Why don't young people want to get married now?

I often get countless videos of "Young people don't get married and have children".

Why don't young people want to get married and have children?

Many people have given their own answers. Most of them are these three situations.

1, life pressure is too great.

Many media have done street interviews and randomly asked young men and women whether they want to get married on the road.

Many men say: I don't want to get married, the cost of marriage is too high, not only to buy a house, but also to pay a high price bride price. Many women also specialize in it, and they feel tired when they think about it. It is better to relax alone.

Many women say: sharing marriage, widowhood and child-rearing, serving the elderly and cutting the confusion of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law may also hinder their career development. Why bother?

When asked, if you get married in the future, will you consider having children?

Men and women are very unified, saying: don't have children, raising a baby is too expensive, which will greatly reduce the quality of life.

Young people are not motivated to get married and have children.

Not only do young people look down on getting married and having children, but many old people say that it is up to them to decide whether their children get married and have children.

Some old people can even accept their children dink.

They said: children nowadays are unreliable, and it is too tired to raise a baby. It is better to have money in your own hands and live in an apartment for the elderly when you are old.

Now the older generation does not urge marriage and childbirth, and the external pressure of young people to get married and have children directly disappears.

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Of course, this is also beneficial. When the external pressure disappears, marriage and childbirth can return to the standard and become a real independent choice, which will also force young people to be more cautious about marriage and childbirth.

After all, you can't throw the pot again, you can only be responsible for it yourself.

2. Negative attitude towards marriage.

Divorce is becoming more and more common now.

Married couples seem to have more and more marital problems, such as domestic violence, marital infidelity, cold violence and so on.

You can brush countless such news or posts at any time.

For example, the "Lin Shengbin Incident" which triggered a heated discussion last year has shaken many people's confidence in marriage.

For example, some time ago, Ms. Wang of Ann was subjected to domestic violence, which was even more shocking.

It is said that this Ms. Li is a full-time mother, and her husband abused her because of some family chores.

In the video she provided, her husband hit her on the head with his fist.

Their children were there and witnessed the violence of their father against their mother.

It's really bad!

There are thousands of such comments at the bottom of the video:

It is recommended not to get married and live a good life.

Marriage brings only torture to women.

No wonder many people prefer to be single now.

Spend your own money, don't look at other people's faces.

Another day of being afraid of getting married.

I would rather my daughter didn't get married.

There are too many such videos, and all kinds of unhappiness in marriage are increasingly exposed to people. It is hard not to make people, especially women, fear marriage.

3. The mindset of "men are strong and women are weak".

Liang Jianzhang, Ctrip. com, suggested that women should put down the concept of choosing a spouse, not necessarily find someone better than themselves, accept that men are not as good as themselves, and also call on men to accept women who are better than themselves.

This is a very realistic problem.

In our traditional consciousness, men are the pillars of the family and the dependence of the family. Women naturally want their husbands to be stronger than themselves, while men tend to look for weaker partners.

At present, women in China are more and more educated, emerging in all walks of life, developing better and better, and even surpassing men in a certain field. This is actually a good thing.

However, if we hold traditional thinking and pursue a marriage in which men are strong and women are weak, it will inevitably lead to an embarrassing situation.

It is difficult for men who have just started to meet women's desire for strength, while men who have achieved little often choose more, which makes the competitive pressure on women to choose a spouse particularly great.

The end result is that it is difficult for ordinary men, especially a large number of rural men, to find a partner, and it is also difficult for a large number of outstanding women gathered in cities to find a matching partner.

It's getting harder and harder to get married. What about having children?

The above three are the main reasons why most young people don't get married and have children.

There are a lot of data and examples to provide evidence. I have caught a lot on the Internet, which makes my middle-aged girl who is married and has children feel tired now. But if you think deeper, you will find that something seems to be wrong.

What is it?

That's right! Is the network effect! In the online world, we often see the facts themselves.

