Eight fallacies in the traditional concept of mother-in-law

Lead: Although the development of China is very rapid, the economy has gone up, and some people's thoughts have not kept up. For example, in the traditional view of mother-in-law, they always think that daughter-in-law should abide by three obedience and four virtues. So what does the mother-in-law want from her daughter-in-law? What are their fallacies?

Myth 1: Daughter-in-law can remarry, but there is only one mother.

This is the voice of all mother-in-law. When her son was young, she began to cultivate filial piety. After her son got married, she still hung this sentence on her lips, for fear that her son would marry his daughter-in-law and forget her mother. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law complained to her son with tears. If the wife didn't stop her, she would not live, suggesting that her son remarried.

Myth 2: Daughter-in-law should use violence to train.

In the eyes of some mother-in-law, a good daughter-in-law is made. In order to show her majesty, we should also serve her in French. Therefore, if she is slightly dissatisfied, she will provoke her son. If she wants to control her woman, she must show the strength of men. Only domestic violence can make a daughter-in-law obey.

Myth 3: Everything about you belongs to your husband's family.

What is a daughter-in-law in the eyes of her mother-in-law? Family? But what about this? Family? I don't want to treat you as my daughter, but I want you to do dirty work when you should be working, work hard when you should be working, and get paid by the month, because you are from our family, and all your food and clothes are from our family.

Myth 4: It's natural for a mother-in-law to stay at her son's house.

No matter who bought the house, no matter who earned more money, my mother-in-law said, if you marry my son, this is my home. It is natural for my mother to live in her son's house. You don't like your leaving. So in order to keep their sons, grandchildren and buildings, they firmly live in your house.

Myth 5: Daughter-in-law is to carry on the family line.

The unfilial son is the biggest. Marrying a daughter-in-law is to have children, and having children is to continue the incense. No matter you are a returnee or a white-collar worker, you can't have a boy, so you can't even keep the title of daughter-in-law. In the mother-in-law's house, this education and appearance are secondary, and the one who inherits the incense is a good wife.

Myth 6: I am the boss or my son is the boss in this family.

Many mother-in-law will think that she is the oldest in this family, everything must be decided by her, and the daughter-in-law should learn to please and obey. If it's not her call, it's not your turn, because in their minds, a man is the head of the family, and you have to listen to your husband. So the daughter-in-law has no position in the family.

Myth 7: Your daughter-in-law will never be as good as the one next door.

The more you do, the more mistakes you make. The bigger you are if you don't make mistakes. No matter how you behave, you will always be right in the eyes of your mother-in-law, and you will never be as modest, filial and virtuous as other people's daughter-in-law. Why, the answer is simple: can she be comfortable if you take her heart away? The son next door has nothing to do with her, and the quality of the daughter-in-law can't hinder her eyes. She just likes to find fault with you sincerely and make you angry.

Myth 8: Since I take care of your children, I will take care of their affairs.

For her mother-in-law, her son and grandson are her closest relatives, so it is normal to help her with her grandchildren. However, when there is disagreement about the child, she will definitely say: You have only been looking after the child for a few days. Before, I mentioned the father of the child. Now I watch my grandchildren grow up every day. I am more experienced than you. I told you, I was right. In the eyes of her mother-in-law: I brought up my grandson, and everything about him can only be my decision. If you don't agree, she will be anxious with you at once.