Handsome and beautiful, this super-dressed 50-year-old girl showed us that women should stick to their own lives-

Thanks to Magic Lily for accepting an exclusive interview with Fancy Man.

I first met Lily because of her sharing on social platforms.

It's not superficial show-off, exaggerated show-off, but my understanding of fashion, art, life and beauty, gentle and powerful, beautiful and interesting.

She shared her dressing experience:

Not blindly following, not following, not being persistent: "The best dress style suits you, and self-confidence is the best cosmetic. After fixing your own style, you can spend 65,438+00% of your time trying new things and meet more surprises every year. "

She talked about the growth of women;

Loving oneself is a woman's lifelong lesson: "Don't consume yourself, take care of your choices and feelings, and enriching yourself is more powerful than attaching to others."

She talked about her experience with the children:

The best parent-child relationship is to be friends with children: "set boundaries and treat her like a friend;" Shift the focus to yourself; Listen more and talk less; Believe in her ability; Give her a chance to make mistakes. "

Lily's daughter's photo.

I am alone overseas, and I have experienced storms in my thirties. I have hopes, doubts and fears about how my life will unfold in the next few decades. Seeing fifty-year-old Lily is so comfortable, beautiful and energetic makes me full of hope and expectation for the coming second life! Thank you for bringing me positive energy.

—— User @maple

I like kind and natural narration, love life and pursue beauty. People need to have these spiritual pursuits when they reach middle age, so that they can have hope and sustenance on the road of life in the future. Friends who don't know but are very close will pass by your world for a short time every day. Add some color to your life.

—— User @NAN

This "over 500" woman, without the inherent impression of this era in the secular sense, still blooms poetically in the right season like a rose.

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About beauty

She said

I am not perfect, but I am beautiful.

You too

Beauty is the most intuitive feeling that Lily gives many people, and it is also the first reason why many people like her.

In most people's aesthetic consciousness, beauty and beauty are always naturally given to older young people, as if they should not be beautiful or beautiful. Under such a group consciousness, women have accepted such psychological hints after 40 or even earlier, and are more and more perfunctory to themselves.

However, 50-year-old Lily, although her youth has passed away, has not the slightest sense of depression. Her firm eyes and warm and bright smile have been showing her beautiful side to the world.

I like Lily's words very much: I am not perfect, but I am beautiful, which not only shows her attitude towards beauty, but also conveys an idea to us: every woman can be beautiful without any restrictions.

Age is not an obstacle to beauty.

Lily has met many old people who are still exquisite and elegant.

"Once I went to buy clothes and was with a lady ten years older than me. She is very elegant. She can hold any clothes in the shop. "

"Really don't be afraid of age. Aging is not necessarily ugly. Wrinkles also represent beauty and wisdom. "

In Lily's view, no matter you are in your twenties, forties and fifties, or seventies and eighties, every age can have the beauty and elegance that can't be reproduced at that age, and with the passage of time, the temperament polished by the ups and downs of life can be even more amazing.

Material is not a reason for perfunctory beauty.

Lily told a story when she was a child. In that era when the streets were full of "blue ants", she noticed that some aunts wore the same clothes as everyone else, but they would do a lot of details: for example, putting white-collar workers outside navy blue cotton-padded jackets; Or show a little white cuffs ..... They still insist on beauty when they are scarce.

In Lily's wardrobe, the same clothes can be mixed and mixed to produce different surprises, and some old clothes that have been bought for a long time are transformed into new and beautiful.

Left: A long time ago, China cotton-padded jacket was replaced by double-breasted jacket, and it was full of vitality.

Right: an ordinary knitted cardigan, bought beads and wrapped them around the neckline and skirt, which is instantly casual and exquisite.

This attitude towards beauty has nothing to do with age, life situation and family background.

No matter when, it will not wither.

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About aging

She said

Because of hard work, the fruit comes with fate.

Everyone can enjoy the high-end version of live high.

Lily is 50 years old this year, which is not a young number, but age has no effect on her. Speaking of her views on aging, Lily's attitude is: "Because of hard work, the fruit will follow the fate."

