The Analects of Making Friends

1. Confucius said: "Three friends are beneficial, and three friends are detrimental. Friends who are straight, forgiving, and knowledgeable are beneficial. Friends who are friendly are open, friends are gentle, and friends who are sycophantic are detrimental." Translation: Confucius said: "Friends who are helpful

There are three kinds of harmful friends. It is beneficial to make friends with integrity, friends with integrity, and friends with broad knowledge. It is beneficial to make friends with people who are flattering and flattering.

Harmful." 2. Confucius said: "Three joys are beneficial, and three joys are detrimental. Enjoying rituals and music, enjoying the kindness of Taoists, and enjoying many virtuous friends are beneficial.

"Translation: Confucius said: "There are three kinds of beneficial happiness, and there are three kinds of harmful happiness. It is beneficial to be happy by abstaining from rituals and music, to be happy to promote the merits of others, and to make friends with virtuous people.

It is harmful to take arrogance and licentiousness as pleasure, to take dissipation as pleasure, to take pleasure in feasting and debauchery as pleasure." 3. Confucius said: "A gentleman has three precepts; when he is young, his blood is not stable, and the precepts are based on sex; and

When he is strong, his blood is strong, and he should be careful about fighting. When he is old, his blood is weak, and he should be careful about gaining. "Translation: Confucius said: "A gentleman has three warnings: when he is young, his blood is not stable, he should be careful about women; when he is in his prime, he should be careful.

When your blood is strong, you must avoid fighting. In old age, when your blood is weakened, you must stop being greedy." 4. The Master said: "A gentleman has three fears: fear of destiny, fear of great people, and fear of the words of sages.

Translation: Confucius said: "A gentleman has three things to fear: fear the destiny, fear the people in high positions, and fear the words of the saints. The villain does not know the justice given by heaven and does not respect it, and is indifferent and contemptuous."

People in high positions make fun of the saints." 5. Confucius said: "There are three mistakes in serving a gentleman: saying something before it is mentioned is called impatience; speaking without saying anything is called concealment; speaking without seeing the color is called "hiding".

"Translation: When you really make friends with a gentleman, you must follow three principles.

When to speak up and when not to speak, you must have a standard.

First, speaking without words is called impatience.

Before you even get to that point, you come out and say it. This is called frizzy, which reflects a person's impatience.

Second, talking about something but not saying it is called hiding.

The topic has reached this point, but you are hesitant, secretive, and don't tell everyone what's in your heart.

Third, if no color is seen, it is called blindness.

"罽" means blind.

A person doesn't look at other people's faces when he speaks, and speaks right away.

It's nonsense.

6. Confucius said: "A gentleman has nine thoughts: to see clearly, to think intelligently, to think warmly in appearance, to think courteously in appearance, to think loyally in words, to think respectfully in deeds, to think doubtful and questioning, to think angry and difficult, and to think meaningfully." Translation: Confucius

Said: "A gentleman has nine things to consider: what he sees is clear, what he hears is clear, the color of his face is gentle, his appearance is courteous, his words are loyal, and what he does must be considered.

Be cautious, consider how to ask people for advice when you have questions, consider whether there are dangers when you are upset, and consider not forgetting your righteousness when you get benefits. "Turn left | turn right Expanded information: As an important representative of Confucianism, Confucius has always been a representative of Confucianism.

They are all figures we talk about. His words recorded in "The Analects of Confucius" have taught us a lot about how to be a human being. Some people even regard some sentences as their own life creeds and adhere to them throughout their lives. And "The Analects of Confucius"

The most beneficial thing among all is Confucius’ “Way of Making Friends”.

There is a sentence in "The Analects": "Zi rarely talked about profit, destiny and benevolence." This sentence in today's terms means: Confucius hardly talked about utilitarianism in his conversations, but supported benevolence and righteousness and believed in destiny.

What is "benevolence"?

Benevolence and justice are benevolence and morality.

The highest expression of politics.

Confucius once said: "If a person is not benevolent, what is the courtesy? If a person is not benevolent, what is happiness?" This is enough to show how important "benevolence" is to a person.

People take their own personal interests more and more seriously, and pay more and more attention to the pursuit of personal interests. In this process, many people have already forgotten "benevolence", so how can they talk about making friends and

When dealing with others, should we talk about "benevolence"?

"A gentleman is represented by righteousness, and a villain is represented by benefit. The first type is called "friendship and straightness." Find an upright person to be your friend. This friend's character is the first priority. He can be straightforward and do not need to spend too much effort. The second type is called "friendship with integrity."

Be friends. Make friends with people who are sincere and trustworthy. But when you are down, they will silently support you. This is a true friend in history.

"The story is a very humble wine given by a high-ranking official to a poor celebrity. This is called a true friend. The third type is called "friends with many stories".