Why do you say that Zhu Dexiao comes first?

Filial piety is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation. In the long history of 5,000 years in China, there have been many models of filial piety that people talk about. There is an old saying in China: "Filial piety is the first of all virtues", which means that filial piety is the first of all virtues and is the foundation of being a man.

China has had filial piety since the Western Zhou Dynasty. The most influential is Confucianism represented by Mencius. The most familiar is-"Mencius Li Lou": "There are three kinds of unfilial, and there is no queen." The original text is "Mencius said: there are three kinds of unfilial, and there is no big one." Marry without telling, and there is no queen, and the gentleman thinks that it is still telling. "

It means: "there are three kinds of unfilial, and the responsibility of not guarding future generations is the greatest." Shun married without telling his parents, which is nothing, but the gentleman thinks it is similar to telling him (because Shun is a monk and Yao wants to marry his daughter). "

In other words, Mencius' original words have not been misrepresented by the public-not having children is unfilial. However, the most unfilial thing is not fulfilling the responsibility to the elders and future generations. Mencius' original words did not say what the other two kinds of unfilial were.

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Children should really thank their parents for their kindness, but the saying of "repaying kindness" is unfounded. Parents have the responsibility to raise their children. If not, they are not qualified to be parents at all. Repaying parents' kindness does not mean that they must be allowed to decide their own lives. Although there was a saying in ancient China that "your parents want you to die", even in ancient times, it was not filial piety, but the loss of human relations.

The real old saying in China is that a father should be kind to his son, that is, parents should be kind to their son and children should be filial. This is the responsibility of both parties. If your parents ignore your essence and force you to give up the happiness of your life, such parents will no longer have the right to be filial.