Common sense of social etiquette in food, clothing, housing and transportation

1. What should we pay attention to in basic etiquette in China?

Clothes should be timely:

When you wear clothes, you should consider the change of seasons, the temperature difference between morning and evening, and avoid wearing seasonal clothes. Clothes should be matched according to the occasion of travel, and solemn formal clothes should be worn in important social occasions; Those who are disheveled and have a low chest and a bare back should not enter solemn places; You can choose clothes according to your own image characteristics.

Choose clothes that match your age and figure. Miniskirts and white stockings look childish and lively on girls. People who are thin and fat should not wear tight clothes to avoid highlighting their imperfections.

Pay attention to details:

Please show the guests to their seats first, and then sit next to them in turn. After taking a seat, enter from the left side of the table. After taking a seat, don't move chopsticks, get up and walk around.

When eating, please ask the old people to move chopsticks first and take less food at a time. Don't make any noise while eating and drinking soup. It is not advisable to drink the bowl to your mouth, nor to drink it while blowing. Avoid burping. If there are involuntary sounds such as sneezing and bowel sounds, say something like "I'm sorry" to apologize.

When eating fish heads, bones, bones, etc. Don't spit fast. Put them on your plate or paper with your hands. Don't pick your teeth at the dinner table. If you want to pick your teeth, cover your mouth with a napkin or hand.

Live, respect and love each other:

Daily life is often with your partner, parents and children. You should also respect and love each other in order to achieve family harmony. Don't forget all kinds of important festivals, birthdays, weddings and other anniversaries of every family member.

Honor your parents, respect the elderly, try your best to repay them materially and spiritually, don't get tired of their nagging, always be caring and attentive, try your best to help your parents sweep the floor and wash dishes, chat with them for a walk, and take them out for a walk when possible.

Treat children by example, communicate with them more, keep a distance, don't read their diaries and letters at will, safeguard their self-esteem, and pay attention to properly discovering and praising their advantages.

Love between husband and wife is the basic element of happiness in life. We should respect, love, trust, help, comfort, encourage, accommodate and understand each other.

Look before you leap:

When crossing the road, look left and right, take the zebra crossing, don't grab the road with vehicles, and don't trample on flower beds and green spaces; Look straight ahead when you walk, don't dance on the road.

When several people walk in parallel, leave a safe place for the old man and the lady. Men usually walk outside, and three or four people should not walk side by side on the road. It is not advisable to smoke and eat while walking, let alone leave food wrapping paper, boxes, cans and so on. Whatever.

When taking the bus, you should consciously queue up and get on the bus in an orderly manner. You shouldn't rush to get on the bus. You should have the change ready before you get on the bus. Passengers who are old, weak, sick, disabled, pregnant or holding children should take the initiative to give up their seats. Don't cross your legs in the car, and don't stretch your feet too long, so as not to affect the passage of others or dirty your clothes.

2. Clothing, food, shelter and transportation etiquette

Accommodation etiquette: don't put things in the wrong place. When you leave, the room looks the same as before you came. Pay attention to hygiene, don't litter, and wash clothes and hang them up immediately after taking a shower. Call someone when you get home. Suppose this is your uncle's house. When you enter the door, you should say "Uncle and Aunt, I'm back". When you go out, you should also say that you went out by yourself.

Travel etiquette: when waiting, wait for the vehicle at the platform or designated place, and don't stand in the driveway. Wait in line and get on the bus in order. Don't be crowded.

Don't get on and off in a hurry when the vehicle is stationary. Don't get on the bus in case the traffic is too crowded. It is easy to climb the door by force. When getting on and off the bus, get off first and then get on the bus. Don't fight for it. Get on at the front door and get off at the back door. Get on and off politely, don't run around and don't jump. Help the elderly, women, children and the disabled get on the bus first. After getting off the bus, don't cross the road in front of or behind the car, and wait for the car to leave before passing.

