Skills of establishing marriage relationship with traditionalists (ESTJ, ISTJ, ESFJ, ISFJ)

Among all people, SJ (traditional type) is the most family-centered type. The traditional temperament of SJ includes four personality types: ESTJ, ISTJ, ESFJ and ISFJ.

SJ women usually become loyal wives and mothers, loyal husbands and godsons, and loyal wives; SJ men usually become responsible, reliable, loyal and hardworking husbands and earn money to support their families.

Understand that SJ type is a pessimist, and they have been pursuing a sense of security all their lives. The pursuit of security is mainly reflected in two aspects: first, honesty, observance of rules and discipline, and adherence to tradition-they firmly believe that such a lifestyle is stable and safe; Second, strive to make money and be thrifty. They have accumulated a rich material foundation and gained a sense of security by "striving to open up sources and effectively reducing expenditure".

So SJ families usually occupy the vast majority of the middle class.

The purpose of writing this article is: first, to clarify SJ's values of marriage and love, so that SJ readers can be more clear about their suitable marriage partners. In addition, if your favorite partner or the other half is SJ, then this article will provide you with more basis and guidance for marriage and love.

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The reasons SJ can't refuse to date

If you want to date SJ people successfully, the key to the highest success rate is to remember the nature that "they are naturally keen on' public welfare' social activities". As long as you always pay attention to the social activities around you, you will naturally find many reasons to date. Of course, there are countless ways to ask SJ out, but this is a good method that works time and again.

In this way, they are not only willing to participate in these activities, but also get sincere satisfaction from them; At the same time, nature is also very helpful for you to leave a deep and beautiful impression on them.

For example, people in SJ usually don't throw away idle things, even small things like old clothes, and they feel that they should make the best use of them. Therefore, we can take them to participate in similar activities: idle goods exchange activities, idle clothes donation activities, second-hand book exchange activities and so on. SJ likes to take part in similar activities.

Other social activities include community service, collective release, poverty alleviation, volunteers in nursing homes, psychological counseling for left-behind children and so on. In addition, SJ also likes to attend concerts, visit museums, or watch movies and other routine activities.

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Key elements of dating SJ

Often female SJ is a typical lady with China feminine charm, and this image is also in line with SJ women's self-orientation. So, if you are a man, remember to treat them like ladies when dating them.

First of all, you must speak appropriately. First, be generous. Second, don't just be Nuo Nuo. When it comes to posture, SJ people hate people who put on airs and talk big. Remember to talk about specific topics during the conversation. It's better not to talk about dreams (what I want in ten years), but to talk about planning (what I want to do next year).

Generally speaking, SJ people like two topics best: they are very interested in the past (traditionalists live in the past) and can talk about history, tradition and childhood; If you are interested in your family, you can talk to them about the personality, work and recent situation of your family and relatives.

Secondly, Ms. SJ is very concerned about your manners, so be careful. Moreover, they are naturally good at distinguishing. It's easy to show your gentlemanly manners by helping them to hold soup, pass paper towels and hold knives and forks-they cherish this tradition (etiquette).

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Don't think about sleeping with SJ boys and girls

Physically and psychologically, most SJ girls are very traditional. In their cognition, it is very precious to think that chastity is flush with morality. Therefore, premarital sex is almost unacceptable. Therefore, don't pass on sexual cues easily. Although this is human nature, they will think you are evil and even doubt your character and morality.

As SJ himself, he will also restrain his physical and psychological reactions, and it is immoral to blame himself for his sexual impulse.

If you are a girl, it is also recommended not to sleep with male SJ easily. Because the innate sense of responsibility will drive them to be responsible for you to the end, maybe you don't need such a heavy emotion. Especially if you are an SP girl, don't provoke SJ boys easily. Because you can walk freely, SJ boys may be psychologically burdened with the moral shadow of "owing you a responsibility and feeling guilty".

