What is the process of marriage customs in Inner Mongolia

Summary: one of the Mongolian wedding customs, marrying is usually the day before the wedding day. Groom in the joyful atmosphere, wearing colorful Mongolian robes, waist tie colorful belt, wearing a round top red tasseled hat, high leather boots, wearing a bow and arrow. The best man, the celebrant, also dressed in festive attire. Together on horseback, carrying colorful car and gifts, to the woman's home to marry. Marriage to the woman's home, first around the yurt week, and to the woman's home to offer a "touch the door sheep" and other gifts. So in addition to these wedding customs in Inner Mongolia, what are the marriage customs? Here we come to a detailed understanding of Inner Mongolia's marriage customs process it! (A) betrothal:

In the old marriage customs, before the betrothal by the matchmaker each other men and women 'life single'. Fate list is a three-inch-long, two-finger-wide strip of red paper, written on one side of the "gold and silver Hall", the other side of the "Fortune long life", written in the center of the male (female) party's name, age, date of birth, genus phase and other content. Both sides according to the "life list" to see whether the general phase of the match, whether the fate of the match. If the general match, the fate is not mutually exclusive, then the post can be exchanged. Men and women fill in the name, age, address and other information on the post, by the matchmaker to exchange each other, that is, "for post". Change post when the male party to the female party to bring snacks, leg of lamb, soju and other gifts, commonly known as the "water gift". At the same time to deliver both adults pre-determined bride price and part of the clothing. Once changed the post, it is not allowed to rely on marriage, withdrawal. Otherwise, they will be condemned by public opinion or the government. Once the bride price has been paid and the post has been changed, the formalities of the betrothal are completed, and a date is set for the marriage.

In the new era of youth marriage, the custom of betrothal has been retained, but like the fate of the single, for the post, the bride price, clothing and so on have been gradually out of the stage of history. When a man and a woman who are in free love decide to get married, they will invite their parents together to announce their intentions, and then the man will give the woman a symbolic engagement gift, usually jewelry. In the new era, women who seek equality between men and women will sometimes give gifts back to the man. At this time, the engagement ceremony, has been very simplified, both parents will not interfere, all respect for the views of their children. After the engagement, both men and women will have some constraints considering the implications.

(2) under the tea:

Also known as the moon tea, in the old marriage customs, is to marry before the man and the woman to finalize the completion of the marriage time. In the month before the marriage, generally led by the matchmaker male suitable representatives, with tea to go. Tea gifts include wine, leg of lamb, tea, candy and so on. There is also a pre-determined bride price and gold and silver jewelry. If the two parties have not agreed on the number of items, the bride price and the date can be determined and negotiated.

And in modern marriages, the tea ceremony has been passed down, but because of free love without a matchmaker, the man's parents will visit the woman's home a month before with a four-color gift, which are cigarettes, wine, sugar and tea, respectively. Gifts from the complexity and simplicity in the present has no strict requirements, most civilized families will not care. Even sugar will be replaced by chocolate. The man's parents will receive warm hospitality when they arrive at the woman's home, because there is no longer a bride price as such, only the date of consultation. Then the next tea is more of an opportunity for both parents to bond, as is the engagement.

(3) Mou Banquet (male):

In the old wedding, the day before the wedding was called "Angu", and the guests invited by the man's family were divided into two kinds: the bottom relatives and friends. The bottom of the relatives refers to the man's family of close relatives, while the friends of the relatives refers to no kinship guests Anguo this day, the man's parents to feast on the bottom of the relatives. This night the male family will also look for the groom's sister "pressure happy bed", that is, in the new bed for one night, before the newcomer to sleep, the significance of sending children, to ward off evil spirits.

And in modern weddings, the night before the wedding, the male parents feast relatives, called "d banquets", can be considered a prelude to the wedding. If there are a lot of people in the hotel, the guests can sit around the round table of about ten people sitting in a group, will eat a hearty meal. The whole process is dominated by the two parents, the atmosphere is festive, lively, due to the abandonment of bad habits, but also appears to be harmonious and civilized. The "Pressing the Wedding Bed" is not very common, and many couples have begun to live in their new houses after receiving their marriage license, so this part of the process has lost its significance.

(D) marriage:

In the old marriage customs, the time to pay attention to the two heads do not see the day, that is, early to go back late. Welcome car is generally two two, a wedding people sit, a dedicated to the bride to sit. Specialized manufacture of sedan chair is rare, generally are animals pulling the car, but pulling the car of the horse has to pay attention to, do not use mules, because this animal can not give birth to, with the unlucky. So use tame horses. Marriage, temporary in the carport on a small shed, decorated with satin quilts and so on. The groom wears a Chinese mountain suit or something else, as long as it is formal and neat. Before the wedding, the family gives the bridegroom "jangma dumplings," because the horse-drawn carts here have been transformed from horseback riding. In the past, the dumplings were small, about half the size of usual dumplings, and were wrapped in pepper and chili peppers in order to make fun of the bridegroom.

After eating the Shangma dumplings, the welcoming party departs, consisting mainly of: the groom, the groom's sister and brother-in-law. The sister brings a new quilt made by the groom's mother, and the bride's clothes. The corners of the quilt have been stuffed with a ball of new cotton, signifying a life of abundance. The brother-in-law brings a four-color gift, which consists of cigarettes, alcohol, sugar and tea, and pork with three ribs. When he arrives at the woman's house, he leaves the meat behind and pulls out the ribs and brings them back. At the same time to bring the four-color gift of wine to open the wine, pour out the wine, put green beans, inserted into the same root of the two branches of the onion, and then brought back by the man, meaning "planting the root after the establishment of".

