Forgotten etiquette excellent composition

There are many things in this world that we have forgotten.

As a teenager.

My mother once warned me that grandpa should not move chopsticks when eating, so you children should never move.

I looked up and asked: Why?

This is the rule. Mother primly.

Since then, every time I eat, I always look forward to grandpa moving chopsticks early. However, my grandfather is a kind and simple old man, who always whispers to me: Hey, eat more and grow faster. Then, watching me eat my first bite of rice, he went over and began to eat.

With grandpa's connivance, I soon forgot this rule. My mother scolded me, and I always said plausibly: Grandpa told me to eat first! Mother had to sigh helplessly.

When I grow up, I become a teacher and then a reporter. In the process of seeing off and socializing, I realized that there are so many stresses on this small dining table: what is the theme, second, third, the purchasing unit ... Many times, even I don't know where to sit. Later, I took the simplest way-sitting by the door, because it was the most inconspicuous place. I think there is nothing wrong with looking down on yourself and looking up to others.

Many times, in some communication occasions, I saw some people give up their topics to each other. When you give up, I can't help but whisper: There are too many red tape articles in China. Is this necessary?

I am a casual person, and I hope everything is simple. Although eating and drinking outside often guards that humble position, eating at home is never sloppy, even if it is eating at the same table with parents. What posture, who moves chopsticks first, has never been particular. At home, make yourself at home.

Once, my friends and I went to Guangshui, Hubei Province on business, and local friends greeted us warmly. After a full meal, a local friend went in advance. He stretched out his left hand, palm to himself, and drew a half circle in the air with chopsticks in his right hand and said, "I'm finished. Eat slowly."

I was surprised and asked if there was anything special. My friend Xia Lie, who has been in the local business for many years, is familiar with local customs, so she introduced me to this kind of dining "sign language". It turns out that there are three kinds of sign language: the palm of the left hand is always facing itself, and the chopsticks are held in the palm of the right hand, indicating that the parents are alive; One hand holds chopsticks in the palm of his left hand, indicating that one parent is alive; The third kind, as shown by friends, means that both parents are dead.

I suddenly realized that I was busy asking what this gesture meant. The other party paused and smiled: I don't know, it has been passed down from generation to generation. Listening to the old people, this is warning us that we should think about our parents every time we finish eating ... My heart is hot and I drink: I propose a toast to this rule!

That night, in the hotel, I tossed and turned and couldn't sleep. At dinner, did I, did we think about our parents?

As the ancients said, the gift of a warehouse. In this era of increasingly rich materials, etiquette is also developing day by day. What table manners, office manners, venue manners ... The lecture by etiquette expert Professor Jin set off a craze for the whole people to learn manners. China is a country of etiquette, and etiquette is really a good thing. However, when we learn to treat leaders, customers, friends and other complete etiquette in a polite and proper way, we have never thought about what kind of etiquette we should use to treat our old father and mother who gave birth to me and raised me, paid all our lives and grew old day by day. This is really a kind of irony and ridicule. It is good to treat people sincerely, but we also need etiquette to support the norms when dealing with people. Can you ignore it when you treat your parents? They are the people who need to be remembered and appreciated most in our generation.

Do parents sit in the main seat when they go home for dinner? Parents didn't move chopsticks. Did we move chopsticks? When toasting our parents, do we stand up with cups in our hands? ……

We give enough respect to others, even strangers; But when dealing with life, the parents who gave their lives have less respect.

Suddenly, I remembered a little thing about a friend. His father died early and his mother brought him up. He is a dutiful son. After his mother died, within three years, every time he ate, he would definitely put a bowl of rice at the main table and a pair of chopsticks beside him. He said: the ancients had to be filial to their parents for three years, but I couldn't. When I can give my mother a meal for at least three years, her life is not easy. Is it difficult for us to do this?

Yes, it is difficult to respect the basic etiquette of parents.