This is a Buddhist saying, which means that all kinds of results in life are not accidental, so we should pay attention to working hard in the cause.

"Everyone's life has n versions from the best to the worst."

"Diet, work and rest, exercise, mentality ... everyone can go to the best version of live high's genes through the efforts of the day after tomorrow."

Many people envy the beauty and success of others.

But all the magic in this world comes from long-term preparation, especially in the second half of your life. Your beauty is entirely in your own hands.

Through exercise, make yourself healthier and have a better posture.

Running, sports, swimming, yoga ......

You don't have to force yourself to do sports you don't like: "There are many ways to exercise. Find what you like, stick to it, and you will definitely get something. " Lily said this.

Pay attention to the collocation of clothes and know how to show your beautiful side.

The makeup that suits you is more important than heavy makeup, and the clothes that suit you are more important than luxury and fancy. You should show yourself confidently and generously. In Lily's view, many times, self-confidence is more important than many external things, and self-confidence itself is a kind of beauty.

Keep a stable mind, always with love and curiosity.

After living for half a century, she has not experienced ups and downs. Lily also experienced setbacks and fell into a trough. She used to be confused: "The world is disturbing, and many things are beyond your subjective will."

But: "We can keep our mind stable."

Knowing that the world is so simple, the calendar is smooth and true. Even after hardships, I have recognized the truth of life, still retained the purest and softest beauty in my heart, still full of curiosity about the world and still full of love for life.

Genes can only determine the first half of life at most. Everyone can match the live high version for the rest of their lives.

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About women

She said

Loving oneself is a woman's lifelong lesson.

You are yourself first, but you are another identity.

"Some people will call me Mrs. Huang, but I prefer to be called Miss Meng."

Loving oneself is an idea that Lily constantly emphasizes in the interview, and it is also her life principle after all kinds of gullies.

For a long time, she tried to play the role of a good daughter, a good wife and a good mother and constantly criticized herself. As a result, she just made herself more and more tired and wronged, and then gradually realized that before many identities, the most important thing is herself, which every woman should stick to for a lifetime.

To love yourself is to have independent freedom.

The so-called independence is both economic independence and spiritual independence.

From work to entrepreneurship, career has always been an important part of Lily's life: "Work is very important for women. It is not only a means of making a living, but also a cornerstone for building confidence and confidence. "

Spiritual independence means having one's own spiritual world, life attitude, hobbies, life circle and time space. For Lily, she is "xx's wife", "XX's mother" and even her own "Miss Meng".

Her getting along with her husband is the companionship and appreciation of two mature people. Independence and intimacy, love and freedom.

Just like Shu Ting's description of love in To the Oak Tree, it is not who climbs, praises and nourishes, but two tall and independent individuals who share the same beliefs and attitudes, just like kapok and oak tree, who are independent and salute each other.

To love yourself is to appreciate yourself from the heart, and don't be hard on yourself.

As Lily said, "I'm not perfect, but I'm beautiful."

There are always regrets in our life, and there is always malice in this world. Some people care, trapped themselves with secular public opinion as the framework, and some people choose to smile calmly and move forward firmly. The latter's life is always happier than the former.

Don't force yourself to be perfect; Don't force yourself to accept things you don't like; Don't bind yourself with other people's eyes. The world is not beautiful, but we should learn to dispel the shadows hanging over our heads.

Psychologist jung said that everyone can have two lives. The first time was for others, and the second time was for myself. Second life usually begins at forty.

Lily, 50, entered the second half of her life, but her life became more beautiful and peaceful.

No matter how many rules and regulations the outside world gives her, she is always confident, self-respecting, tolerant, strong, independent and beautiful, and can try her best to build a better life at any time.

"Long and short is a lifetime, and I just want to live at this time." Lily said this.

And we also hope that in the new year, every girl in the pattern can be like a lily, not caring about secular concepts, not caring about other people's eyes, and not caring about the bondage of age. Even if her youth is gone, she will still bloom warmly and live beautifully.