Why can't people go to the grave within one month after death?

You can't go to the grave for only one hundred days after death.

It is a natural law that people can't go to the grave for only one hundred days after death. After the death of the old man, the family will hold various commemorative ceremonies, which is a natural law. Because China has a long cultural history and great regional differences, the customs and habits of different places will be different, which leads to the different ways of offering sacrifices. Among them, going to the grave has many taboos. Let's see why people can't go to the grave for only one hundred days after death.

You can't go to a mass grave only 100 days after death.

I think it's wrong to take it literally. According to our funeral custom here, after a person dies, a Peng Ling will be set up for sacrifice on the same day, and a funeral will be held three days later, followed by "seven days".

That is, from the day of death or funeral, people will go to the grave to worship once every seven days until the 49th day of July 7th. Therefore, people also call it "Burning Seven" and "July Seven".

Obviously, there will be four "sevens" in a month. If we catch up with traditional festivals such as Tomb-Sweeping Day, July 15th and New Year's Eve, the number of grave sweepers in a month will far exceed two. So it is unreasonable not to go to the grave twice a month.

So, why is there such a statement? I guess there are two reasons. First, after death, in addition to normal sacrifices, generally speaking, don't go to the grave again. After all, where you will go is separated by yin and yang.

The word "twice" here does not mean the exact number of times, but the meaning of frequent grave sweeping. The superstition of the older generation is that it is unlucky to go to the grave often, which will make the dead unable to rest in the ground, and the life of the living will also be affected, which can only increase sadness and have no benefit.

Secondly, going to the grave to worship ancestors is an important thing at home, especially when brothers and sisters worship their parents. People in charge of all aspects should take everyone, sweep graves and add soil, burn incense and worship, and go through a whole set of ritual procedures to make them look solemn to their ancestors.

If one person goes to the grave today and one person goes to the grave tomorrow, it will not only appear casual and informal, but also be suspected of neglecting the ancestors. To outsiders, a person will guess that his family is not harmonious, and it is inevitable to point fingers behind his back. At the same time, if parents know the deceased, they will feel deeply uneasy.

"A person doesn't go to the grave for two years"

In the traditional funeral culture, in addition to "burning for seven days", most areas also pay attention to "the first year" and "three years", the most important of which is to avoid the third anniversary.

In the first year, we should pay homage to the grave, commonly known as "the anniversary of burning", also known as "Xiaoxiang"; The second anniversary is called "Daxiang"; The third anniversary is called "except clothes". When we "don't invite" on our first anniversary, we don't invite relatives, friends and neighbors, only family members go to pay homage to the grave.

The second anniversary is "no", that is, no memorial ceremony will be held. On the third anniversary, it will be "unstoppable" and a grand sacrifice will be held. Relatives and friends will hold a ceremony, and the host will also hold a banquet and sing several big plays.

The term "one person doesn't go to the grave for two years" here means that no matter whether he dies in the first year or at the end of the year, even if he dies in the twelfth lunar month, he should try his best to complete all the sacrificial activities within one year and never put it off until the second year, which is considered unlucky by the older generation.

Go to the grave

As I said before, there is no need for sacrifice the year after death. If it continues to the next year, it will have some psychological impact on people, and it is difficult to let go of the sad mood, which will inevitably make people daydream and fear another funeral at home.

"A hundred miles of different winds, a hundred miles of different customs". I don't think it's necessary to dwell on the old saying that "you don't go to the grave twice a month, and a person doesn't go to the grave for two years". The dead are gone, and the living are like this. Everything should proceed from reality.

You can't just go to the grave one hundred days after death.

There should be no meat, meat-like food, including fish, shrimp, beef and so on. Can't be used as an offering to worship ancestors. Generally speaking, the reason why I choose some foods that I often eat is because I can choose some fruits, dried fruits, biscuits and snacks properly, and I can also choose some foods that my ancestors liked to eat before my death, which not only reflects my unique filial piety, but also makes my ancestors happier.

In addition, we all know that offerings are only used to worship ancestors, and ancestors are not allowed to eat them. Even so, when we choose offerings for our ancestors, we must choose carefully. Don't make up for it by buying things casually. This is disrespectful to the behavior of our ancestors and will make them unhappy.

Everyone who salutes the grave should prepare an odd number. Generally, there are at least three kinds of fruits, and fruits and tributes should not be placed at will. Generally, the number has increased by three, six and nine. When you go to the grave, you will bring a lot of things, especially fruits, but there are three things you can't go.

You can't string fruits, such as grapes and longan. If you bring grapes into the ground, it means that you die in a string and go with your ancestors. This is a very unlucky sign.