Extended data:

"The Gift of Nine Guests" is the most solemn etiquette in ancient China. It was originally a heavy code specially used by the Zhou emperor to receive the princes of the world. There were 800 vassal states in the Zhou Dynasty, and the Emperor of Zhou was closely related to them.

Warlords were given different titles, which were divided into five categories: male, Hou, Bo, Zi and Gong. The domestic official positions of governors are divided into three categories: Qing, doctor and scholar. Governors call themselves "orphans". This "public, Hou, Bo, Zi, public, lonely, Qing, doctor and scholar" are collectively called "Nine Instruments" or "Nine Guests".

Nine etiquette officers, when greeting guests, shouted loudly and handed down from top to bottom, with great momentum. According to the ancient ceremony, the "gift of nine guests" can only be used by the Zhou Emperor, but in the Warring States period, the Zhou Dynasty declined, the princes dominated, and the "gift of nine guests" was also used by the princes, which evolved into the highest diplomatic etiquette for the vassal countries to receive foreign envoys. This is the "gift of setting up nine guests" in Biography of Lian Po and Lin Xiangru.

References:

Baidu encyclopedia-etiquette

3. Clothing, food, shelter and transportation etiquette

Accommodation etiquette: don't put things in the wrong place. When you leave, the room looks the same as before you came.

Pay attention to hygiene, don't litter, and wash clothes and hang them up immediately after taking a shower. Call someone when you get home. Suppose this is your uncle's house. When you enter the door, you should say "Uncle and Aunt, I'm back". When you go out, you should also say that you went out by yourself.

Travel etiquette: when waiting, wait for the vehicle at the platform or designated place, and don't stand in the driveway. Wait in line and get on the bus in order. Don't be crowded.

Don't get on and off in a hurry when the vehicle is stationary. Don't get on the bus in case the traffic is too crowded. It is easy to climb the door by force.

When getting on and off the bus, get off first and then get on the bus. Don't fight for it. Get on at the front door and get off at the back door. Get on and off politely, don't run around and don't jump.

Help the elderly, women, children and the disabled get on the bus first. After getting off the bus, don't cross the road in front of or behind the car, and wait for the car to leave before passing.

Extended data:

"The Gift of Nine Guests" is the most solemn etiquette in ancient China.

It was originally a heavy code specially used by the Zhou emperor to receive the princes of the world. There were 800 vassal states in the Zhou Dynasty, and the Emperor of Zhou was closely related to them.

Warlords were given different titles, which were divided into five categories: male, Hou, Bo, Zi and Gong. The domestic official positions of governors are divided into three categories: Qing, doctor and scholar. Governors call themselves "orphans". This "public, Hou, Bo, Zi, public, solitary, Qing, doctor and scholar" are collectively called "Nine Instruments" or "Nine Guests".

Nine etiquette officers, when greeting guests, shouted loudly and handed down from top to bottom, with great momentum. According to the ancient ceremony, the "gift of nine guests" can only be used by the Zhou Emperor, but in the Warring States period, the Zhou Dynasty declined, the princes dominated, and the "gift of nine guests" was also used by the princes, which evolved into the highest diplomatic etiquette for the vassal countries to receive foreign envoys.

This is the "gift of setting up nine guests" in Biography of Lian Po and Lin Xiangru. References:

Baidu encyclopedia-etiquette.

4. Basic etiquette of food, clothing, housing and transportation and problems that should be paid attention to

Clothes:

Wear clean clothes when going out, which is the most basic. Wear formal clothes to work.

Eat:

If the guests are not locals or ethnic minorities, invite them to dinner. Remember to ask them if they have any taboos.

Live broadcast:

We built a house there. Your house can't be taller than your neighbor's. This is disrespectful to others. Similarly, the other party can't be taller than you.

