Guiguzi's Way of Courtship (1)

Guiguzi, formerly known as Wang Xu, also known as Wang Chan, was a singer in the Spring and Autumn Period. A famous thinker, strategist and originator of military strategists, he is a legend in the history of China.

Guiguzi was compiled by later scholars according to his remarks, and it is completely preserved in Taoist classic Daozang, which is rich in content and involves politics, military affairs, diplomacy and other fields. Guiguzi's reputation is far-reaching, on the one hand, because of his own wisdom, on the other hand, because of his first sons.

Harmony is the first article of Guiguzi. In terms of opening and closing a portal, closing refers to opening and closing refers to closing, which are a set of opposing actions imposed on the portal. In Guiguzi's ideological system, "sexual intercourse" is an extremely important philosophical concept, which is not only the law of the development and change of all things, but also the fundamental method of lobbying by strategists.

Guiguzi said that the reason why saints are saints is to "keep their doors." It is to conform to the trend of the times and the way of the rise and fall of the world. In the short story "Confucius cries at the smell of Kirin", it also shows that a saint or an excellent person, no matter what job he is engaged in, must have the ability to obtain the trend and development trend of things from the tiny signs of things. In Laozi's On Combining Stiffness with Flexibility, the truth of combining rigidity with flexibility and impartiality is also revealed. These are all for predicting the development process of things, mastering the changes of ordinary people's thinking, grasping the signs of things' changes, and grasping the key to things' development and changes, that is, opening the door.

On the basis of mastering the "way of rise and fall", we should set correct goals, fully understand our own abilities and adopt flexible and changeable ways of doing things. There are no two identical leaves on a tree, and there cannot be two identical people in the world. So Guiguzi thinks that we should learn to talk to anyone we meet. To do this, we need to fully understand others. Only by understanding others comprehensively and profoundly can we control others naturally and achieve our goals better.

Guiguzi also discussed the basic principles of speaking, saying good things first and being honest; Bad things should be said later, in private. The reason is very simple, that is, the word "humanity". Caution is a responsible attitude towards yourself and others.

"In words, in accordance with the lofty; Those who talk to Yin are humble and small. " If you want to have a harmonious interpersonal relationship and let others confide in you, you must fully understand others, especially their voices. Otherwise, you will inevitably encounter the sadness of high and low, or the embarrassment of casting pearls before swine.

Guiguzi's art of making love is, in the final analysis, trying to figure out each other and then thinking about countermeasures. This is also an effective way to avoid disadvantages. What is good for me is internal, and what is harmful to me is external.

Note: In the traditional culture of China, a "saint" refers to a person who combines knowledge with practice and is an infinite existence in a limited world. Generally speaking, "those who are talented and virtuous are called saints." Originally, this word was based on the pursuit of "the best" and "the most beautiful" personality, so the original intention of a saint was to refer specifically to perfection. But then a hundred schools of thought contended, and all kinds of religions and schools, ancient and modern, Chinese and foreign, also had their own saints, but Taoism's Huang Lao column Zhuang; Confucian Yao, Shun, Confucius and Mencius; Dayu and other Mohist sages are recognized by later generations. In the pre-Qin period, the word sage was not exclusive to Confucianism.