Family education composition

Family education composition 1 each of us, as a member of society, enters family life for the first time. Family is the first living environment for every child, and parents, especially parents, are the first teachers that children can't choose at will. Family education is the beginning of a person's lifelong education. A baby's brain is like a blank sheet of paper, which can be easily painted with various colors. In the early days of children's life, parents and family life have exerted various influences on them, which have left a deep imprint on their minds and are hard to disappear. All kinds of education implemented by parents make them unforgettable all their lives and become the cornerstone of their life growth.

The first sentence was learned from parents, and the initial feelings were infected by parents. Children are influenced and educated by their parents from the day they are born. It is parents who teach their children to take the first step in life hand in hand, and enter social life and understand society under the guidance of their parents. When children are young, it is the best time to form habits, and the formation of good habits plays a fundamental role in people's life growth. Confucius said, "Less is nature, and habit is nature." It means that habits formed in the early days are as stable as when they were born.

In childhood, children's thoughts have not yet been finalized and are highly plastic. They have a wide range of interests, are interested in everything around them, are good at imitation, have strong feelings, and have amazing learning and memory abilities.

In childhood, children lack the ability to live independently. Food, clothing, housing and transportation are inseparable from the care of parents, and they are very dependent on their parents in life and psychology. Their mobility and scope are limited, mainly at home, and they live with their parents day and night. Their influence and education are increasing almost every day. Because parents and children have a natural blood relationship, they have established very sincere and deep feelings in their daily lives. Parents have great prestige in children's eyes, and children trust their parents. Therefore, parents' words and deeds, every move, naturally become an example for children to follow. Parental education has become the normal state of children's life, parents' evaluation criteria for people and things around them, children's moral evaluation criteria, and even parents' styles, habits, temperament, interests, hobbies, personality characteristics and so on. Have a profound impact on children.

Family life and family education play a fundamental role in everyone's moral, intellectual and physical development, especially in the formation of people's ideological and moral character and personality quality, and even play a role in shaping. Some people say that "children are parents' shadows" and "children are parents' replicas", which all illustrate the important role of early family education. Family education plays a decisive role in children's physical and mental development. Marx said: "The occupation of judges is law, the occupation of missionaries is religion, and the occupation of parents is to educate their children." The teaching of the revolutionary mentor is very profound. As a judge, you must enforce the law, otherwise it is dereliction of duty; As missionaries, we must take it as our duty to spread religion, otherwise it will be ungodly; Similarly, as parents, it is their bounden duty to educate their children, otherwise they are incompetent parents. Parents must be as loyal to their duties as judges and missionaries.

Children stay at home most of the time before entering school. After children enter school, they still spend two-thirds of their time at home, spending far more time with their parents than at school. In addition, on weekends, winter and summer vacations, children have much more time and opportunities to contact their parents than teachers. Therefore, although children play a leading role in school education, family education is still an important factor that often plays a role.

Family education that children receive before entering school plays a fundamental role. But preschool family education is not the whole process of family education, but an important stage of the whole process of family education. It should be admitted that after children enter school, with the continuous growth of age, the increase of knowledge and rich social experience, they have a certain opinion when things go wrong.

Not as obedient as when I was a child. But family education continues to play a role. So that children grow up, step into society and live independently, and are still directly or indirectly influenced by family education.

Children reach junior high school and adolescence. Their ability of independent activities has increased, and the scope of social activities has expanded, so they have to accept influences from all sides. The influence of the surrounding environment is both positive and negative. During this period, it was at the "crossroads" of life that children began to have differences in thinking and learning. At the same time, this period is also a period when children and parents readjust their relations. After adjustment, parents can continue to maintain the initiative in education; If the adjustment is not good and the relationship is frozen, the initiative in education will be lost. Therefore, after children enter school, family education should not be relaxed, but more attention should be paid to it.

I'm Zhang Shutong's mother in Class 4/kloc-0. My daughter is a kind, caring, reasonable and conscientious boy with a wide range of hobbies and a frugal life, but she has a bad temper and is sometimes careless and sensitive. Now, under the leadership of class teacher Peng, she is growing sturdily.

Looking back on my daughter's growth, I feel that being a mother is really happy. The growth process of children is also the growth process of mothers. In family education, I do this:

First, pay attention to health and nutrition. I have been engaged in the health industry for nearly ten years. Whenever I see my neighbor's friend's child sick and my parents are anxious, I wonder if I can make my child less sick. Why not nip in the bud? To this end, I insist that children have no less than two hours of outdoor activities every day, and often take them to the suburbs to play and climb mountains. The good habit of eating a balanced diet, not eating snacks and not drinking at the same time, let children know the harm of "junk food" to the body, let children consciously stay away from food pollution, and make health a habit. After several years of persistence, my daughter has been in good health.

