Understanding of Traditional Cultural Etiquette in China

In ancient China, the ceremony was used to determine intimacy, suspicion and distinguish right from wrong. "Interpretation of Names" said: "Rites are also physical. The body of the word is also. " "Li Qi" said: "Faith is the foundation of ceremony; Righteousness and reason, the text of ceremony is also. No foundation, no words. " Politeness is the basis of one's behavior. It is also a standard for people to be human.

Second, the connotation of "ceremony"

(a) the nature of the ceremony.

The ideal feudal social order advocated by Confucianism is the distinction between nobility and inferiority, between young and old, and between relatives and friends, which requires people's lifestyle and behavior to conform to their status within the family and social and political status. Different identities have different codes of conduct, which is politeness. Rites have distinct class nature and differences. Therefore, the ancients pointed out that the characteristics of etiquette are "different" (Xunzi Yue Lun) or "different" (The Book of Rites and Music). The Book of Rites says: "Therefore, the philosophers decided to be close to each other, be suspicious, seek differences and distinguish right from wrong." Another cloud said, "Kill relatives, respect the virtuous, etc. It is also a gift. " Han Feizi (see Han Fei) said: "Courtesy ... the friendship between the monarch, the minister and the father is also expensive and unworthy." Dong Zhongshu Yun: The owners are arranged according to grade, grade, size and distance.

(2) Politeness principle

1, the principle of "respect": in all kinds of interpersonal activities, we should respect each other on the premise of mutual respect, not harm each other's interests, and at the same time maintain self-esteem.

2. "Abide by" principle: Abide by social morality, be punctual and trustworthy, be sincere and friendly, and be modest and easy-going.

3. Principle of "moderation": Modern etiquette emphasizes that the communication between people must be moderate. On different occasions and different objects, people should always be modest, natural and graceful, and grasp a certain degree of discretion.

4. "Self-discipline" principle: Before asking the other party to respect themselves, both parties should first check whether their behavior meets the requirements of etiquette norms.