What are the behavioral norms of a lady?

The meaning of a lady's temperament and demeanor is definitely not equivalent to the traditional Chinese sense of propriety term, it is the new historical conditions, women in the instrument, speech, demeanor, thinking, and behavior on a unique Chinese characteristics of femininity, the real performance of a woman's pure, sincere aspects of charisma.

The traditional Chinese rituals of thought under the boundaries of the lady is not worth advocating, because it discredits the woman's due charm and value. The lady we advocate today is a lady based on traditional virtues without losing the value of modern society, a new civilization, a new culture, a new woman in the context of the new era. It is better to advocate being a lady than to advocate being a "barbaric girlfriend" or a "woman of action". This does not mean that the retro retrogression, anachronism, binding personality, but to make the woman more personality, charm and taste, to restore the original face of women.

The first thing a lady should do is to be elegant in her temperament.

Cao Xueqin's daughter of the Red Mansion, each and every orchid heart, talent. Among them, the most representative of the sentimental Lin Daiyu. Sister Lin is not only the representative of the "woman", but also the image of 'lady'. For Daiyu, her virtuous side is characterized by elegance. If an elegant woman can be called "Daiyu", it means that she is a more feminine woman in the first place.

Daiyu, artistic, melancholy, like to read and write, she is talented, superior, has an exceptionally persistent pursuit of love; weak and sickly, congenital deficiencies, line of action at every turn as weak as a willow to help the wind; Daiyu chastity, adhering to the "quality of the original jielai also clean to go," the creed.

"Dai color of jade", "sadness condensation song Dai want to smoke", "flowers fly flowers Xie fly all over the sky, red incense broken who have pity?" This mouth full of poetry, advocating classical reading, hand holding a handkerchief to cover the light lips of the smoke of the woman, attracted how many generations of people pity, sighs and tears. Her melancholy, aestheticism and classicism, her cold and faint love and sorrow, show the image of the initial lady with Chinese characteristics. She is soft on the outside but wise on the inside. She lives in the culturally rich Grand View Garden, pursuing elegant interest and solitude. Her soul, a synthesis of sensitivity, intelligence and melancholy.

Lin Daiyu is a naive, straightforward, romantic, freedom-loving woman. In the era of "a woman without talent is a virtue", she secretly read "The West Wing", and reached a degree of intoxication. She used to blurt out classic lines from the book, which was a bit of a talent.

The lady should be an emotional woman like Daiyu. In front of her beloved man, she keeps the softest untouchable pain in her heart, maintains a kind and sentimental heart, and has the desire of all women for love.

They are sometimes overflowing with emotion, sometimes shy; sometimes as gentle as water, sometimes innocent and lovely; sometimes funny, exuding the innocence of the girl's breath.

Of course it will also be sad because of the lonesome, but also touched and tears. More importantly, you need to know what is appropriate, know when to show up, and know how to show your beauty.

Daiyu although the mother of Jia's favor, but the excessively delicate sensitive remind her everywhere to pay attention, always care, do not say a word more, not more than one step, I'm afraid of being laughed at. In order to ensure that their "body is clean", in order to "out of the mud but not stained", "the quality of this clean and clean to go", even in death, she still wants to leave! --You at least ask them to send me back to Daiyu is water made flesh and blood, inner sensitivity, emotional fragility. The easy death of life, the warmth and coldness of human feelings, so that her deep eyes are full of sadness of the world's wounds. She and Baoyu emotional setbacks, but also let her pain in the heart and lungs, the daily companion of poetry, books and paintings, spring to spring, will make her melancholy sad.

When "Daiyu buried flowers" of the frail figure in the Grand View Garden, her sentimental complex emotions, is to associate their own encounters, worried about aging, she is in the shedding of a sentiment, a period of years. Daiyu, is a woman in love, which is extremely similar to the image of a lady. But the lady will never be in the wind and flowers in the snowy night to talk about a desperate love, because the modern lady's love is no longer the only one, she also has the other half of life - career.

The fate of the lady will not be like Daiyu paid a lifetime of true love, but only predestined; tasted a lifetime of tears, but can not undo the love and hurt.

Daiyu is indeed a woman of other flavors. She can often in front of you to make some little sex, your appetite to hang sour, so that you have a kind of if you feel.

But it would be a big mistake for modern women to choose Daiyu as a model, because Daiyu is a model of a traditional lady, not a model of a modern lady.

The best choice for a lady is: choose Daiyu's elegance, keep Daiyu guarded as a jade, "the quality of the original clean and still clean."

The lady's speech to truly elegant and moving, in the possession of eternal smile and magnetic voice at the same time, must bear in mind the ten taboos of conversation with others and conversation avoidance. Ten taboos of conversation with others

1. Interrupt the conversation of others or grab the head of the words of others.

2. Neglect to use generalization, so that the other side of the moment difficult to understand your intentions.

3. Distracting your attention so that others repeat what they have talked about.

4. Continuous questioning, which makes you seem over-zealous and demanding, making it difficult to cope.

5. Treating other people's questions carelessly, giving the impression that you are ignoring and belittling them.

6. Explaining a phenomenon casually and making rash assertions to show that you are an expert.

7. Avoid the truth, but not reveal, so that people are confused.

8. unduly emphasize some of the minutiae that are irrelevant to the subject matter, so that people are tired of it and feel embarrassed.

9. When others are not interested in a certain topic, you feel impatient and immediately change the topic to your own interest.

