I would like to ask: "Why is China called the country of etiquette?"

Confucius in the Tang Dynasty said: "China is so polite that it is called summer;" The beauty of service seal is called China. Hua, Xia Yi also. If we say that in ancient Chinese, "China" belongs more to a regional concept, while "Huaxia" tends to represent a cultural isomorphism, and the value basis for maintaining this isomorphism and guiding its prosperity and progress is "ceremony" and "righteousness". For more than 2,000 years, the "State of Etiquette" (also known as "State of Etiquette and Righteousness") has been a social ideal advocated and pursued by countless people with lofty ideals and sages in China. At the same time, through their long-term efforts and struggles, they won a reputation for China. China's ritual culture stretches for thousands of years, unparalleled in the world, and its contribution to mankind is obvious to all. After the Ming and Qing Dynasties, the fetters of etiquette on China's social development became increasingly apparent, accompanied by the increasing number of anti-etiquette voices. After great historical changes and vicissitudes of time, the ancient etiquette culture has gradually moved away from modern people. Of course, the coverage of ancient "etiquette" is very different from that of modern "etiquette". The former is almost the sum of China's ancient value system and social system, while the latter only involves people's general behavior and some social activities, but they all have distinct cultural characteristics and are closely related to social culture. Since the late Qing Dynasty, China culture has been in a difficult process of deconstruction and reconstruction, among which the most neglected and most important issue is the etiquette that represents a national cultural order and civilization. The Chinese nation was once known as a country of etiquette, but with the impact of the tide of western learning and the disintegration of tradition in the past hundred years, we are less and less inheriting our own cultural traditions, and all kinds of etiquette representing the level of civilization today, including how to eat, how to sleep, how to dress, how to walk and how to talk to people, are basically out of order. Therefore, it has become a dream of China to revive the state of etiquette. Therefore, it can be said that it is the primary task of new culture construction to re-integrate the etiquette culture suitable for today's society and systematically standardize all kinds of etiquette. This is because compared with other cultural forms, etiquette is the most concrete and closely related to our lives. If a basic framework of etiquette can be formed first, it may provide a reference or even a platform for other cultures, thus gradually completing the modernization of China culture and the China of modern culture. Of course, the day of etiquette perfection is also the time of new culture construction. The two are inseparable and need a long and arduous process. But cultural construction starts with etiquette, and at least some operable objects can be found. Today, if more and more people can realize this problem and actively practice it, it will no longer be a dream to revive the state of etiquette. The significance of etiquette in modern society is practical. The etiquette system aimed at maintaining strict feudal hierarchy, especially the backward red tape, is not only unacceptable in the new social system and value system, but also must be resolutely abandoned. Since the Revolution of 1911 completely denied the feudal system for thousands of years, with the fundamental change of social values, the ceremony has also been given a brand-new modern significance. If the traditional ceremony is a social code of conduct covering all systems, laws and morals, then today's so-called ceremony is only about the etiquette and etiquette forms of related activities, which is also the main category to be discussed in my group of topics. The Dilemma of Contemporary Chinese Etiquette Modern Etiquette is guided by the concept of equality and freedom. Its biggest function is to create an atmosphere, rather than deliberately embodying the hierarchical system of generations, so it can be simplified to the maximum extent and does not require systematic study and training. In China, the modern etiquette of China, which originated from the Revolution of 1911, basically copied the western model, which inevitably conflicts with the inherent traditional culture of China. Because the modernization of China culture or the China of modern world culture is far from complete, the official has not systematically sorted out and standardized the etiquette and customs, and the etiquette highly related to culture has not yet formed. Due to the lack of systematic education, cultural conflicts and the lack of authoritative norms, China's etiquette is bound to become a hodgepodge of conventions, a mixture of Chinese and Western cultures, and a parallel of tradition and modernity. Not only are contradictions and nondescript situations common, but they also leave a huge gap that people are at a loss. We can abandon the specific feudal etiquette system, but some spirit, temperament and connotation of our traditional culture have not completely disappeared in modern society, and we can't let it disappear. In the last century, around the May 4th Movement, the elites criticized the tradition mercilessly, but they were a group of people who were deeply influenced by the tradition and had a strong China culture. Although they accepted the advanced western culture, their behavior and cultivation still have the profound connotation of traditional culture. So until the 1960s, although great changes have taken place in the superstructure, frequent political movements have also changed people's lifestyles while impacting people's ideas, but both folk customs and social morality can still maintain a harmonious unity based on traditional culture, so there are no outstanding problems (or perhaps no time to take care of them) in etiquette. In the sixties and seventies of the 20th century, people who grew up in an era of unprecedented cultural destruction were thin, not calm enough and not thick enough. As for today's children, it is the lack of oxygen in national culture. Therefore, the world is getting worse and worse, lacking