It's not a disease to like the new and hate the old?

Question 1: Is it a disease to like the new and dislike the old? First of all, it is human nature to like the new and dislike the old, and you don't have to feel guilty about it at all.

At a young age, we knew that a toy would fade after playing for a long time, so that we soon forgot all about the "old guy" who had been with us for a while. This is an animal instinct, and we need constant freshness to explore and pursue it ourselves. This is also an important driving force for human beings to keep moving forward.

Many times, the feelings between men and women are hard to last. Since ancient times, there have been sayings such as three-year itch. After the love period, the feelings tend to be dull, and the novelty at first disappears. But don't think that you have lost interest in your former lover. Because he/she has been integrated into your life, it is a habit to miss him or not to see him every day, just like you don't feel anything if you haven't seen your parents for a few days. At this time, it is not only the relationship that maintains feelings, but also a responsibility and belief. When you consciously tell yourself that he is your other half, your only, your future dependence, he is still everything to you. Just like you usually quarrel with your parents, the guests at home are as warm as their parents. When you go out with your parents and meet people you know, they will enthusiastically introduce you as their child, and you will snuggle up to your parents and call your uncle and aunt sweetly. I think, no matter how weak your relationship with your boyfriend is, you will still think of him first when you encounter difficulties that you can't solve or when you are in a particularly bad mood and it is difficult to tell others.

Of course, the gradual weakening of feelings is by no means a person's reason. Maybe all of you are not as enthusiastic as before, and you are not willing to break this deadlock first. At this time, I really want to think about my future and how to change and improve this embarrassing situation, otherwise it is inevitable to break up.

No matter what the result is, don't feel too guilty about your "liking the new and hating the old". When you really want to find a partner who depends on you for life, your sense of responsibility will naturally appear. Even in the face of great temptation, there will always be a voice in your heart to remind you that I have a boyfriend and he is very kind to me. We have loved before, and we will love again. We will spend our lives together, and we are just passers-by.

I believe you will make the wisest decision according to your actual situation. I wish you happiness! Eternal legend I will answer your question!

Question 2: liking the new and hating the old is not a disease. People who constantly forgive are sick, because you love T A.

Question 3: I find that I like the new and hate the old. I don't want to be serious, but I have a strong desire to get it. Do you understand that people who love flowers water her, and people who don't love flowers will choose to plant flowers for each other? Showing off means you are vain. This is a small problem that many people will have. If you want to change, try to control yourself and ask yourself what you like. Do you have to take it yourself? Appreciate from the heart.