1, the cost of getting married and having children is not as high as that of online transmission.

Only the cost of marriage is mentioned here.

I asked my friends around me and found that none of the people born in the 1970s and 1980s had received a bride price.

The only one who received the so-called 20,000 bride price was that her husband directly transferred 20,000 to her as private money before marriage to comfort her (because both families are in the countryside and there is awareness of bride price).

And my other friends didn't even mention the bride price directly.

After reading a national bride price map, I sometimes think, are we underestimating ourselves? No money to get married?

As for the house, most of my friends get married and buy a house, and most of them pay the down payment together. After marriage, the two people jointly pay for a house, or the man pays a down payment and the woman decorates, which means that the cost is similar, or they have no money to buy a house and just rent a house.

Who says you have to buy a house, a wedding and a diamond ring to get married?

Is everything presented to us by the Internet real?

This is really worth thinking about!

Marriage may have changed from paying too much attention to economic interests.

In the past, two people got married, saw each other right, and started a family together. There are considerations of economic interests, but they also pay more attention to the acquisition of security, emotional value and happiness.

Nowadays, getting married seems to be more like finding a like-minded partner, starting a company in partnership, and paying more attention to economic interests and material foundation.

I hope the company can become bigger and stronger, but can't you find a reliable and powerful partner?

2. Internet dilutes the emotional value that marriage can provide.

The emotional value that traditional marriage can provide, in today's extremely developed Internet, you can find many substitutes.

If you want to have a sense of belonging, you can easily find different circles, go to road trip and play games in the team. ...

If you want to be happy, there will be many entertainment products waiting for you, massive film and television resources and variety shows. ...

As long as you don't have a high level of interpersonal communication, you can establish relationship links with different people at any time.

Relatively speaking, it takes a lot of time and energy to start a family and establish a close relationship with another person, and it is much more expensive to obtain high-quality emotional value.

Since one can live a happy life, why get married?

3. The opposition between men and women is exaggerated by the Internet.

There are indeed many differences between men and women.

In the previous video, I discussed it in detail in combination with a global personality survey conducted by BBC. Interested friends can go and watch my previous videos.

These objective differences between men and women exist in everyone's genes.

But I don't know when this difference was exaggerated, and men and women gradually became antagonistic.

Women are labeled as "money worship", "reality", "greed and laziness", "always relying on men" and "doing".

Men are regarded as "irresponsible", "fickle", "male chauvinism" and "getting married is to find a free nanny" and so on.

It is said that men work for women.

It is said that women give birth to children in order to carry on the family line for men.

The network is an amplifier. When these generalizations are widely spread, men and women will have obvious prejudice against each other and are full of negative comments.

And if you can't open your heart and accept each other from the beginning, it will be difficult for men and women to integrate with each other, let alone know each other and love each other.

Write at the end:

We receive a lot of information every day. We seem to be getting smarter, but in fact we have lost the ability to think.

The current recommendation algorithm will give you what you want and cater to your cognition.

Finally, we lost the vitality of sensibility, and our cognition became more and more narrow and solidified.

You will gradually agree that marriage is really boring, and being single is beautiful.

Of course, I'm not saying that being single is not good, nor that everyone should choose to get married.

In fact, some people are really not suitable for marriage. If such a person gets married, it will be harmful to others.

But partly because of the misunderstanding of marriage, I chose to be single with the tide.

I just want to advise those blind people not to gawk at all kinds of toxic comments on the Internet and not to be endorsed without knowing it.

You speak for yourself, and your life is your own.

I have always liked a sentence said by a knowledge blogger. He said, "If you are not a material boy or girl, why are you sure that you can't meet another immaterial boy or girl like you?"

Think about when we were in college, you played well, some people liked you, you gave a good speech, some people liked you, but after work, only rich people liked you. Isn't that pathetic? . If money is used to measure all universal equivalents, everything will become quick success and instant benefit!

May we all return to our original hearts!