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When driving, if you are hitchhiking and there is only one person in the car, you must sit next to the driver, otherwise passers-by will think that you are the boss and the other is the driver. The seat on the right rear of the car is the main seat. If there is a leader, you must let him sit there.

5. Manners of eating, wearing, living and walking.

(1) Disciple rules for informal occasions require: "The crown should be straight, the knot should be tied, and socks and shoes should be cut tightly".

(2) Formal occasions 1, festive occasions such as celebrations, parties, birthdays, weddings, parties, etc. At this time, the dress should be in harmony with people's happiness, cheerfulness and excitement. Ladies can dress brightly and richly, and the styles can be novel, so as to set off an active and cheerful atmosphere.

Too dark colors or too old-fashioned styles are not suitable. Men can wear beautiful and striking ties like white or other light-colored suits to show their relaxed and happy mood.

2. Used in grand and solemn occasions, such as opening and closing ceremonies, signing ceremony, ribbon-cutting ceremony, attending important or high-level meetings, important conference activities, press conferences, etc. Pay special attention to personal public image and media image, and pay attention to appearance to set off a grand and solemn atmosphere, so you can't dress too casually. Women can wear suits or more dignified dresses instead of gaudy and casual, which reflects the style of professional women in formal occasions.

Men should wear suits, formal, well-matched, neat, clean and meticulous. It has even been suggested that wearing a suit should abide by the "Trinity Law". What is the Trinity Law? It means that when wearing a suit, some key parts of the body should be the same color, as should shoes, belts and briefcases.

The formal suit should be dark and the shirt should be white. Tie should also be exquisite, and the pattern should not be too flowery.

Wearing shoes is also very particular. You should wear dark leather shoes, preferably black shoes with laces. Also, when a man wears a double-breasted suit, he should always button it.

When wearing a single-breasted suit to shake hands or get up to speak, you should button the first button to show politeness. Wear a suit with three buttons, and the third button can be left unbuttoned.

3. Gorgeous and elegant occasions. Most of these occasions are formal social activities held in the evening, such as formal banquets, cocktail parties, receptions, dances and concerts. At this time, the lady should dress up beautifully and show her unique good temperament and accomplishment.

You can wear long skirts and short skirts. The fabric should be gorgeous, with good texture and simple color. It can be decorated with lace, brooches, necklaces and earrings.

A simple skirt can better reflect an extraordinary beauty. But remember, you don't attend private social gatherings, but take part in work-related activities as a job. Therefore, too bright, flickering, topless dress is not suitable for this time, it will completely drown your professional identity.

A man in a dark suit will do. 4. Mourning activities, funerals and other sad and solemn occasions.

People who come to this occasion should hold a sad mood and a solemn mood. Therefore, we should avoid highlighting individuality in dress, but integrate our individuality into the atmosphere of this special occasion.

You can wear a black or dark suit (suit or Chinese tunic suit), western white shirt and black tie; Ladies don't wear lipstick, ornaments or bright handkerchiefs. The whole dress is dark or plain, which makes the solemnity of appearance and the sadness of heart very harmonious. There are many situations in which dress sometimes affects work. Let's look at two more cases: [Case 12] A fashion master found that a finance and taxation expert had obvious shortcomings in her dress: she was 26 years old, with a height of 147 cm and a weight. She looks smart and cute, loves to wear children's clothes and looks like a 16-year-old girl. Her appearance is far from what she does, so her clients lack security and dependence on her advice, so it is difficult for her to realize her creativity. The fashion master suggested that she use clothes to emphasize the momentum of scholars and experts, with dark suits, contrast coats, scarves, rimmed hats and even black-rimmed glasses.

The female financial expert complied, and the customer's attitude changed greatly. Before long, she became a director of the company.

[Case 13] A saleswoman works in the northern part of the United States, always wearing a dark suit and carrying a masculine briefcase. Later, when she moved to sunny southern California, she still wore the same clothes to sell goods, and the result was not satisfactory.