self-cultivation and not knowing the minimum rules is now normal, and it is even more ridiculous to be neither fish nor fowl. Now we can see that non-Christians celebrate Christmas; Holding a Chinese wedding in a western-style wedding dress; But if the wedding doesn't worship heaven and earth, naturally there will be no such education as "the sanctity of marriage", which is the so-called "international integration" track. It is true that the world today is characterized by the internationalization and globalization of the rules of the game. China wants to keep his position on the world stage, and he needs his children to adapt to the international environment. However, people should not blindly worship foreign cultures in the hustle and bustle of pursuing international integration, so it is impossible to really understand foreign cultures and give up their traditions. You know, integrating yourself, perfecting yourself and developing yourself is not destroying yourself. The renewal and reconstruction of cultural tradition is the communication of national cultural blood. We can not regard tradition as fashionable nostalgia, but we need tradition to live among us, so that each of us is both a modern and a traditional person, and a modern person with tradition. A scholar pointed out: "Let's take a look at the so-called' school uniforms' of primary and secondary school students, all of which are sportswear with timid bags. Dress is closely related to human dignity and dignity, which should not be underestimated. There is also the question of naming. Due to the influence of the Cultural Revolution, many people's names bear traces of the Cultural Revolution, and there are as many duplicate names in China as in the world. Place names and street names have the same problem. Names are cultural symbols. The names of the ancients were distinguished by names, characters and numbers. In order to show respect, they are often called by their first names. Although today is not necessarily so particular, it is still important to have a good name. As for appellation, the problem is even bigger now. They used to be called "comrades", but now "masters" and "teachers" are rampant. It is a good thing that the appellation of' Mr' and' Miss' is popular, but the appellation of' Mr' is actually very particular, and now it is used inappropriately everywhere. The confusion of appellation reflects the confusion of a country's ethical order. "However, the problem lies not only in the confusion of folk etiquette, but also in the lack of a set of appropriate etiquette rules in official activities. From state affairs to various meetings, commemorations and celebrations, because there is no etiquette standard promulgated by the state, the actual operation is very arbitrary and unreasonable things happen frequently. The biggest hidden rule in official activities is the official standard. No matter what activities, as long as party and government leaders at all levels participate, then the protagonist of this activity must be the leader with the highest position. All public activities have become a stage to show their identity and glory. There must be a rostrum on which a bunch of "leaders" must sit. This is the NPC's hearing on government work, and it is also ranked according to administrative responsibilities. Administrative officials accept the "supervision" of NPC deputies Cutting the ribbon at a celebration sometimes requires a dozen or even dozens of scissors. No matter how senior an official is, if he is "inspecting" the place under his jurisdiction, it is often the police car that clears the way and the motorcade travels. Officials can also arrange weddings and funerals at will to facilitate the collection of wealth and so on. People know that some phenomena are inappropriate or even excessive, but they can't find specific provisions to condemn and deal with them. Some people say that the primary task at present is to fight corruption and strengthen democracy and the legal system. The official atmosphere should be corrected by hard system, and etiquette as a soft system is useless. Some people even think that etiquette is equivalent to a game, emphasizing etiquette is to cover up contradictions, and there is nothing better than having it. In fact, etiquette seems to be just a form, but it affects the mentality of officials and people everywhere. Based on the hidden rules of official positions, the abuses of etiquette and customs will cast a dizzy halo on the power that was originally lightly constrained, and make people in it further lose themselves and even forget their own principles. * * * The party's ideology is not divorced from the masses, and officials who make mistakes are not born bad people. It is this kind of official atmosphere, including customs and habits, which has played a strong corrosive role. Official etiquette will naturally affect people's mentality. When our public servants face the masses condescendingly, who dares to think that these people are serving us? It doesn't mean that ordinary people are ignorant, that they are born grass-roots who look forward to their masters making decisions for them, that they don't know that they are citizens with people's rights, and that there is no system and mechanism for ordinary people to participate in and discuss state affairs. The reason why ordinary people don't fight for their rights is that there are institutional defects, but the main reason is that they are afraid of officials and don't put the position of officials and people right. The reason for this situation is lack of self-confidence, and etiquette and customs are a force that can have an important impact on the mentality of most people. Just imagine, if Sun Yat-sen doesn't abolish worship and worship ceremony, and doesn't ban the title of "Old Master Q", will his civil rights thoughts be accepted by the people soon? Therefore, if China wants to make progress in political civilization, the most practical thing at present is the etiquette norms in official activities, that is, etiquette is used to restrain the words and deeds of public servants. China people love face, and being called "rude" is a very serious matter. If the official rules on etiquette, it may play a role in purifying the official atmosphere, at least in the form of putting them in the right position of officials and people.