10. Pretend that a correct point of view or a pertinent advice is wrong or inappropriate, so that the other person suspects that you have a teasing intention in your words. The avoidance in the conversation

There is no perfect person. All people have strengths and weaknesses. People always have self-esteem, often do not want others to touch their own shortcomings, privacy, unpleasant things. Therefore, in interpersonal relationships, the speaker must seek to avoid. To talk to the object involved in some sensitive, special things, should be more for the other side.

1. Physical defects. Speaking are to avoid people's physical defects, had to take indirect expression. Such as limping people should politely say, "Your legs are not convenient, please sit down first."

2. Family misfortune. Like the death of a relative, husband and wife divorced and so on. If the person concerned is not the initiative to mention, it is not appropriate to talk about it abruptly.

3. Shortcomings in personnel. Shortcomings in dealing with people, undignified experiences and the current situation, these are sensitive points that do not want others to touch.

4. When entering a country, do as the Romans do. "When you enter a country, ask about prohibitions, when you enter a country, ask about customs, and when you enter a country, ask about taboos." This is crucial to socializing success or failure.

Being a lady don't feel that you are born to be liked, talk to others, pay attention to avoid, in fact, is to understand people, respect people, civilized, cultured performance. If you can try to avoid unpleasantness, everyone will be happy.

Facts have proved that the lady elegant and moving speech, will help socialize, help reflect the lady's personality beauty, will add a few points to her beauty

Lady if there is no atmosphere, the charm of the atmosphere has become a commonplace, the virtuous through and through, there is no way to talk about it. Atmosphere of the lady can be a little powder, you can also face the sky; you can dress gourmet food, can also be a little bit of food; you can live in a wide range of buildings, you can also live in thatched cottage; you can point to a thousand troops, you can also raise the case of the same eyebrow.

In life, the natural atmosphere will be in some women show extraordinary elegance, and the world as one, showing infinite vitality. The atmosphere lies in the knowledge of the body. Knowledge of the body is not to comment on their own good and bad things in the world, but with a tolerant heart to treat all beings well. This virtue of the woman in the well-behaved outside, and add a graceful and elegant, calm and unhurried charm, cool as the wind, bright like the moon.

Atmosphere is shown in the clothes and hats, but also in the hands and feet, more exposed in the eyebrows and speech.

Lady if you can enjoy every living moment at the same time, forging their own that frost does not wither, life and death of the atmosphere of the character, then, the world is not just more a beautiful scenery, but more of a human model. The more such models, the greater the likelihood of the world's wind on the day, the lady's taste is more noble and pure, marvelous.

Atmosphere first learn to tolerate, allow others to live a different concept of existence. The world, no wonder. Everything in the world, there is no absolute concept of right and wrong. Maybe the friends around you by marrying so that food and clothing, and you are convinced that women should be self-reliant, can not become a man's appendage. This is supposed to be the difference between the concepts of life, you will not despise her and spit on her for this, right?

The wisdom of the lady will not be so, they do a thing, every word first to consider whether to do so to harm others, how not to lose the lady through the nature of the color. Everyone has their own way of pursuing their own way, maybe different paths to the same end, and ultimately everyone **** with a purpose to achieve.

Lady is not out of place, pretentious, but able to tolerate others, know how to respect other people's choices, but also recognize different people's lifestyles. Atmosphere should also be expressed as enthusiasm. The American writer Emerson once wrote: "If a man has no enthusiasm he cannot do great things." The great poet S. Ullman also said, "The years only leave wrinkles on your forehead, but if you lack enthusiasm in life, your mind will be covered with wrinkles."

With enthusiasm, a lady will turn strangers into friends, will be able to sincerely tolerate others, will be able to make full use of her spare time to fulfill her hobbies, and will be in the mood to hammer out what should be a virtuous side.

The enthusiasm of a lady will make you become broad-minded and abandon grudges; it will make you relaxed and happy, even forgetting your illnesses, and of course it will clear the mind of weeds.

Modern lady's character should be soft inside and hard outside, strong and soft, in the soft appearance, beating a strong heart. They are no longer the traditional lady's weakness, nor are they discouragingly strong women.

Modern ladies y understand that the deliberate pursuit of toughness, and the woman's true inner world is too great a contrast, is no toughness of hardness.

Therefore, modern ladies use the most gentle way to exchange the most favorable treatment. Moreover, they never abandon life and love, but love rationally and fully enjoy the sweetness of love; they live sincerely and enjoy all the beauty of life.

As a fashionable term, lady is the opposite of "tomboy" or "strong woman". Although the Chinese lady and the Western lady have inherited very different traditions, there is a spirit of commonality between the two, and in this increasingly internationalized contemporary society, they are going in the same direction, and the two words that replace them are also translations of each other.

The Chinese lady is facing the gentleman, the Western lady is facing the gentleman, in the gentleman's concept, always "lady first. lady as the weak image of the mainstream society by the special care and attention. In the corset and skirt support prevalent times, well-bred ladies know how to pass out at the right time, so that the gentleman around the hero has a place. The lady is the schoolmarm in the female sphere and the underdog in the male sphere. This is the key to being a lady.

Modern ladies do not have to work in women's red, do not have to smile without showing their teeth, but they should still be quiet, gentle and elegant, is to lift the form of the body in the rules. A lady is essentially a norm. More than a hundred years of women's liberation movements have taken women away from the ladylike spirit; the 1960s youth movement against tradition and the resulting "ultra-short look" dealt a heavy blow to the ladylike icon; the 1980s white-collar women in wide, shoulder-padded suits and dresses were just as disruptive in their toughness. It wasn't until the 90's that the trend changed and people missed the women of yesteryear that the fashion industry re-emerged with a feminism that should actually be called ladylike.