The mother-in-law's attitude towards her daughter-in-law, why do you say it's all from her husband?

"Parents give birth to me to raise me is not easy, if you love me, you should do to love the house, and I love my parents together and filial piety to them", there is such an idea of the man itself is not wrong, if you can get along, who will not live under the same roof but every day to live a day of chicken and dog jumping.

Just this man forgets, although you are your parents born, but your wife is not, your parents to your wife did not raise the grace. Therefore, your parents can tolerate everything you, but not necessarily tolerate your wife, on the contrary, there will be a lot of additional requirements, if the daughter-in-law to take an antagonistic attitude, there will be a lot of contradictions, and from then on the family will never have a peaceful day.

Thus, the husband as a mother and wife between the emotional transportation hub station is particularly important.

In a family, the mother-in-law's attitude towards her daughter-in-law depends on the son's attitude towards his daughter-in-law.

If the husband does sincerely love and respect his wife, as a mother-in-law, of course, do not dare to do anything to her daughter-in-law.

The first time Xiaoyun accompanied her husband to her mother-in-law's house to celebrate the New Year, the custom in her mother-in-law's house is that women are not allowed to eat at the table, and when they want to eat, they can only wait for the men to finish eating before they can go to the table, or eat some leftovers in the kitchen. The first time Xiaoyun went back to her mother-in-law's house for New Year's Eve, all of her relatives were there.

Small clouds do not agree with this practice, she helped her mother-in-law and sister-in-law in the kitchen after frying the dishes, she ran to the living room, introduced herself to the relatives of the mother-in-law's family, and sat next to her husband, at this time, the in-laws and relatives have expressed dissatisfaction, her mother-in-law even rebuked her daughter-in-law do not know how to do things, no manners, small clouds are particularly aggrieved.

When she was ready to get up, her husband held her down and gestured for her to sit down and eat with everyone else, saying in a very domineering manner, "Rules are dead, people are alive, and in the future, all the women in our family will be allowed to eat at the table, and if you're not happy about it, you can just not eat. "

The relatives were angry about this, but they didn't say anything. The son said so, and the mother-in-law didn't dare to say anything even though she was dissatisfied.

In this case, if this husband has been in accordance with their own customs and habits to cater to the relatives and parents, resolutely do not agree to his wife to eat at the table, then in the future, this wife either choose to live a life of resignation, or choose to go their separate ways.

If the husband is rude and disrespectful to his wife, the mother-in-law, of course, will "act on the opportunity".

Small jade and her husband was introduced by a friend to meet, the two dating half a year, at the urging of parents, into the marriage hall. Before the marriage of the two contact time period, both sides do not understand each other, after the marriage, a lot of shortcomings gradually exposed, slowly two people began to quarrel.

Small Jade's work is jet-lagged, she has to work the night shift , in the night shift and the day shift between the conversion of those days, the human biological clock for a moment can not adapt to, the spirit is also in a trance, either forgetting the east or forgetting the west, her husband not only do not understand her, but often in front of her family blamed her.

Weekend want to sleep a lazy, Xiaoyu's mother-in-law accused her of laziness, Xiaoyu like to shop on the Internet, her mother-in-law said that she is a loser, do not know how to live, Xiaoyu can not stand this kind of aggravation, every time her mother-in-law accuses her, she will be reasonably argued.

As long as the two of them fight, Xiaoyu's husband will put down all the things in his hands to join the battle, he will help his mother to accuse Xiaoyu, saying, "My mother said you lazy you lazy, do people daughter-in-law's have to listen to the words of the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law is the sky, can only be obeyed and can not be resisted.

Until one day, Xiaoyu and her mother-in-law quarreled, her mother-in-law accused Xiaoyu while instigating their son, daughter-in-law not to fight, on the roof, not to fight to learn, Xiaoyu's husband did not hold back, slapped Xiaoyu, the two the next day on the divorce procedures.

This matter, if this husband did not often accuse his wife in front of family members, the mother will not be in the middle of the couple to add fuel to the fire, and will not instigate the son to beat his daughter-in-law to use domestic violence, if this husband in the wife and mother's quarrel, to stand on the side of the wife to help his wife and convince their own mother, this wife will not end up with her husband to the point of divorce.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflict , if the husband is bent on defending their own mother, not the slightest regard for the wife's feelings, the result will certainly affect the relationship between husband and wife, the wife will either be submissive, or choose to divorce the end.

As a husband, is the mother and the wife of the traffic hub between the station, must do a good job of emotional communication between them, without favoritism, without favoritism, on the matter of the matter, in order to convince people, calm communication and solve the problem.

Nowadays, women are not married and will live with you for the rest of their lives, they will not let themselves be aggrieved in the marriage, they have their own independent work and economy, and already do not need to rely on a man to live, so they will not be in a long marriage for the rest of their lives.

In ordinary life, we must respect our wives, honor our mothers, learn to communicate well with them, and when there is a conflict, we must stand up for each other, round up each other, say good words, and stand on each other's position to consider, so that our wives understand the mother's not easy, and let the mother to recognize the wife's contribution.