Second, put an end to doting and cultivate children's independent ability. Spooling is a kind of unprincipled love, which is based on inequality. I think this kind of love is easy to form a generation gap, and it will also hurt children. We should give full play to the role of children in different periods, treat children as friends and independent people, and do not treat them specially, pay too much attention, be too satisfied, arrange their affairs, or be afraid of them crying. We cannot protect them face to face. In order to cultivate children's independence, I also let children move freely. As long as her behavior is safe and not excessive, I will not interfere, because activities are another good way for children to acquire knowledge.

Third, improve children's sense of responsibility. Let children know the value of being a man, clarify their responsibilities and be responsible for their actions. Nowadays, most children are only children, and the change of family structure makes children stand on the high spire and be the only one. Children think that everything their parents do is right, and they don't know how to repay or be grateful. To this end, I have let my children participate in big and small things at home since I was a child, and do some housework within my power. For some difficulties encountered in the process of playing and going to school, parents can help their children analyze and try to let them solve them themselves. Let children know what is responsibility, what is love and being loved, that love is a kind of ability and demand, and that loving others is also a very happy thing.

Fourth, discover children's potential and specialty, and guide and encourage them in time. My daughter likes sports since she was a child, and she has certain sports skills, including running, jumping and other big movements, as well as fine movements, such as drawing, using scissors and writing. Fine movements can better promote the development of the brain nervous system, so I think exercise can make children smarter. My daughter likes painting, handcraft and roller skating very much, and our whole family supports her very much. In the autumn sports meeting in 2008, he also won the fourth place in 60m and the third place in standing long jump, which is also affirmation and encouragement for children. In addition, her daughter's language skills and organizational skills are also good. She has no shortage of playmates when she grows up. In addition to playing with the children of my neighbors and classmates, I often encourage her to associate with strange children when I take her out for an outing. She can always blend in with them and enjoy herself. At home, our whole family are her students, and we often imitate and repeat the kindergarten teacher's lectures. I think this is also an exercise for children.

Fifth, make preparations for young convergence and improve children's learning ability. In order to make a good connection between children and young children, I let my children go to preschool. For the problems that primary school students may encounter, I help them adapt and solve them in time, stimulate their interest in school, cultivate their self-confidence and make them study more happily. At the same time, I pay attention to the study of educational concepts and knowledge, and be a good example and teacher for children.

Sixth, do a good job in home-school communication and solve problems in time. There are many aspects of children's enlightenment education, family education is the main aspect, at the same time, we should pay close attention to children's performance in school, because school is also a part of society. When children have problems, parents should actively cooperate, communicate in time, and solve problems with children and teachers. Never blame the children, let alone the teachers. The growth of children is our common responsibility.

As the children's first enlightenment teacher, parents' words and deeds have a subtle influence on children and play a unique role in the process of educating children. We should be good leaders of children, show their positive, happy and sunny side to children, and children will leave their healthy, beautiful and successful side to us.

Every time someone mentions family education, I have to ask myself first, do we rely on punishment or discipline?

For many people, the above two words have the same meaning. But we should think about it here. I'm not arguing about semantics, but I want to propose a change of opinion.

The so-called punishment is something that happens to a person, and discipline is something that is built in a person's heart.

Discipline is a kind of quality, which is cultivated and developed in one's heart. A disciplined person has the fortitude, courage and endurance to make the right choice, and can overcome difficulties and accomplish what needs to be done.

Discipline is not innate in children. When they were born, they didn't know that they couldn't take other children's toys, couldn't doodle on the wall, and shouldn't mess around in the hallway of the grocery store when adults said they wouldn't buy super bomb candy. As children, their control of impulsiveness is extremely limited, and their mastery of social etiquette is also very fragile, but this ability is gradually increased and developed, and children can learn.

Think back, a newborn baby, his arms are dancing wildly. Later, with the passage of time, the baby has formed enough self-control, and all behaviors are purposeful. Similarly, it takes time for a preschool child to form a kind of ability and restrain his willfulness. As mentioned earlier, self-control and self-discipline are acquired behaviors. Just like how to learn a skill, there will be mistakes and repetitions in the process of learning. It is our responsibility to help and educate children in this process. When children try to learn to ride a bike, we often spend some extra time explaining various situations in the process and patiently guiding them through the whole stage.

