Children have been particularly rebellious since childhood. How should parents guide correctly?

Adolescent children often show "rebellion". They are no longer "babies" and "good girls" in the eyes of their parents. They unconsciously become less obedient and obedient, and begin to have obvious self-awareness. They began to act on their own, being self-righteous, even contradicting their parents, becoming overbearing and becoming unruly and unreasonable. In fact, this is an extremely normal part of children's growth and a compulsory course in life. We don't have to be anxious about this, but should treat it rationally.

First of all, as parents, we should understand that children will grow up eventually, and one day they will leave their parents' shelter, fly high, meet the challenges of life alone and accept the baptism of nature. In the face of the awakening of children's self-awareness, we should feel gratified, and we should be clear that this is a necessary stage for children's physical and psychological maturity. It is because they are changing from relying on their parents, and everything is arranged by their parents, to thinking independently and trying to reflect their own ideological growth. They are eager to have their own space and freedom, they want to have their own autonomy and hope to be valued by others. Knowing this, we will understand their seemingly rebellious behavior more and blame less.

Of course, our so-called "rebellion" can not be separated from our national conditions. In our traditional culture, the quality of a child is often judged by whether he is obedient or not. Once children stop listening to their parents, they will be labeled as "unfilial" or "unfilial". This kind of thinking has its reasonable components and disadvantages that are not conducive to children's independent growth.

Knowing this, we should not be carried away by children's "rebellion", but at the same time, we should be gratified by children's growth and give them appropriate guidance so that they can successfully pass adolescence and mature. I think we can try it from several aspects:

First, treat children as friends. Establish an equal relationship with children, approach and understand children with a peer mentality, and let children feel that they have a common language with their parents, and are willing to open their hearts, communicate sincerely, and talk to you. Without a sense of distance, they can communicate better and communicate more and less.

Second, guide children to read more books. Let children calm down in reading, understand the true meaning of life from books, and make their thoughts more wise and mature.

Third, the experience in life. Appropriate tolerance for children's words and deeds, so that children can understand right and wrong in the process of speaking and learning, distinguish right from wrong, rather than simply pointing fingers or accusing, which is more likely to trigger children's rebellious psychology and intensify contradictions.

Fourth, tolerance does not mean connivance. Parents can treat some small problems and mistakes that are inevitable in their children's growth with a tolerant attitude, or gently point them out, without making a fuss over a meal. For some serious principled mistakes, parents must be rational, help their children realize the mistakes, correct them in time, and avoid making big mistakes.