatives, small animals, passers-by. Respect leaders, elders.

As long as you can be strict with yourself, perseverance, half a year is bound to see obvious results. I hope you can become independent not lack of people, strong not lose tenderness, bold both with a fine heart, intelligent not lose modesty, ordinary but excellent people. First of all, you have to set up a point of view, self-cultivation is not that you want to improve can be improved, not that wearing glasses on behalf of their own maturity, wearing a bikini on behalf of their own sexy, self-cultivation is to talk about the behavior and speech of the words and deeds. With this concept, it is recommended that you can go to learn about the good habits of elegant speech and behavior, such as those what is elegant sitting posture, what is cultivated eating posture, learn these, you can make yourself more upscale, have a big girl (I do not know if you are not male, do not be offended, is a man is of course dashing Sven) demeanor with this kind of speech and demeanor, even if the dress is not bright, but also to give people a kind of Civilized and polite influence, it should be noted that, or the need to speak politely, know how to smile, will greet, often help people, these are the basis of the foundation. Self-cultivation, out of the outside, more about the inside, if you have a certain degree of self-confidence and endurance, that is, you believe that your endurance is very good, I suggest that you can go to a certain temple retreats, good reflection, a good summary, and then forge ahead, this is a traditional so that they can be more introverted connotation, so that they can be more static and can be moved, in addition to this, of course, there are other methods such as calligraphy, painting, the premise of these two crafts. Painting, the premise of these two crafts can make people meditate and clean, if you think it's too much trouble, then take a look at the book, read those inspirational and so on, or touching short stories and so on. Make yourself more attractive, this more lies in the action, after doing those above, they have to set up a thought, summarize a concept, and then according to this to do, will naturally have charm. To watch some social writing books and TV series, the main theme, reflecting the current situation of society. Or watch some talk shows. Lu Yu, Yang Lan like the host of the. Phoenix Satellite Television interviews are good, you can see. Some boring entertainment programs do not watch, see those girls learn crazy. Cultivation how, and contact with people also has a lot to do. More contact with some leaders, see how they treat people. The average leader is still very level-headed.

Improvement of cultivation, I personally feel that first of all, we should learn from others, and secondly, we need to "enter the world", in the complex environment of the community to exercise their own, rather than just drilling into the book, after all, to see how other people do, and their own can be done to what point, or a very different.

Now there are a lot of books teach girls how to deal with people, have time to look at the new bookstore. Personally, I think the main thing is to have more contact with people, you must be surrounded by people with high cultivation, learn from others, find their own shortcomings, every thing you do is to reflect on their own so that it is not appropriate to do in the future how should I do. Improvement of cultivation, in addition to learning, but also more thinking, all the time to improve themselves, which is a long-term accumulation process, can not be achieved overnight. Ancient saying: "A lot of anger hurts the body." Anger is one of the negative emotions of human beings, a person who is often angry, will make the physical and mental damage.

Second Quit low self-esteem: low self-esteem can easily destroy a person, but also enable a person to rise due to self-improvement. Abstain from jealousy: Instead of consuming limited energy in envying the success of others, one should seize the opportunity to do something practical.

Third Abstain from villainy: Villainy is not only of no help to our path of life, but will become a stumbling block that will make you fall down at critical moments.

Fourth, quit the temptation: we have to guard against power, money, beauty and other temptations, and constantly improve their own quality, strengthen personal cultivation, improve moral quality, while maintaining a healthy and calm state of mind.

The fifth quit anger: anger is easy to make people lose their minds, so we must learn to control their emotions.

To achieve peace of mind: sitting quietly when thinking about their own faults, gossiping about others. I'm sure you'll be able to suffer, and I'm sure you'll be willing to suffer, but I don't think you'll be able to do it.

To honor the gentleman, we must show that we are virtuous, and avoiding the small man is not considered incompetent. The first step back is the sky and the earth, and the second is the peace of mind.

The way of cultivation:

Self-existing, amiable;

Something Chuan Ran, nothing to repair Ran;

Gained calmly, lost the Thai Ran;

Thinking frankly, for the good Ran.

The way to cultivate oneself is two:

A vast gas, two sleeves of white wind, three proud of the frost bone, read and write diligently in the four times, five grains to eat fragrant, six God often stable, seven feelings have moderation, eight wide ties, nine cloud ambition, full and good heart. In order to deepen their own cultivation, first of all from the "change" to do, from the "acceptance" to do, from the self-requirement to do. So how do you "change" and how do you "suffer"?

1, should change the language, change the sex, change the heart: communication between people is the most basic language, if we speak without art, or speak improperly, it is difficult to get others to their own goodwill. In character, if the habit is very heavy, the evil nature does not change, the bad heart does not change, the heart of the evil opinion, jealousy, stupidity, arrogance does not change, it is difficult to improve in morality, cultivation. Therefore, one should learn to make continuous improvement, change one's speech, change one's character, and change one's mind, so that one can make continuous progress.

2, should be taught, suffer, suffer: in the life of the road, some people can continue to progress, while some people are not progress instead of retreat? The problem is that he cannot "suffer". It is the same with learning to read, some people are easy to progress because they are willing to accept it, while others are easy to regress because they can't get into it. In the process of deepening our cultivation, we must first learn to be taught, and to be taught is to absorb something into our own hearts and then digest it into our own thoughts.

We must not only be taught, but we must also be inspired. If a person can only accept the praise of others, it can not always and completely increase their strength, but should also learn to accept the criticism, guidance, and even hurt. In a certain sense, to be able to suffer, to be angry, will be able to progress.

3, should think, think, think: no matter what must think twice before acting. Thought is intelligence, anything after careful consideration and then go to do, will be able to get twice the result with half the effort.

4, should dare to say, dare to do, dare to be: some people do not dare to express their own ideas, do not dare to express their opinions in front of the public, but only in the private discussion; in the event that they do not dare to be, do not dare to do. If you don't dare to take responsibility, you won't be responsible, and if you won't be responsible, you won't be able to gain the trust of others, and you won't be able to improve your cultivation. Therefore, as long as it is good, good things, we must learn to dare to say, dare to do, dare to be.

So, if we want to deepen our cultivation, we should:

1. Change our words, change our behavior, and change our mind.

2. To be taught, to suffer, to be angry.

3. To think, think, think.

4. Dare to speak, dare to act. I'm not going to be able to do that.

A person's charm is reflected in the cultivation, and cultivation usually comes from the details. Behavior into habits, habits form quality, quality determines the charm. Starting from the things around us, from the smallest place to start, learn to understand the general body, small details, from their own words and deeds, and strive to improve the overall quality of personal, in order to create a harmonious environment, so as to achieve their own charisma of life.

Quality:

Improve the quality of academic aspects is very simple, more learning, more books in this area, more brain can be.

It is necessary to read good books to improve the quality of morality, and to be inspired by books to have better morality.

Improve the social aspect, you can socialize with more people, you can also do the speech in front of the mirror, many ways. Read a lot of books to improve your character, and make more demands on yourself, if you can do it yourself, of course. Don't worry about what other people do, as long as you are satisfied with yourself. Read more current magazines, more sympathetic to others. Don't be angry with others. Think about your own faults before you get angry with others, and learn to tolerate other people's mistakes, but not to condone them. Have your own position and also have to have your own never forgive things. Let reason always in front of emotion. Do not insult others and do not allow others to insult themselves.