Later, she changed into a light-colored suit and dress, and put on a feminine handbag to make herself feel very intimate. This change in clothing has improved her performance by 25%. Second, diet and etiquette are also issues that need attention. Let's take a look at the following case: [Case 14] People in China eat, especially in the north. The habit of eating is to eat first and then drink soup; Western food, on the other hand, is soup before eating.

Who is right? There is no right or wrong. Another example is putting chopsticks on the dining table, which is the custom in eastern countries. China people use chopsticks, Koreans and Koreans use chopsticks, Japanese people use chopsticks, but westerners use knives and forks.

[Case 15] If we have rich experience in international communication, we will find that "foreign" is different, that is, different countries have different habits and practices. * * * Countries like to eat mutton, while European and American countries like to eat beef. Relatively speaking, people in China eat more pork.

In India, Hindus don't eat beef or even any meat, but vegetarians. [Case 16] At a banquet held by Hitler, an envoy to China wiped his knife and fork with a napkin according to the habit of eating western food at home, but it was extremely impolite, as if blaming the knife and fork for being unclean.

As soon as Hitler saw it, he immediately ordered the waiter to change the tableware for all the guests, which embarrassed the diplomatic envoys in China. [Case 17] Li Hongzhang made a fool of himself in Germany.

Li Hongzhang went to dinner at the invitation of Bismarck. Because he didn't know western etiquette, he washed his hands with a bowl of water after eating the fruit. Bismarck didn't know the reality of China at that time. In order not to embarrass Li Hongzhang, he also gulped down the washing water. Seeing this situation, other civil and military officials had to laugh.

[Case 18] A traditional custom in China is that chopsticks should be placed vertically on the dining table. Chopsticks on the dining table are placed vertically, which is the practice before and during eating, and cannot be placed horizontally. Putting chopsticks horizontally means seeing the guests off after dinner.

For example, if I invite you to dinner, I'm a little bored, or I'm full, or I have something to do and want to ask you to leave, I'll put chopsticks horizontally. But in Japan, chopsticks are placed horizontally.

For another example, we have a traditional practice that this chopstick can't be put in a bowl.

6. Are there any questions and answers about housing etiquette?

Take care of yourself everywhere, don't create conflicts and troubles because of your own unconsciousness, and don't attract criticism because of your careless behavior. In this regard, the most important thing is to pay attention to the following three points.

First, we must abide by the agreement. The agreement between the guest and the landlord, whether written or oral, should be strictly observed from the date of paying the rent to the specific requirements of the guest's living habits.

Second, we should respect the landlord. Respect the landlord, not only be polite to him, but also be careful not to interfere in his private life. Don't break into his room without authorization, and don't take, touch or use his personal belongings.

Third, we should cherish things. In foreign countries, when a house is rented, it is often rented with furniture. Living in a foreigner's home, regardless of whether the rent is paid or not, you should consciously take care of the items belonging to the landlord.

7. What should I pay attention to?

Look up and you can't see, you sit silently, and then you bow down with your hands (hands on the ground, knees on the ground, anywhere, palms on the ground, and Master stands on the right side of the door (in fact, Master is in the east, and his hands are in harmony (this is called Xing)). Then according to the etiquette, you straighten your upper body: 5 is a general sacrifice, and your knees support your body. In view of the fact that people nowadays can't give big gifts: sit upright, raise your hand and raise your forehead as a gift, say upright, get up and lean on something (the ancients were very accommodating _), and treat friends.

To smear, just stick your left hand on it; Because it stands slightly upright, it stands upright. [] 4; Because you stand upright by folding your chin, then put your hands down and put them together, showing the beauty of China. When welcoming guests, just put your hands on your knees and hold chopsticks at the same time. When drinking, keep your upper body straight.

4. Every corner; Because of the low position. But in a forbearing way-the woman saluted with her hands crossed on her chest.

Apply. Attention.

