Who can tell me what weddings and funerals are like in Korea? The more detailed, the better. Please. !

Korean dramas often have blind date scenes, and they are very particular about measuring eight characters and meeting their parents. I (the author, not by accident) can't help wondering: Korean young people are so avant-garde, can they really keep these customs? I didn't know all this was true until I came to Korea from Changsha and saw it with my own eyes!

I came to a relative's house in Korea, and there was a contradiction at home. It turned out that the eldest daughter of a relative was free to fall in love outside and took the boy home for her parents to see. As a result, the parents were greatly dissatisfied and immediately "ordered" the daughter to terminate the relationship with the boy, which made her cry at a loss.

After staying in Korea for a long time, I have a deeper understanding of Korean customs. In Korea, which is deeply influenced by Confucianism, "the inviolability of parents' lives" is still regarded as the basic morality. Relatives have been arranging blind dates for their daughters. The eldest daughter complained, "I'm tired of dating all day." "Now I can finally fall in love with the last one freely, and my parents don't agree. It's hard to change parents' minds. They will never understand our generation. "Old people think that young people nowadays are increasingly lacking in social responsibility. They prefer their children to meet and get married in the form of "matchmaker's words", which they think can "find out the details of each other". In South Korea, "matchmaker's words" is still a common form of marriage and love.

In Korea, most parents attach great importance to each other's social status, and are most afraid that their children will fall in love with someone who doesn't know their family background in the street. In Korea, a wedding is not just about two new people. South Korea has a strict hierarchy, which greatly limits the circle of marriage. Child marriage is often the marriage of social and economic status of two families.

Not only that, Korean marriage customs are also very complicated. If it is "love marriage", it is very serious to bring your boyfriend or girlfriend to meet your parents, and there is a whole set of red tape. If parents are satisfied, both parents will meet to discuss how to hold the wedding. Before the wedding, let the fortune teller see if their birthdays "conflict". If you don't rush, the marriage will be settled.

Korean weddings strictly follow the "Six Rites" procedure, but they have been greatly improved and simplified in the city, but they are still solemn.

When holding a wedding, men sit cross-legged and women kneel. A couple wore traditional Korean clothing-Hanbok: the groom wore a black crown, a burgundy round neck robe, a jade belt around his waist and soap boots; The bride wore a red embroidered double-breasted shirt with wide sleeves, red five-color silk stripes and two rouge on her cheeks, which looked very charming. Both of them knelt on the mat in front of the box. The couple repeatedly kowtowed and toasted. The man's parents also threw dates at the bride, and the bride picked them up with Hanbok. The more they pick up, the sooner they can have children and get rich. The ceremony lasted more than an hour.

Although the traditional wedding forms have been well preserved, with the development of society and the change of ideas, fewer and fewer people hold weddings strictly according to the tradition now. "10 years ago, people still followed the old rules. In recent years, everything has been simplified. Sometimes the groom just gives the money to his father-in-law. " An old North Korean man said.

The traditional family in Korea is usually a big family with three generations living under one roof or four generations living under one roof, because it was the custom in Korea at that time to like the prosperity of the family. However, with the rapid development of industrialization and urbanization and the establishment of population control policy in 1960s and 1970s, the traditional extended family culture gradually disappeared. By 1980, the average number of children per household has decreased to 1 or 2, but the idea of son preference can still be found, such as the eldest son is the most important.

In order to get rid of this concept, the government stipulates that men and women have equal inheritance rights. Now, young people in Korea have liberated from the extended family system and established their own small families. At present, the family form in Korea is mainly a small family centered on couples.

When watching Korean dramas, I have some general understanding of Korean wedding customs, such as the exchange of bride price between two in-laws before marriage and the unique wedding ceremony in Korea. The average cost of getting married in Korea is nearly 1 100 million won. Under normal circumstances, men and women share half. The man is responsible for buying a car, while the woman handles the wedding and travels abroad. In terms of houses, the man is responsible for buying houses and the woman is responsible for furniture and household appliances.

But in Korea, doctors (self-employed), lawyers and professors have the highest status. But these three professional women are few, and most of them are men. If you can marry a man of these three occupations, the woman must prepare three keys for the man in advance: the car key, the house key, the hospital key or the law firm key (that is, to prepare for the man's opening). This advantage smells like a heavy dowry for Indian women when they get married.

Like China, South Korea is also an individual society, and gifts should be given to relatives and friends at weddings, funerals and housewarming. All the cash will be given, and so will the wedding money. Generally speaking, it costs 30,000 to 50,000 won (about RMB 2 10 ~ 350 yuan), and the deeper one costs more than 654,380+10,000 won (about RMB 700 yuan).

In the family, their affairs and status are not completely distinguished by age or seniority. For example, for the prospective mother-in-law, the right to speak is the most important thing. Even if there are some senior elders in the family, they have no right to interfere with the family responsibilities of their eldest son and grandson in principle, which requires them to have a higher sense of family responsibility and mission.

[This article was last edited by Jenny at 04: 40 on July 29th, 2007]