Why is Chinese-style love always unreliable?

She said, A friend who is married but not necessarily married through love was chatting with me.

She said: "You have been sharing with you. 'What is love'. But people around me, including me, feel that Chinese people's habitual thinking, or cultural upbringing, treats love and marriage as two different things.

"Everyone is married, but not everyone has experienced love.

I've heard it said: What is love?

Love is a ghost, I have never seen it before.

First, our fathers are ashamed to talk about love, so they don’t mention it when participating in discussions on child marriage.

When a child gets married, his parents will not ask him: Do you love each other?

Parents often focus on practical issues such as buying a house in a school district and settling in a household registration.

So until now, when most Chinese people choose marriage, although they also consider love, they do not regard love as a necessary and sufficient condition for marriage. Instead, they regard the lasting stability of marriage as a more important thing than love and focus on material things.

conditions, social status, etc.

Love is something that two independent talents possess, but in Chinese gender relations, only one can bloom.

This person is the core, and the other person should surround him to satisfy, take care of, and enhance his emotions.

Our growth process seems to be a process of learning to suppress.

Therefore, the phenomenon of Chinese people distinguishing love from marriage is deeply related to our culture, our current economic status and social wealth accumulation level, and our sense of family passed down from generation to generation.

Whether it is developing the social economy, increasing the accumulation of social material wealth, or adjusting our family concepts and parenting concepts, and gradually cultivating people with independent personalities and sound minds, it takes long-term efforts to slowly change.

Before that, let us choose our love and marriage as clearly and prudently as possible based on our own objective circumstances.