How important is the father's sense of existence? Scientific experiments have confirmed that it is smarter for fathers to participate in raising children.

In today's society, when it comes to letting dad take care of the baby, mothers keep popping up unreliable pictures of plastic bags for babies, leggings for walking babies and so on.

"Dad takes care of the baby" is not reliable, but also because of the limitations of our traditional concept. In our traditional culture, taking care of children has always been the responsibility of mothers, and the role played by fathers here is very vague.

Therefore, there are many "widowed children" in today's society, and fathers are excessively weakened in the company of children, ignoring the existence of fathers, which is the regret of the whole family.

According to the data of the White Paper on Parent-child Companionship in China in 20 17, in 55.8% of the families, the mother is the main force to accompany the children, while only 12.6% and 16.5% of the families are accompanied by the father. At the same time, my father's company time is only 2.9 hours on weekdays and 7.7 hours on weekends, which is far lower than the mothers' 4.6 hours and 10.9 hours.

These data clearly tell us, who is the main force with the baby? It must be mom. So what are the benefits of dad taking care of the baby?

A study by Yale University in the United States lasted 12 years. The follow-up survey from infancy to adolescence shows that the children brought out by fathers have higher IQ, better grades in school and more success in society in the future.

Because the father has some qualities that the mother doesn't have, such as his calmness and rationality, which can be passed on to the children through interaction, which is also of great benefit to the growth of the children.

The University of Newcastle, England, has also made an analysis, and investigated 1 1000 50-year-old Britons born at the same time, and found that there is a correlation between them, that is, people whose fathers took part in taking care of their children in childhood will have higher IQ.

When a father is a child, he often does not play cards according to common sense. This seemingly unreliable parent-child interaction can only be done when fathers have a particularly large brain hole. Playing between father and son can not only improve IQ, but also cultivate creativity.

In the family, my mother is good at thinking in images and is more emotional; But dad is the representative of reason. They are good at logical thinking and abstract thinking. These two kinds of thinking have different effects on children.

For example, dad teaches children to do math problems, and his good logical thinking and abstract thinking can help children build strong mathematical logic and abstract thinking. The thinking in images that mothers are good at will make children start from life and be more suitable for cultivating children's interests and mathematical enlightenment.

It seems that if children want to be good at math, they have to rely on their father's participation.

A child's sports and physical coordination ability is good, mainly depends on who the child's first physical education teacher is. Usually, fathers like playing basketball, running, playing football or rock climbing more than mothers, so many children's sports concepts and habits come from their fathers.

In the process of father taking children to exercise, it can cultivate their indomitable spirit, strong willpower and persistent belief.

Many fathers will encourage their children to do some challenging sports, so that children will develop a logic of bravely facing problems and analyzing and solving problems in their later development, be responsible for themselves, and maintain their father's perseverance and courage.

As mentioned earlier, father has always been the representative of reason. In the face of children, fathers tend to be tolerant and free, especially when children make mistakes. In the face of the mistakes made by children, mothers will choose "broken thoughts". In contrast, the father's tolerance and freedom are more likely to cultivate children's self-confidence and enhance their sense of security.

If a father can cooperate with his mother, a careful and rational father can make his children accept their parents' advice.

I remember accidentally breaking a bowl when I was a child. My mother can talk about it all day. At that time, whenever my mother talked about it, I had a headache, just like Tang Yan's mantra. But my father is not a nag. He just asked briefly, and then asked me to clean up the mess. Remember to be careful next time.

So, why are fathers heroes in the hearts of many children? Because the father dares to let the children do everything and try everything, it gives the children a sense of accomplishment.

Hubbard, a famous British writer, said, "One father is better than a hundred principals." For boys, the father is an example of their own learning. He is brave, rational and wise and will try his best to imitate his father. For girls, the father is the first male image they come into contact with in their lives. Through their father, they know and recognize men and know how to get along with the opposite sex.

Traditionally, mothers have always been the main force to take care of children, but today, taking care of children is indispensable.

If you want children to have a strong parent-child relationship with their fathers, then mothers should learn to let go and let their fathers participate. Even if fathers are busy every day, they still need to do something for their children, such as spending ten minutes playing with their children, helping them with their homework, or chatting with them.

Only when the mother lets go properly can the father have the opportunity and space to develop the skills of caring for the children. In front of the children, the mother should leave her several weaknesses to her father as his exclusive specialty.

The reason why fathers participate in the process of taking care of children is to leave a complete father image on children. Parents and fathers take care of their children in different ways, and their parenting functions are also different.

Mother is caring, nurturing and tolerant, while father is strong, intelligent and disciplined. Mother is more emotional and introverted, and father is more rational and extroverted. Only by balancing the two can children grow up healthily and completely.

In the process of children's growth, the mother's warm care is much more, and the father's companionship experience is less, so the father's role in parenting may not be fully exerted.

If mothers are still worried about the unreliable way dad takes care of their children, they can also solve it by avoiding nagging, complaining, accusing and other ineffective ways.

The father's brain will automatically block nagging and "gossiping", so what the mother said is equivalent to nothing, so let the father take care of the children. If we have to explain the main points of our father, we can tell each other in the simplest and most direct way:

"There is a coat in the bag, and it will be cold when you come back later. Put it on the child. "

"The child recently got angry. Try not to give him sugar and let him drink more water. "

A child may be alienated from his father because he lacked his father's company before. Mothers can help fathers find some ways to please their children. For example, bring a small gift to your child when you come back from a business trip. Or play games with children and build relationships. Such as pillow fights, building blocks, running and playing basketball. This is often played at home and mothers should encourage fathers to play with their children.

Mom should make more use of resources to help dad prepare materials.

Mom can help dad prepare toys in advance, or story books, picture books, etc. Of course, it also includes some books about dad's parenting.

What children like best is playing and listening to stories. A father can choose a suitable picture book, read it to his children, and learn how to get along with them in the process of telling stories.

Regarding the choice of picture books, we can choose some books that are more suitable for fathers and children, so that fathers can also figure out the tricks of taking care of children when reading stories, making it easier for them to get along with children.

For example, Thank you for being a daddy's baby, Watching Owls under the Moon, Reading with Dad, Little Bear and the Best Dad, and so on.

In terms of toys, dad can choose some toys that he is good at, such as Lego, building blocks, intellectual board games, various ball games and so on.

It can be seen how important the father's influence on the child is, and it is urgent to involve the child's father. "Widowed parenting" is widely circulated in this society, accusing the father of his absence. In contrast, mothers have many good examples for their children in life.

If maternal love is natural, then paternal love is also awakened. Science has proved that the children brought out by fathers are excellent and clever.

I am a nurse of a 4-year-old baby and a mother of a 4-year-old baby. If you have any problems in the process of raising and educating children, please come to me. I hope my advice can help you solve the confusion and troubles in the process of taking care of your baby and let our children grow up better!