And the woman is also busy at this time, the bride inside and outside to wear a wedding dress, are family members or relatives to do their own clothes, style brief, but the color is to be big red. In addition, the bride's facial hair should also be shaved at this time. By this art of the mother-in-law with a unique way to tightly strangle the girl's face hair, and then pulled off, this is called "open face", meaning that from now on is no longer "yellow hair girl".

After the bride to go on the sedan chair, "crying marriage" in some places, but in the Yinshan area is not widely spread and time. But "out of the cabinet" but also some etiquette, the bride is carried by the maternal uncle on the sedan chair, meaning that the uncle has the right to send nephews. The bride's family should also send a car, usually the male side to a few female side also equal.

And in modern weddings, on the big day, in the morning, the male family and the female family are making preparations. The man's family, to welcome the bride to arrange a few cars to form a welcoming caravan, usually an even number, the average family has 2 or 4, have the conditions of the family, arrange dozens of cars or more. The wedding car is labeled with big red happy words, while decorated with flowers. The caravan replaces the sedan chair and drummers of the old society. The groom also no longer wears Chinese clothes but a suit and shoes, red tie. Horse dumplings are still eaten on the way out, but in modern weddings, the busy and tiring nature of the day is taken into account and everyone is encouraged to eat well first. The groom holds a large bouquet of flowers, usually roses and lilies, representing love. The bridegroom's welcome remains the same as before, but in today's weddings, the four-color gift is brought to the woman's house and handled less strictly, as sometimes the wine that is sent is so expensive that other bottles are sometimes used instead.

As the man begins to leave, preparations are being made in the woman's home, mainly to entertain the welcoming party. When the groom and the crowd arrive at the woman's home, the woman arranges for people to stay with her and chat and drink tea, while the woman's parents remove the cotton stuffed inside the quilt. The groom presents the bride with flowers and puts on her shoes. At this time, the bride begins to sit on the new quilt brought to dress up, the bride's hairstyle is changed from the previous bun to a coiled head, meaning that the status has changed from a girl to a daughter-in-law. The dress is a wedding dress imported from the West, and the shoes are red high heels with Chinese characteristics. The bride's brother brings a corsage to his brother-in-law and the groom presents a red envelope. The bride first eat "turn over cake", and then and the groom *** eat a bowl of dumplings, locally known as "dumplings", thought from now on is no longer the mother's family. After eating dumplings, the bride by their brother to the car, and at this time brought the bed quilt has been put in the car by the sister for the bride to sit. At this point, pick up the bride to return to the man's home, all the people to welcome the bride to return, at the same time, the woman will send a few to send the bride, a few cars accompany but has not necessarily equal to the man, the same for the even number.

In marrying this link we can clearly see the influence of Western culture on our wedding customs. Especially the men and women's attire and gifts. Especially the bride's dress, is really a combination of Chinese and Western.

(E) wedding held:

In the old wedding customs, welcome the family caravan is not too early back. To wait until after sunset. Called "marrying the black daughter-in-law". Means that this is not publicized private baby. In the bride back to the man's home, the man's family people have to come out to meet, at this time, the need for the groom will be the bride from the car back to the wedding room in the car, in this journey will be a lot of people's difficulties and jokes, but also by the people will be robbed of some items for good luck, such as shoes, socks, corsages, and so on. If you want to claim them back, you need to present a red envelope. When the bridegroom carries the bride home after a lot of hard work, the bride sits on the quilt on the wedding bed, which is the quilt that has been carried by her sister. At this time you can see the wedding bed on the bedding prepared by the man's mother, layers stacked up, the satin quilt top exposed, usually four bunks and four covers.

Small aunt to sister-in-law end of the wash water, the bride symbolically wash, present a red envelope. Then the great aunt to the two newcomers to cook a bowl of noodles to let them *** with the finish, meaning that the sky is the limit. After that is the wedding night.

And in the new-style wedding, the man in the morning after the bride to pick up, there are also the above crowd jokes, wash your face, eat noodles program. Rest for a while, almost noon, then with the crowd to the hotel to hold the wedding. In the hotel, the bride dressed in a wedding dress and the groom in a suit to stand at the entrance to welcome the guests, when the guests arrive one after another, probably after 12 noon, still by the dawning of the banquet on behalf of the East and the host to announce the start of the wedding.

Wedding is divided into the following procedures:

1, the bride and groom to enter: in the host of the introduction, the bride and groom hand in hand in the wedding march gradually towards the guests in front of the open space or stage.

2, the parents enter: in the host of the introduction, the new couple hand in hand in the wedding march gradually toward the guests in front of the open space or the stage.

3, the couple bowed to their parents to thank them.

4, the new couple to change their mouths, the new couple called Mom and Dad, the parents presented a red envelope containing "change money". Usually 1001, meaning one in a thousand.

5, the host announced the beginning of the banquet.

Then guests began to eat, the new man was led by his brother-in-law toasting, this time the bride has changed clothes, usually with Chinese characteristics of the cheongsam. The color is usually red, but also pink, style and color are determined by the preferences of the new couple.

(F) back to the door:

In the old custom, the second day of the wedding, to relatives to go away, the newcomer back to the door, take the bride's family to send the family car, at the same time the groom stayed in the house of the father-in-law that night. And in the new wedding, after the wedding ceremony, the bride in the man's home overnight, the next morning, the woman's family to pick up the new couple back. Usually it is the uncle who comes to pick up. At this point, the entire wedding is considered to be over.

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