For readers who want to make an appointment. It is recommended not to choose SJ type, and the above two points are the main reasons. In addition, SJ usually doesn't fully enjoy sexual experience, such as SJ doesn't know how to flirt, SJ girls are embarrassed to call the bed, and SJ boys don't know how to change places. Of course, these performances are normal for SJ! Don't even think about married SJ. Both men and women will put family first and seldom consider the relationship between men and women.

In a word, SJ is not suitable for being a lover or a booty call.

To ask what type is the most suitable, SP can rank first, and they will regard sex as a pleasure. The second place is NF, but it is romantic and emotional. NT is the third. SJ can be ignored.

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Marriage killer with SJ

"Love without marriage purpose is hooliganism", which is an endorsement of SJ's view on marriage and love.

SJ is an early marriage group, and they are the most eager to get married of all types. Why? Among all the reasons such as tradition and parental pressure, "pursuing a sense of security" is the core reason why she is eager to get married.

Even, we can understand that SP pursues fun, freedom and adventure, and they don't consider getting married until they want to settle down. NF has been pursuing self-understanding all his life. If they can't find a soul mate with the same three views, they would rather be single forever. NT type is a lifelong learner and challenger, who is committed to self-improvement until he meets the other half who can be equal to himself ideologically.

Only SJ type people, their life goal seems to be to form their own family. Then I had children and devoted my whole life to "how to build a better family": I worked hard to earn money to support my family, unite my neighborhood, actively participate in various community activities, and live in harmony with my family. Instead of thinking about pursuing freedom like sp, or pursuing psychological feelings like nf, or blindly pursuing academics and technology like nt.

Therefore, the killer of marriage and love with SJ is that "all actions should be based on bringing them a sense of security."

Otherwise, no matter how handsome, talented, emotional and romantic you are, you may fail. Because all this has nothing to do with the family they want to form-"marriage". So, lock and display the following elements and press the first button that excites them:

-I want to marry you. Then, seriously discuss with each other: how many children you want, how to educate your children, where you want to buy a house, and what style you want to decorate your house. . . . . . . Believe me, SJ people will love these topics that they have thought about countless times.

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Types of marriage and love objects suitable for SJ

For marriage, SJ may be attracted to any type of people for various reasons, and may also enter into marriage with any type of people. But SJ and sp are the types with the highest matching index.

For NF (romantic type), the tacit understanding between husband and wife is the most important, because they naturally pursue psychological feelings. But it's hard for SJ to guess NF's sensitive idea. NF just doesn't like to give hints, thinking that "guessing" is romance! To make matters worse, if SJ can't guess his mind, NF is likely to be in a mood right away. At this time, SJ was even more puzzled: what made her/him unhappy again!

It is estimated that this kind of pairing is a typical love killing, and it is terrible to think about it!

For NT (rational type), their innate nature-rational thinking T and strong intuitive insight or creativity N-will lead NT to dislike conventional SJ, both ideologically and behaviorally. Moreover, NT usually doesn't pay attention to, or even deliberately ignores, conventional etiquette and social traditions, and its subversion and quickness will make SJ feel very unsafe. After all, remember that traditions and practices are SJ's most cherished sources of security.

So, whether you are in love with NF or NT or getting married. SJ may not be able to enter their cognitive range all his life, and it is also difficult to understand the meaning behind the words of intuitive N-type people, which is likely to lead to the marriage tragedy of "chickens talk with ducks" without common language-they have been in love for many years or married for many years, but they are like the most familiar strangers in thought.

Comparatively speaking, although SP is playful, SJ can give full play to his natural characteristics of "motherhood or selflessness" and take good care of or "train" SP. At the same time, SP can also bring a lot of laughter to SJ; The most important thing is that there are often many * * * topics between SP and SJ:

Because two people communicate the real things and information that the five senses see, hear, smell, taste and touch, they can understand each other's words, instead of indulging in the spiritual world to talk about philosophy like NF, or talking about abstract theories and academics like NT.

Finally, I want to make a cautious statement:

This article is to teach you how to do what SJ likes, not how to cheat SJ's feelings. If you are struggling to pursue the skills of picking up girls or flirting with Han, then you have no reason not to believe that you already have this skill, and that is your sincerity.