Another bloodbath caused by a child's homework, what should be done to make homework tutoring effective?

Written in front of: the article is a little long, but about the method of counseling children's homework, is my 6 years of teaching experience to come out, parents and friends must see.

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A few days ago, Xinhua released a piece of information: "Again because of homework! The boy was sent to the hospital on an emergency basis, the father regretted: would have just wanted to scare the hell out of him". Received by the Zhejiang Provincial People's Hospital, deputy director of the Department of Otorhinolaryngology Xu Huiming, after electro-otoscopy and otoscopy, the initial diagnosis: traumatic tympanic membrane perforation of the left ear with mild hearing loss. The good thing is that there is no bleeding, timely detection, good care and rest, can be healed, if not healed, timely treatment, generally can be cured.

Eardrum perforation not only affects hearing, but also affects the brain. If you are not careful to leave any sequelae to the child, I think the father will regret and blame himself for a lifetime. About the parents counseling children tragedy, the network exposure is too much, there are parents to their own gas heart attack. The doctor reminded the parents counseling children must control their emotions.

But the emotion of this thing, really on the head ah, the majority of parents have been said, "I can not do ah!". .

We can't help but think back to our own generation when teachers didn't have such strict teaching requirements, students didn't have such good learning conditions, and parents didn't know how to counsel their children and didn't have the time to counsel their children, so in today's words, the children were like "free-range".

But we should write homework homework, the test test, the teacher rarely called parents. A lot of students should play, the test high score high score, the university to go to college. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and then you can get your hands on some of the most popular ones. The teacher is so "meddlesome" it?

Parents said, we do not want to control, but the teacher called parents two or three days, criticized, homework is not good, the results of the test is not good in the WeChat group sunshine photo, how humiliating ah! The first time I saw this was when I was a student at the University of California at Berkeley.

The education system, of course, is one of the reasons why many people have criticized it, as well as the management of the education system, the problem of the essential difference between educators and politicians, and the different starting points for those who do education and those who are engaged in the administration of education. These major issues require changes in the government authorities, and they also need to be proven in practice. In the short term, we personally, the entire social culture is not going to change, then we as parents in the end how to do?

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Each child's learning situation is different, but the school teacher assignments are certainly "one size fits all", if parents every day obsessed with their children's homework is not completed, the word is not beautiful, not beautiful and then erased to write, write the homework alone on a whole three or four hours, or even four or five hours, parents do not get angry. The parents will not be angry! Parents can't stand to sit with them for a few hours, what efficiency can be said about children sitting for a few hours to study? We go to school in order to learn scientific and cultural knowledge, the child did not learn, the results did not go up, parents and children day after day "torture" what is the meaning?

A cousin of mine, my great-aunt's daughter.

A cousin of mine, my great-aunt's daughter, lives in a rural area. She has two sons, one in first grade and one in kindergarten.

My cousin said the older son she never managed, but the grades have always been the first two in the class. Homework are written by themselves, she owns a store, there is no time to tutor. The child comes back every day to write homework consciously, because not writing homework teacher will criticize, he feels shameless. Because of the good foundation of the preschool class, so the first grade he knows many words by himself pinyin, writing homework exams without obstacles. When the teacher assigned him to copy the paper, my cousin said to the teacher, "My son scored 100 points on this paper, so can we not copy it anymore? There's no point in copying." The teacher agreed. The teacher also agreed.

My cousin and I said, one of her relatives is also, the child learns on his own, parents do not care, no time to care, the child's homework is often not finished, criticized by the teacher and so on, the parents will not be regarded as a big deal, did not worry about, but now the child has been admitted to the best junior high school in the county.

In my opinion, my cousin and her relative, who seems to be free to care about their children, have done a great job in one thing: they have given their children autonomy.

From this perspective, a loosely regulated school is not necessarily bad, and a tightly regulated school is not necessarily welfare.

If you're on fire because your child is doing homework and not doing well on tests, you need to contextualize and analyze what your child's dilemma is.

1, if the child's daily homework takes up a long time, then the general results will not be good, in the premise of the child's learning self-awareness, it is important to give the child to leave enough time for independent study.

Not missing a serious card, the next day the teacher corrected the homework all the big check, the day the child did not list "the following children did not complete the homework" list, the parents are very happy, as if their children into the "first class". The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots.

The fundamental problem is that the homework is completed, does not mean that the child really learned, not to mention that the child can get good grades on the test, so every test is excellent that the column does not have your child's name, if coupled with a homework is not good, it is even more fearful, so the next time to complete the teacher's homework is more a stroke can not appear a little bit of signs of inattentiveness. "Because you don't do your homework well, you do poorly on the test, and because you do poorly on the test, you have to behave yourself and do your homework." This seems to have become a very correct logical truth, but your child learning has fallen into a vicious circle.