We teach social skills in the same way: give extra support and training, explain and guide until this skill becomes their second instinct. Whether riding a bike or making friends, it takes time and a lot of futile efforts to master new skills. Only in this way can children meet success.

Only when we remember that children are in the process of learning and growing up, and that their behavior has a developmental side (not only that), can we take a step back and keep an appropriate view more easily. Insightful patience is actually a by-product of enhancing understanding and proper expectations.

When someone says that a child "needs to learn discipline", he means that the child seems to lack inner discipline. But you can't discipline him on one thing. The meaning of this sentence seems to involve a more controversial meaning: "This child needs to be punished."

Punishment is an easy thing to implement. Punishment doesn't need much thinking, its purpose is just to make an experience unpleasant. Just as the director of a child care center shared my opinion in the discussion: "Discipline hurts people. Whether it is physical or mental, its purpose is to hurt this child. " She realized that the method of punishment could not really inspire discipline. A child seldom sees the connection between his behavior and the harmful reactions of adults. The relationship between children's behavior and punishment becomes complicated and distorted.

Discipline and self-control come from understanding choices and their results, not coercion, punishment and pain.

Let your focus fall on guiding children to form real discipline and self-control. Discipline self-control is not a fleeting good behavior that can be bought by money; This requires long-term efforts. Guiding children to learn from their mistakes, not just punishing them, requires hard work, time and parents' participation.

When the emphasis is on punishment as a response to misconduct, we just teach children not to be caught when they are "bad". When we choose positive discipline and self-control, we teach our children to distinguish right from wrong and make decisions. We are not trying to control children, we have taught them self-control. We do not manage them out of anger, but guide them out of love.

This does not mean that we are not angry. After all, parents are human beings, and when children are angry, we will be angry if we spill a jar full of orange juice on the ground. However, when we react out of anger-shouting, throwing things and acting like adults-the educational opportunity to create real discipline and self-control is abandoned.

When we can find enough discipline and self-control in our hearts and make use of these educational opportunities, we will also have more opportunities to guide our children to form discipline and self-control. Only in this way can we do better.

My family pays the most attention to "courtesy". Everyone has the right to refute anyone. As long as anyone is right, he will listen to them. I remember another time: it was a very cold winter, and no one dared to stay in the street. My brother and I were watching TV at home, and then a channel storm was caused. "Why!

Why don't you watch cartoons?

"My brother said worriedly. If you are not good-looking, you might as well watch sports games, which are more exciting and passionate. "I grabbed the remote control and adjusted the program, shouting confidently." No, watch cartoons. "The younger brother said coquetry. I also spoiled and said, "No, I want to watch sports." "Well, look!

"As soon as the voice fell, my brother ran towards me, and I was not to be outdone. You punched me and played table tennis." Why? "Dad came out from home." It's nothing. "My brother and I said with one voice, Dad didn't make any noise, and we began to compete for the power of TV. In the end, because I was strong, I won. I was watching a sports game happily when my father suddenly came quietly and saw the living room in a mess. He said, "This is your masterpiece. What the hell are you doing? You two have made the same mistake again. " "Hoo", the window leaked a little wind and hung on my face, which hurt. My face has just been turned over by my brother, and the wind is blowing, just like adding salt to the wound, which makes my heart ache.

Dad knows seven points when he sees this. "I didn't tell you' Jun Jun, minister, father, son'? There is only one TV at home, and you won't let me watch it, and I won't let you watch it, so I can't see it in the end. Kai Can, as a big brother, you should be like a big brother, and you should give way to the small one. " Dad said earnestly. "But ... I ..." I can't seem to say anything. That day, I stayed alone in my room and thought about it. "It's really my fault. I shouldn't compete with my brother for TV. Kong Rong can make pears, but I can't make TV? " Afterwards, my brother and I were both punished by my father, and the wind was biting. My brother and I both know our mistakes. We talked all afternoon in cold and hunger. Although blown apart by the wind, we live in harmony and no longer fight for TV.

This is a gift from our family. My understanding is the rule that makes our brothers live in harmony, and also helps us learn how to get along better. This is a great understanding for me. This kind of "gift" is not only used at home, but also at school. At school, "be a student, be like a student." This is what my father often tells me. My family seldom punishes us with family laws, but more often warns us with examples of ourselves or friends.

At that time, I was lying on my desk at school, writing my exercise book. I don't know when my father came in Seeing me sitting in this position, my father ran over to me regardless of my face and said to me as a classmate, "Didn't I always say' Jun Jun, Minister, Father, Son' at home? You should be a student now, sit and concentrate on your studies like a student, or it will be too late to regret it. " I was so ashamed at that time!