Question 4: How to overcome the problem of liking the new and hating the old! Coleridge has a poem: "meet, know each other, fall in love, and then break up;" This is a sad experience for many people. "Why did we seldom quarrel in the past? That's because the freshness of love makes people willing to be tolerant, considerate and considerate, and show and see each other's advantages more. After a long time, the freshness gradually loses, and the shortcomings and mistakes that were forgiven in the past will be highlighted. What's more, everyone doesn't care so much about each other's feelings and makes their shortcomings and mistakes more and more clear? The life impulse eager for novelty began to slack off, and * * * gradually faded away, because when the power system that ensures the normal operation of everything began to age or even decline, the harmonious relationship that was originally full of vitality, full of vitality, inclusive and capable of overcoming everything began to be disordered. It is everyone's own characteristics and natural attributes to like the new and hate the old. This internal cause of promoting the overall development of human beings is usually reprimanded by people in the field of ethics, but it is really deeply rooted in people's subconscious mind. Caring, gentleness and consideration, and sacrifice and dedication are the behaviors in reality determined by the subconscious mind of "loving the new". This kind of behavior is spontaneous rather than conscious (because animals also have this kind of "feeling"), but in real life, it is often considered to be decided by a conscious mind. One of its characteristics is "two-way satisfaction", which not only pleases the object, but also willingly pays the subject and doesn't care much about the return. If both parties adopt this behavior, they will get double "two-way satisfaction" because of the existence of two "two-way satisfaction", and the happiness in the early stage of love is self-evident. However, the premise of this idealized behavior is "liking the new and hating the old", which determines that this behavior cannot last without the intervention of human purposeful behavior, because another subversive factor-"hating the old" is about to go to the bottom. Over time, "new" has become "old", and people's psychological feelings have also changed from "happiness" to "disgust". As a result, sweet words turned into criticism, care, indifference and gentleness, and lovers became enemies. Since ancient times, "All's well that ends well for lovers" is a good blessing to lovers, but the reason for this blessing is often that they hope to overcome various unfavorable external conditions and finally get married. In real life, it would be considered unlucky to say this to a pair of lovers in love. But in fact, even if all the external conditions are met, it is difficult for two people to become a family (the "family" here is not a husband-and-wife relationship in a shallow sense, but refers to the happiness of loving and being loved all the time, whether in love or marriage). Because the real threat comes not from the outside, but from the inside, just as the real enemy of mankind is itself. It is a huge magnetic field emitted by a primitive wild force in the deepest part of human nature, and anyone's behavior in this respect is directly or indirectly restricted by it. Plato's sentence "Only the dead can see the end of the war" points out the bellicose nature of human beings, because selfishness and greed are insatiable. For many lovers, only breaking up can see the end of the quarrel. The behavior of people who are dominated by realistic relationships is also restricted by deep instinctive subconscious. The influence of the former is a historical process, and the latter is an eternal process, which is endless with the existence of human life. For this invisible or even ferocious force, eat drink man woman, who lives in the secular world, seems so pale and powerless! " "Love the new and hate the old" can also explain the reasons why external factors contribute to the breakup of lovers. Ouyang Xiu has a poem: "This year's flowers are better than last year's, but next year's flowers are better. Who do you know? " As the initial "new" becomes "old", people begin to pursue another kind of "new". Even if they don't act, they will still have a "heart", that is, "daydreaming" or "psychosexuality". This is an "alternative satisfaction" way that people's subconscious mind can't release because of the constraints and repression from ethics in reality. (Where there is oppression, there is resistance) Because the subconscious mind is an instinctive innate thing, it will only suffer setbacks and will never die out, so when the subconscious mind gradually expands to a certain extent in the struggle against oppression, that is, when it reaches the limit of the pain that people can bear (the subconscious mind demands to be released, but in fact it is not allowed by consciousness, which constitutes human pain), the subject will instinctively ask to avoid hurting himself and release the subconscious mind. & gt

Question 5: How to get rid of the habit of liking the new and hating the old? This is a process. You must learn this. You must accumulate experience by growing up. Although you are aware of its existence, you can't change it immediately.

Question 6: I really understand that you don't like the new and hate the old, but I'm not around when you're lonely … which song of Stephanie's is this? I'm not sad.-Stephanie.

Lyrics: Yang Mingxue is composed by Li Qi.

Standing at your door again, we repeat our silence.

How long can you wait unilaterally like this?

Finally, you told me how gentle she was, even though you still held my hand.

But I'm not in your heart anymore. I really understand.

You don't like new ones, but I don't.

Stay with you when you are lonely.

Don't look at me and say you loved me.

Don't hurt too much. I'm not sad.

Nothing, just why I shed tears.

I don't understand, so let me go.

Let me enjoy my freedom and remember a lot.

Your shadow will also fill my life. I am not weak.

You know better than anyone, though lonely.

This will be my last tolerance.

Hold me tight, and then hold me tight.

Please let me stay on my chest

Stop saying it's your fault that love has come to an end.

Right and wrong, let it go.

Forget everything happier than you.

Stop it. Maybe it's for the best.

If you don't love me, it's better to break up now than to put it off.

Let go of your hand and leave you with me.

I move forward, which will be my real liberation.

Question 7: How to get rid of the habit of liking the new and hating the old? It is also easy to get rid of the habit of liking the new and hating the old. Everything that belongs to Guangxi is new and old! Let nature take its course. People are the same when they are old. This is the natural entrance. If you are angry, people will use you as old.

Don't want you, will you? Aren't you sad? So, you naturally changed your mind! n

I'll think about it when I'm fine and see if it's true! This is my personal opinion. Ow! What if you feel satisfied! Please adopt! thank you

Question 8: Why do people always like the new and hate the old? Is this a problem? We must change it. Yes, it can be said that it is human nature, but it can be changed consciously.

Question 9: How to get rid of the habit of liking the new and hating the old and learn to cherish things? You can practice, but it's a waste.

For example, take out your most precious things and throw them away, and keep one every day until you collapse and learn to cherish them.