What is the important spiritual connotation in China's family culture?

Filial piety is an important spiritual connotation of China's family culture.

The basic connotation of filial piety is to be kind to parents, obey their wishes and meet their needs and requirements. The modern significance is to promote filial piety, support the elderly, cultivate one's morality, integrate the family, and emphasize that children's respect and support for their elderly parents are equally important.

The material basis of China's traditional filial piety is to provide material support for adoptive parents, that is, to support parents and "support from birth", which is the minimum program of filial piety. Confucianism advocates protecting parents first in material life, and letting the elderly eat meat first. This is very important. Filial piety emphasizes that elderly parents give priority to material life.

The basic connotation of "filial piety" includes the following five points:

1, cherish life.

"The Book of Filial Piety" begins: "Parents who suffer from skin damage dare not. Filial piety begins. " People between heaven and earth are precious, and people in the world are born by their parents, which is the continuation of their parents' lives. Therefore, cherishing life is the beginning and the most basic filial piety.

"The Book of Filial Piety" said: "The nature of heaven and earth (fate) is only human." Preserving the body given by parents means cherishing life, and cherishing the life given by parents means filial piety. A sound body is the premise of respecting adoptive parents and the material basis of the cause.

Ceng Zi also said: "Both parents are born, and all children return, which can be described as filial piety." What is "all"? "Don't lose your body, don't humiliate yourself" and don't hurt your body. This is called "perfection". Filial piety is not only a personal matter, a person has parents, ancestors and descendants, which is a chain related to the whole family and cannot be hurt casually. There is also a true saying: "A gentleman does not stand under a dangerous wall."

2. Give it to adoptive parents.

Respecting adoptive parents means "supporting" parents with "sincere respect". Children's support for their parents is the minimum requirement for filial piety. Confucius said, "Today's filial piety means that it can be raised. As for dogs and horses, you can keep them. Disrespect, why not? " People nowadays only regard their parents as filial piety. But even dogs and horses can be kept. Without respect for parents, what is the difference? " Yes, disrespect and fearlessness are unfilial.

So, how to respect and raise, how to calculate a trip to a dutiful son? The Book of Filial Piety puts forward "five preparations": life is respect, raising is enjoyment, illness is sorrow, mourning is mourning, sacrifice is strict, and then serving relatives. The essence of "five preparations" is to keep parents in mind, including "in the year of parents, you must know that one is happy and the other is afraid", including doing everything in "life, support, death and burial" with sincere respect.

3. "Success" and "Establishment".

"Chengzhi" means that a son inherits his father's ambition. The ancients advocated that parents' correct and reasonable wishes and careers should be supported and inherited, which is a very important filial piety. "The Biography of Pseudo-Confucius" said: "Following the aspirations of ancestors, it is also filial piety." The Book of Rites The Doctrine of the Mean says: "People who are filial are good at inheriting people's aspirations and telling people's things." The "ambition" and "things" here, in today's words, are the last wishes, achievements and experiences of our ancestors.

The so-called "standing" means achieving something. Confucian outlook on life advocates that people should actively join the WTO and make contributions to society. The Book of Filial Piety emphasizes that the highest state of filial piety is to respect and honor parents, that is, to honor parents. Children must have positive and excellent words and deeds and positive and excellent achievements, so that their parents will be respected, respected and respected. The so-called folk: the father respects his son in the first 30 years, and the son respects his father in the last 30 years. This is also the reason.

4. "Not violating" and "remonstrating".

The ancients advocated that children should be filial to their parents, that is, they should do their best to support their parents and have sincere love and respect in their hearts. In the words of Confucius, it is "not violating". "Not disobeying" does not mean blindly obeying parents' wishes, but means not disobeying conscience and conscience, and everything comes from the heart and is sincere. Confucianism does not talk about "foolish filial piety" and "foolish loyalty".

Confucius believed that the father's unjust behavior must be discouraged, so that he could not do unjust things that violated etiquette; If a son obeys his father blindly, he is an unfilial son.

Confucius also put forward "some warnings to parents", which means that children should be filial to their parents, but what parents said is not 100% correct. What should I do when an error occurs? Then don't just obey, but stop. Of course, this kind of exhortation is gentle and patient persuasion, exhortation is the principle, and how to persuade is the method; We should not only adhere to principles, but also pay attention to methods.

5. Be cautious and pursue the distance.

Filial piety and remonstrance are the contents of "doing things", and the fulfillment of filial piety also includes the contents of "doing things to death", which Ceng Zi attributed to pursuing the future with caution. Caution is the funeral behavior of parents' death, and pursuing distance is the ceremony of parents' death.

Confucius believes that "the death of things" has two aspects: one is to be buried with ceremony, and the other is to be sacrificed with ceremony. Confucius regards "sacrifice" as one of the major events in governing the country, and thinks that the core of sacrifice is "sacrifice and respect". It can be seen that Confucius' "cautious death" requires a cautious attitude towards the burial of parents; If you want to "chase the distance", you must make sacrifices with respect. In this way, people's virtue naturally belongs to loyalty.