Fruits cannot be hollow, such as peaches and melons. In this case, going to the grave is heartless and disrespectful to our ancestors.

What are the taboos of going to the grave?

Don't wear too many clothes when sweeping the grave, because sweeping the grave is a serious matter, so try to wear a low profile, and the bright red and purple colors are festive in China, which is not suitable for this occasion.

The purpose of sweeping graves is to worship ancestors, not to have fun. There is a god who holds his head three feet high. It is best to be respectful, careful and cautious when sweeping the grave. Never take pictures in the cemetery, or even take pictures at will, otherwise it will attract bad atmosphere, cause imbalance between Yin and Yang, and damage personal fortune.

From 7:00- 17:00, from the perspective of geomantic omen, it is best to choose a good time to sweep the grave, especially when the sun is strong. Generally speaking, it is best to sweep the grave after 7 am and before 5 pm, and it is not suitable to sweep the grave before dawn and sunset. If you are depressed on the day of grave sweeping, you can wear jade on your body. It is said that wearing jade can calm the mind.

When burning paper money to buy burning paper, don't buy piles of printed matter, one is hundreds of millions. That money is not real, and it is not as valuable as the old ruble and Vietnamese dong. Buy yellow papyrus paper, spread it out, and put a piece of real money of 100 yuan on the paper. I feel that 100 yuan is a stamp, with rows of covers from right to left and from top to bottom until the whole paper is covered.

Fold the pasted paper, divide it into seven or eight pieces with one knife, and fold it diagonally twice, otherwise a stack of paper will be very troublesome to burn. It will be convenient to fold it and burn it. Be sure to keep watching the paper burn before leaving, so as to prevent the fire and wind from blowing it out and being picked up by other passers-by and making the old people unhappy.

You can't go to a mass grave only 100 days after death. Going to the grave is an activity of offering sacrifices to the dead. The second anniversary sacrifice is very important. In China's traditional concept, ancestor worship is closely related to filial piety. If you don't participate in ancestor worship, you are unfilial and forget your ancestors.

Taboos within 0/00 days after the death of a loved one/kloc.

-Avoid posting red couplets.

It is our traditional custom to paste red couplets on Chinese New Year, but if a family member dies, it is forbidden to paste red couplets in front of the door during the first Spring Festival. Now that the society is more open, people are not as taboo as before, but we should still pay attention to these customs introduced above, which is good for future development.

-It is forbidden to visit relatives and friends to attend happy events.

Within 0/00 days of death/kloc-,the immediate family members should be filial at home. Don't travel, visit relatives and friends unless necessary, so as not to bring your sadness to others. During the period of strong filial piety, it is forbidden to visit relatives and friends, especially to attend happy events. Especially weddings, business opening, celebrating the birth of babies and other happy events, it is best not to attend.

-Avoid recreational activities.

In ancient times, if someone in the family died, children generally had to be filial for three years. During these three years, marriage and auspicious celebrations are not allowed. In ancient times, people who paid attention to "ruling the world with filial piety" and served as officials, no matter how old they were, had to take time off to go back to their ancestral homes to observe filial piety after their parents died, which was called "Ding You".

If officials don't go back to their hometowns to observe filial piety, they may be impeached by the censor, punished, or even never hired. If an official gets married, has children, breaks up, has fun, etc. During his anxiety, he will be regarded as unfilial and impeached. In modern society, many people shorten the time of filial piety to one year or even less, but they are afraid that their children will engage in recreational activities.

How to pay homage to a hundred days after death?

One hundred days after death is called "hundred periods" and "more than one hundred days". It is also one of Memorial Day. On this day, the relatives of the deceased usually don't come, but the relatives of the deceased and the close relatives of the younger generation, such as nephews, nephews and married women. , must go to the grave sacrifice. On the first afternoon, the dutiful son will go to the grave to pray for the spirit. He would burn paper to pay homage to the grave, then put a "booth" on his head and walk to the gate. The children will greet him in tears. After dark, he will burn night paper to pay homage. The next morning, after breakfast, he will go to the memorial hall to cry and offer sacrifices, which is called "burning paper for a hundred days".

Secondly, because of environmental protection, the cemetery in the urban area is not allowed to burn paper and wax, so people began to use flowers instead of paper wax. Flowers on graves are usually white or yellow, such as Huang Ju, chrysanthemum, yellow rose, white rose and Bai Baihe. But some people choose light-colored flowers instead of yellow and white, such as champagne roses and pink roses. Remember not to choose bright flowers, bright clothes and so on. When going to the grave, so as not to give people the impression of disrespecting the dead.