What are the Buyei marriage customs?

Buyi marriage is monogamous. Intermarriage between people of the same clan or surname is strictly prohibited. There is also the custom of "aunt-uncle cousin marriage" and the transfer of brother to brother. Young men and women are free to fall in love before marriage, unmarried young men and women around the world like to take advantage of the annual festivals and customs, fairs and collective gatherings of the time to three, five to seven, eight people free combination of ways, through the talk of the day to laugh and sing to the tune of, or to express each other's feelings.

When a man looks at a girl, according to tradition, he must find a third party as a companion, and some of them are introduced by their sister-in-law. If the woman has this meaning, you can meet alone to the quiet place to further singing songs, express love, until both sides of the mutual gift of tokens, it shows that they have been allied to the Governor for life. But in the old feudal system, many couples in love with each other are not always able to become spouses. At that time, the vast majority of marriages were arranged by the parents or the words of the matchmaker. Many parents only from the wealth of their children's marriage or gateway to start, and often to the "eight characters" whether or not belong to the same grammatical as an important decision on marriage, often resulting in many unfortunate tragedies.

Betrothed, by the male parents of the matchmaker to go to the female family, and send a certain amount of wine, meat, rake rake a gift. If the other party agrees, the second time the matchmaker will be the men and women of the "eight characters" for each other "check", as long as the "eight characters" are consistent, you can choose the date of marriage. This area of the amount of the bride price, especially pay attention to the "six" Yu or "double" number, it is said to take the "six" that is the harmony of the Loc, in order to indicate that after the marriage of the two have Loc will be blessed. Marriage, the groom does not meet the bride, only a few good-looking young men and women to meet on behalf of the bride. The bride is generally walking to the male home under an umbrella, individual also ride a horse, sitting in a sedan chair. Wedding day, the newlyweds do not room, the next day that is to return to the mother's home. Settlement area around the Buyei still retains the "not fall husband's home" or known as "sitting home" custom. Some of them stay in their husbands' homes for two or three years or even five or six years. The Buyei in the mixed areas have mostly eliminated this custom.