Dad ignored my face, and then told a story of his friend: when his friend was young, he and his brother were put in his uncle's house because his family was poor and his parents were working outside. At that time, his uncle was a senior engineer in Henan, and he could train their brothers into talents at any time. He was a middle school student with bad habits at that time. He doesn't act like a student. He chats with his classmates all day, especially when eating, watching TV and sometimes feeding food to his nose. When his uncle saw it, he advised him, but he refused to change it many times, and his uncle could do nothing about it, so these bad habits accompanied him. And his brother is used to listening to his uncle's teaching.

When he grew up, his brother became a millionaire, and he was a construction worker. Dad's advice echoed in the classroom. Although it was embarrassing at that time, I understood the truth from shyness. This is my family's "gift". It doesn't save face, but it focuses on exhortation and warning me to go astray.

Looking back now, I think what my father did at that time was correct. "Jun Jun, minister, father, son", although we are not a feudal society now, there are not so many three cardinal guides and five permanent members, but the relationship between father and son still exists. "If the son doesn't teach, the father teaches." As a son, he should also follow the rules and do his duty. This is a constant etiquette. I will always keep this sentence in mind to remind myself. And this is like a mirror, always look at yourself, and if you have bad behavior, you will correct it in time, because: "You can change when you know your mistakes."

Every family has its own way of governing the family. We just take a sentence in "Li" as a family motto to make my family healthier and more perfect. "Jun Jun, Minister, Father, Son" I will take its essence to educate myself, just as the Analects said: "Bo me with the text, ask me with the ceremony ...".

Family Education Composition 5 Last night, I was lucky enough to listen to Professor Ping Cao's lecture on family education-the science and art of family education. Due to the limited time, Professor Cao only talked about some of them.

After two hours of communication, there was no noise at the meeting place. It seems that parents want to get some "magic weapons" from professors that are beneficial to family education and make their children better. Sort out the lecture notes and share them with parents and friends who didn't attend the lecture.

Family education is a science, don't rely on previous experience. This is also an art that requires more choices and greater flexibility for children.

First, children's problems are parents' problems.

Most parents often complain, "I put my heart and soul into my child, but why hasn't the child grown up?" "I have paid so much, why didn't I achieve the expected effect?" "How can I have such a child?" ..... loving children is what all parents do.

What is the childhood of children now? A child in the fifth grade of primary school has endless homework every day. The child was under great pressure and hit his head against the wall. Aren't we sad as parents? If the child finishes the homework assigned by the teacher in advance, the parents will immediately find more questions for the child to do, but the child is really reluctant. In this way, it is easy to have conflicts between parents and children, and asking too many questions is ineffective, which will also lead to the deliberate delay of children's homework in the future and prolong the time of doing homework.

If parents want their children to be excellent, they must have a vision. Every decision and request of parents is very important to children. The happiness index of future children has little to do with the present scores. Therefore, parents must have a vision and give their children a suitable education.

We should pay attention to the problems in children's growth and never give all expectations and requirements to schools and teachers. Educating children is personalized, and every child is different. For example, a class has 105 children, and a class lasts for 40 minutes. How does a teacher take good care of every child? Children are a forest in front of teachers, but a tree in front of parents. So family education is particularly important.

Second, parents should have the ability to love.

Express your love in a way that the other person can accept, and let your love support the other person. Parents often say the most lethal sentence to their children: I am for your own good.

A 25-year-old girl wants to open an online shop after graduation, but her mother wants her to become a civil servant. My mother spared no effort to help her find a civil servant position. If the girl accepts it, she will be very painful; If you don't accept it, it will appear that she is not sensible and failed her mother. Therefore, the only choice is to escape, and the extreme choice is to sacrifice yourself. One Christmas, she fell from a tall building.

Therefore, while parents love their children, they should respect their wishes and not impose their wishes on them.

Third, parents should learn to encourage and criticize.

For example, the child won the third place in the piano competition. Mom usually says, son, you are great. Mom is so happy. Keep trying. Strive for the first place. The child will be a little disappointed, because the mother only cares about her feelings and is not sure about the child's efforts. So mom should say, son, mom is really happy for you. You really put in a lot, such as how hard you practiced that time. Mom believes you. If you practice so hard, you will succeed. The process of praising results and encouraging giving. Too much praise is easy to be proud, and encouragement is more beneficial than praise.

Encourage four steps: first, state the facts; The second is to express their feelings; The third is to find the quality and characteristics of success; Fourth, on this basis, how to work hard to succeed.