Think about it, every time you "bet" on the child to write three or four hours of homework, the child will not be able to give him a thorough explanation of the problem? The child each homework exposed weak knowledge points, have time to consolidate through more practice to improve? Every time tired to cope with homework, the child has no time to improve themselves. If the homework is explained in a scientific way and the child learns thoroughly, then the homework is also a very important exercise for improvement. But the problem is that many parents are not education majors, do not understand the law of teaching, will not help children in the process of explaining the establishment of analytical problem-solving mindset, can only be satisfied with the correct answer. In addition, many homework assignments are copying and writing without practical content, so the vast majority of children can not achieve the effect of consolidation and improvement through homework. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.

So, if your child's grades are not good enough, and writing homework takes up a whole night, or even stays up all night, then as a parent, you must have your own position. The teacher's words are not holy orders, and the child's long-term performance (not only the score, including the child's physical and mental health and academic performance) is the goal of school education and family education. If you feel that a piece of homework assigned by the teacher today will not help your child understand the day's content, be willing to "rebel" against it. Don't write it, but be prepared to be criticized the next day, you know what you are doing. Like my cousin, her child is prepared to be criticized by the teacher if she doesn't copy the paper. But if the child maintains excellent grades, the teacher has nothing to say.

So, kids who spend a lot of time doing homework usually don't get top grades because your child is tired of dealing with homework and other tasks assigned by the teacher, rather than actually learning. At this time only parents are the only way out for their children, parents have to resist the pressure. Planning for the child, rather than being led by the nose by homework, accidentally on fire to hurt themselves even if, but also the children.

2, if the child usually write homework, play Lego are very slippery, which are not bad, is not high grades, then you should understand that your child is not stupid, he just did not find their own methods and rhythm.

Every child has his or her own area of expertise, and each area is developed out of sync, so parents need to care more about their children and help them discover their strengths.

A friend of mine's child is in first grade this year, and every time he fails, he's at the bottom of the class, and his teacher calls him every three days. My friend was very anxious, but she told me firmly that her son is not bad, those questions will be. "It's just that he can't understand the questions because he didn't have a good foundation in preschool. So I'm not in a hurry, so let the teacher criticize. When my son's literacy comes up, his grades will naturally come up." So even though the teacher criticizes and the child stands on the podium, my friend never takes these things seriously, nor does she complain about how her child failed the test again this time, but rather analyzes which question is wrong. She just goes through the motions and studies with her child every day. Her most recent message to me was that her son scored 93 on his exam, third in his class.

Professor Zheng Qiang of Zhejiang University, in the face of countless classroom teachers "accusing" children of misbehavior, Professor Zheng said to the teacher, my children's grades do not need to be the first, as long as the TA is not the worst in the class, the teacher does not have to force it.

So, parents must know what their children are missing.

3. If your child writes slowly, writes poorly, and dawdles, then you need to pay attention to your child's usual goal training, set time, and strengthen the sense of urgency. Pay attention to the child to set goals, and will be goal management.

There are many ways to correct children's dawdling on the Internet, and parents can pick the one that suits them. To focus on the usual small things training, such as each module homework set alarm clock, each meal set time, etc., parents need to be carried out in conjunction with the actual situation of the child. For children who are slow to write, they can only improve by practicing proficiency. But pay attention to the writing habit, neat is very important, the lower the grade, the more meaningful serious writing.

4, finally, no matter which of the above cases, parents should pay attention to each wrong revision to develop the child's ability to learn independently.

When the child is done, parents check once, the wrong hook out, to let the child to re-revise themselves once, parents must not take the wrong questions directly on the lecture!

Children do wrong questions are divided into two kinds: one will do careless to do wrong, this kind of questions will be revised, parents do not need to speak. Secondly, they will not do, do wrong, this kind of need to speak.

But this kind of problem is also divided into two kinds, one is their own serious thinking, such as reading a few times after the question, brain analysis, analysis, or can be done (this kind of the most exercise in the child's ability to think independently) this kind of problem need to be analyzed and summarized by the parents, the child to do more exercises to consolidate the mastery of all. There is also a complete will not do, this kind of parents to talk about the focus, the same is also the child needs time to practice more board.

That's why my first suggestion is to give your child time to study independently after homework.

Treat every homework help as an after-school tutorial, and you'll be able to realize a qualitative change in your child's learning method and way of thinking.

One time, I accidentally dropped a glass of water on the floor and it broke, and Dudu (3 years old) said to me, "Mom, Mom, it's okay. I was really touched. If a child breaks a cup, we adults will think the child is making a mistake, even if we say gently, "Why are you so careless," or "Be careful next time," isn't that a rebuke? Some parents may even yell if they are in a bad mood. But a 3-year-old child faced with the parents of the "mistake", the first response to a "it's okay" is to comfort your heart has not been injured, the child for the parents of love, is indeed unconditional, and our love for the child has long been attached to a lot of conditions.

Each child is a flower, have their own flower period. We need to wait for the flower to bloom.

But parents are not just waiting, anxious, but to become a team with the child, when the teacher makes a request, we are the only child to turn to, please help the child to solve the problem, and if you can not help yourself, to turn to the outside for help, rather than demanding the child.

Above, purely personal experience and views, do not like do not spray, friendly is the starting point of communication [smile] hope that parents and friends some help.