How to look at the strict father and mother

The Advantages of Being a Strict Parent Traditionally, China has emphasized that "the man is the master of the house and the woman is the master of the family," and when it comes to educating their children, it is also the case that husbands play the role of the red face while their wives play the role of the white face. But today, these differences are becoming increasingly blurred. In the minds of many children, their mothers strictly regulate their own lives, while their fathers are more open-minded and tolerant. The traditional image of "strict father and kind mother" is being replaced by "strict mother and kind father".　　According to Prof. Wo Jianzhong of the Institute of Developmental Psychology at Beijing Normal University, this is not a good thing. "Children learn by example. The education of strict mothers and fathers has a negative impact on the formation of gender identity, which is not conducive to the cultivation of male vigor in boys, nor is it conducive to the cognition of male masculinity and rationality in girls, and boys and girls are unable to y appreciate the gentleness and consideration of women (mothers). Therefore, modern society still needs to emphasize strict fathers and mothers, with men playing the role of family authority."　Prof. Pan Suiming, director of the Institute of Sexuality Studies at the School of Social Sciences of Renmin University of China, pointed out that children, especially boys, are prone to admire their father's image, ability and authority from a very young age. Therefore, it is more in line with the child's psychological foundation for the father to take the lead in cultivating a healthy personality and self-reliance. Since children are accompanied and cared for by their mothers day and night from the time they are born, they are accustomed to receiving care from their mothers, and it is more appropriate for mothers to be primarily responsible for cultivating their children's rich emotions, moral consciousness and psychological adjustment ability.　Wojianzhong suggests that in front of the children, the mother should help the father to establish an authoritative image, and encourage the husband to make more decisions. Over time, husbands will naturally become more involved in their children's education. In addition, between strict and merciful, parents also need to communicate more, to reach an agreement, not a single strict, a single merciful. For example, some children are greedy at night and refuse to go to bed, he found that it is useless to beg his father to go to bed later, but it is useless to beg his mother, for a long time, the child will know that "his father will satisfy him". The child lacks the ability to recognize right from wrong, and over time, the parent's educational authority is gradually replaced by the child's weighing of interests. If a child says he or she doesn't want to go to bed early, it's best for the mom to ask "what's your dad's opinion". At the same time, no matter who plays "peacemaker", not only to appease the child, but also to tell him why, explain what is right and what is wrong.