The four steps of criticism: first, state the facts (don't evaluate this matter, especially don't involve the identity level, but tell things objectively); The second is to express your feelings (what you did today, mom is really XX); The third is to help children make n choices (XXX)； if you think seriously); Fourth, put forward your own hopes (mom believes you, you xxx you xxx).

Parents should plant two seeds for their children. A seed: You are a good boy. Parents should attach importance to their children's friends, which is very important for their children's growth. Parents should pay close attention to what kind of person their children become and what kind of people they are influenced by, and help them treat them differently. Another seed: you are a filial person. Let children know how to be grateful and learn to be grateful. If a person is bad to his parents, he really can't be a real person.

This lecture made me deeply feel the importance of family education, which can not be ignored. Children are personalized, and parents and friends should be good at using them flexibly. I hope all parents in the world are happy and all children in the world are excellent. Let's work together!

There is a report that girls in primary and secondary schools are generally better than boys in terms of academic performance, hobbies, dealing with people and organizing activities. Also, most families are only children now, and generally only prefer boys to girls. Especially even if they are all in junior high school, mothers will still show the appearance of doting on their sons. Boys of the same age are generally less sensible than girls. The proportion of little boys who appear' sissy' is also much higher than before.

It's scary to see this report, and I'm worried that my children will become weak boys without any masculinity in the future. How can we avoid this situation? What should the future education do? I came across a book from a friend, Who said that a mother can't teach a man? If I get the treasure, I can't wait to take it home. I finished reading this book in two days, which helped me a lot and was deeply moved.

Spoiling may be a blind poison for boys. It won't make boys feel warm, but it will hurt them. Caring without doting, nurturing without pampering, loving boys rationally and educating boys wisely will teach excellent boys. Parents should give boys as much freedom as possible and let them fly high in the sky. A boy is destined to spread his wings and fly. Boys have their own sky. We should give him full freedom and give him the right to make his own decisions. I used to buy books for him and never discussed them with him. Now I start to change my strategy and let him choose what he likes, but I must read it carefully. Let him learn to do his own thing and don't depend on his parents for everything. Tell him we are old, and then he will be our patron. So learn to be strong slowly.

Ability is more important than knowledge. Super ability is one of the weights for boys' success, and the realization of boys' life goals also benefits from super ability. An important purpose of family education is to help boys have all kinds of excellent abilities, so that they can cope with all kinds of situations calmly and realize their life goals smoothly. -Let children learn to reflect on themselves, never shirk everything, and dare to take responsibility. Wrong is wrong, don't look for other reasons to prevaricate. My son never said that he didn't master the exam well, but found various reasons to cover it up. For example, the students at the back asked him that the students around him were in chaos. At first, I believed that if there were more times, I began to solemnly educate my children to dare to admit that they can't do it, because that's what men should do. And learn to communicate with others. My children are lacking in this point, so I will try my best to take them to some crowded places, and the children will gradually learn to communicate with others. Now my son is not so afraid of people.

The best way to make a boy interested in learning is to guide him, not to command or force him. Mothers should give more encouragement to boys, so that boys can constantly taste the sweetness in their studies, guard against arrogance and rashness, stimulate boys' desire for learning, and be a good example for boys. -My son used to write badly. It doesn't matter if I say yes or no. I get angry every time I check my children's homework. I can't help saying that I hate iron not to produce. My son's self-esteem was hurt and his words were not practiced well. Because my son doesn't have playmates at home, he is always looking forward to playing with children of the same age, so I will seize the child's psychology and discuss with my colleagues to let his children and son learn calligraphy first, and then they can accompany them to the sports center after practice. My son was very happy, so he went to the calligraphy class easily, and now his handwriting is also very good, so we can't be impatient in everything.

Most mothers are eager for their children to succeed and lack scientific teaching methods. They often teach by personal intuition and some traditional experience, which makes many problems and misunderstandings in family education. To guide smart boys to grow up healthily, mothers must get out of the misunderstanding in family education. -you can't always compare your children with others. In order to cultivate your ideal appearance, you should force your children to enroll in such remedial classes. This will not only make them progress, but will make them rebel. I am glad that I am not such a utilitarian mother, and my son is still growing up in a relaxed and healthy environment.

By reading Who says a mother can't teach a man, I know that it is not enough to have love for children. Sometimes, your love may become a burden to children, even a poisonous poison. Besides love, it is more important to give him a chance to exercise, because we can't take care of him all our lives, and there is still a long way to go. What we have to do is to teach him how to go his own way. I firmly believe that under the guidance of this book, I will also have unexpected gains. My son will grow up to be a person who makes me happy.