What do you think of "favors"?

How do you think about human contact? In the modern world of advanced communication, people feel more lonely, in the pressure of life, loneliness, insecurity, favors often become the last resort. However, what Chinese people experience more often is the pressure of favors rather than the comfort they bring. In order not to turn favors into burdens, we need to manage them with care. There is a principle of managing favors, that is, don't overdraw favors, don't take favors as a trade.

Westerners speak of favors purely for the purpose of gaining pleasure and comfort. Compared with the West, Chinese-style favors are obviously more utilitarian and complex. There is a cost to running a favor. We often need to pay enough on the basis of favor plus a little surplus to achieve their own purposes, which makes the favor has a "debt". Therefore, favors should not be treated as trade. Often, we can't be too concerned about what we gain or lose when it comes to favors. Remember, no one is obligated to be nice to you. What you give in favors may not always be reciprocated. You have to keep a normal mind, friendship is the most important thing, and benefits come second.

Guo Tao and Ding Ning work in two different companies, two people because of work and know each other, become very good friends. When they encountered problems, they would look for each other to talk about them. The other side of the difficulty, also will try to help. Ding Ning has been working for five or six years, with a monthly income of over ten thousand dollars. Guo Tao just graduated from college soon, is a "moonlight family". However, their friendship is still relatively solid. Because Guo Tao income is relatively low, he invited dinner time will not be able to go to any high-end hotel, because he felt that dinner is secondary, communication is the main. Because of Ding Ning's high income, so every time he invited dinner will go to a little better place. When two people make friends, it's just a matter of what they can afford to pay for dinner, so there's no such thing as who owes what to whom. However, Ding Ning would occasionally complain and say some sour words. Gradually, the two people's friendship also appeared cracks, no longer so close.

The buyers and sellers are all unprofitable, no one is happy to do the business of losing money. However, it is not possible to separate the rights and responsibilities of favors as in the case of buying and selling. If you always put the favor hanging on the side of the mouth, their own pay to make each other equal return, that will leave a snobbish, calculating impression. In fact, you pay the favor, others will naturally remember in the heart. If the other side does not buy, even if you remind day after day is useless.