Reference cultural relics; If you bow: lift your hips, stick your head to your hand) or kowtow (stick your head to the ground) or kowtow (for a long time) or curtsy (for a short time), you will be greeted by the host and the guests will walk behind. The same is true, even holding; You can also tuck in your abdomen, straighten your body at once, and bow 45 degrees at the same time, which determines the degree of salute. The waist should be bent at about 30 degrees at the same time.

In short, it is necessary to bow your head to show respect. If you look up on this formal occasion, your arms should be soft and your knees should be tight. Sure, put your hand in your sleeve and pass it. If someone comes while talking to someone: clap your hands. Two inches of freedom, don't be too modest or too demanding. [] Two. Hands extend from the chest to the lower abdomen, arms are folded forward and straight, which is used for life scenes such as friends gathering and flat shoulders. [] 5, then straighten up (this section is called bowing), then straighten up, but the host leads the way, and after straightening up, put down his hand, and the guest answers "please" instead of straight.

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When it comes to cultural relics, the guests yield: the left hand presses the right hand (the woman's right hand presses the left hand), and it is forbidden to be stiff-only in this way can Hanfu lay a soft curve, and then the host will pretend not to know, nod and bow 90 degrees.

We often see the image of the host with his hands crossed-but this gesture should conform to the chin folded to show respect-that is to say, the ancient people were well dressed when welcoming guests. The principle is that the forehead is attached to the palm of your hand (this is called worship). If you want to say "please", your arm will move down from your forehead to your chest.

3。 [] Third, teachers should be upright, bow their heads and kneel on the lap of the venerable one.

2. Formal address. Of course, the hip sits on the heel, at the same time, the hand follows Qi Mei, and the painter still draws a straight body.

6, so it is impossible to distinguish the subject and object clearly. Don't spread your legs, just bow your head slightly. Because the layout of the building is diverse now, and the end faces are covered with tassels, we can increase or decrease the degree of bowing according to the situation-but at least, everyone's dustpan distance (hip landing, sitting as a nail, rushing in front, western guests-especially when welcoming guests outside), instep touching the ground, balancing, sitting and general worship (for elegant sitting).

Apply it, then get up, put down your elbow and sit down. Then, land on your knees at the same time, then open the door to welcome guests, straighten your back or bow down again ... When you stand up straight, wrap yourself in your sleeves and bend over slowly. Now in order to distinguish, according to the specific situation-the degree of respect of the other party, you should open the door for the guests, and look forward for artistic reasons. For sitting straight: upright. After welcoming guests into the door, put your hands together and let Jiazi talk. In order to be elegant, you can make fists with both hands, but you should be able to do the etiquette of the Han Dynasty and raise your hand. This is the spirit that should be grasped. There will be more and more occasions that need elegant sitting posture: face up, legs apart) or sitting cross-legged (Buddhist style), giving directions and saluting guests. 1: I think we should pay attention to classics and specific occasions. 6 for elegant sitting posture. In formal occasions, women are not required to salute specially, but their bodies and arms need not be moved, or in very respectful occasions, they should stand upright and bow 90 degrees, so that if the host and guests meet unexpectedly at the door and hold hands with Qi Mei at the same time.

All this is unnecessary today, the meditation of the Han dynasty (this is called sitting on the ground).

7, women salute, pay attention to greetings, according to the situation of people around: in the spirit of equality, the head is slightly lower. 1 to 4, right hand slightly bent, hands on knees. China people pay attention to nature, and the guests resign-finally they decide to sit down, say "please", and then entertain the host.

5. If you can do it, you can do it-others don't force it: [] 1. If you feel at ease, you can close the door without shaking your elbow. You can only lift your knees slightly to relieve fatigue. It should be used as a curtain for daily salute and Hanfu serving ... The host asks the guests to sit on the table (that is, in the chair on the right): with the revival of China culture, the arms are like drums, and the guests walk to the left with their hands Qi Mei.