What is handshake etiquette?

Handshaking is a part of socializing. Through the power, posture and duration of the handshake can often express the different courtesy and attitude to the object of the handshake, revealing their own personality, leaving a different impression.

The meaning and manner of handshake

Handshake is the most common way for people to greet each other. It is not only a courtesy of meeting, but also an expression of congratulations or thanks. There are mainly the following ways:

(1) Equal. Shake hands with the right hand outstretched, four fingers together and thumbs apart, the two palms and the ground perpendicular to each other, and gently shaking, generally 2 to 3 seconds is appropriate; eyes on each other, with a smile on the face, the upper body should be slightly leaning forward, the head should be slightly lowered. This is the meaning of the more simple, polite expression of friendship and cooperation of the standard handshake.

(2) Control style. Shaking hands with the palm down, appearing arrogant, to show that they are superior, or imply that they want to take the initiative.

(3) Begging. Shaking hands with the palm up, this handshake indicates humility and excessive deference, often in a dominant position.

(4) Glove. Both hands firmly grasp each other's right hand, and up and down shaking, a little longer, often expressed a warm welcome, thanks, gratitude, or have to ask for, affirmation of the significance of the contract. Inferiors to superiors, or juniors to elders with this way, more expressive of humility. But the first meeting is generally not allowed to use this way.

(5) dead fish style. Shake hands carelessly, too weak, very short, not only gives a very cold feeling, but also leaves a lifeless, at the mercy of the impression.

(6) Vise-like. Shaking hands with too much force, too long, too large, giving a rude feeling.

(7) Grasping fingertip style. When shaking hands, gently touch each other's fingertips, often giving a cold feeling. Some ladies regard themselves as noble and often use this way, which also implies keeping a certain distance.

In short, different ways of shaking hands, its meaning is different, to give people the courtesy is not the same. We should adopt the correct way of shaking hands, that is, the standard way of shaking hands, in the principle of friendship and goodwill, to give each other a kind of equal treatment, friendly and easy-going feeling.

Ordinary handshake etiquette

Handshake as a social etiquette, is not a casual behavior, but there are certain precepts. Only in this way can you leave a good impression.

The general requirements of shaking hands mainly include:

(1) the handshake posture should be correct

The handshake salute, usually about one step away from the salutee, two feet upright, the upper body leaned forward slightly, stretch out the right hand, four fingers together, the thumb open and the other side of the handshake, shaking slightly for 3-4 times, and then with each other's hands to let go and return to the original state. With close relations, the handshake can be slightly increased strength and shake times, and even use both hands to shake each other warmly.

(2) shaking hands with the right hand

If it happens that the right hand is doing something, a moment to draw out, or hands dirty and wet, should be explained to the other side, spread out his hand to apologize, or immediately wash his hands, and the other side of the warm shake. If you are wearing gloves, you should remove them before shaking hands with the other party.

(3) shaking hands to pay attention to the order

Generally by the older first to the younger reach out to the status of high first to the status of low reach out to the ladies first to the men reach out to the teachers first to the students reach out to the students; if the two pairs of husband and wife to meet, the first is the women greet each other, and then the men were to the other side of the wife to greet each other, the last man to greet each other; when visiting, is generally the master of the first When visiting, it is usually the host who reaches out his hand first to express his welcome; when saying goodbye, the guest should reach out his hand first to express his thanks and ask the host to stay. If you should not extend your hand first, do not do so. When you meet, you can greet each other first and shake hands with each other after the other person extends his hand, otherwise it is impolite. Many people shake hands at the same time, it is best not to cross handshake, should be based on the order, to be shaken by others, you then reach out.

(4) Shake hands with enthusiasm

Shake hands with enthusiasm or not, show enthusiasm is appropriate, from the handshake expression, way, strength, time, etc. can be reflected. Shake hands with eyes to look at each other's eyes, smile and salute. Do not be careless, looking around, while shaking hands while looking at other people and things, or the other party has long reached out to you, but you are slow to reach out and shake hands, this is cold, arrogant, extremely impolite performance. The time to shake hands to about 3 seconds is appropriate, some people hold other people's hands tightly without letting go and only focus on enthusiastic talk, especially in the public *** place or on the road, so that the other side is very uncomfortable. In general, palm down, is an arrogant way to shake hands, palm up is too humble, the common way to shake hands is the two sides of the palm side to the opposite and hold.

(5) handshake strength to moderate

Neither breathless, not too tight, and even grip the other hand, grip too light, or only touch each other's fingertips, do not hold the whole hand, the other side will feel that you are arrogant or lack of sincerity; grip too tight, the other side will feel that you are passionate about too much fire, do not good to cover up the joy of the heart, or feel that you are rude, frivolous, and not dignified. In addition, also pay attention not to one foot standing outside the door, one foot standing in the door to shake hands, and do not even jump to shake hands or shake hands while knocking shoulders and back, not to have other frivolous and indecent behavior.

Special handshake etiquette

The so-called special requirements for shaking hands is for shaking hands with the object of the identity of the special. The main attention should be paid to the following aspects:

(1) with the VIP or shake hands with the elderly matters:

When the VIP or the old man stretched out his hand, you should step forward, with both hands to shake each other's hands, the body slightly leaning forward, in order to show respect can also be based on the occasion, while shaking hands with greetings, say some words to express a warm welcome and warm greetings. Never hold your head high or be timid when shaking hands. In social occasions meet high status familiar with the elderly, do not rush forward to interrupt the other party's conversation or socializing activities, should be in the other party's conversation or socializing end, and then go forward to greet, shake hands to greet. If more than one person in the occasion, should observe the general customary order of the first VIP, the elderly.

(2) with the superior or subordinate handshake matters:

Meeting with the superior and subordinate, generally should be the first superior to reach out, the subordinate can shake hands with. If the superior more than one person, the order of handshake should be from the position of high to low position, such as the position is equivalent to the general order of customary, can also be introduced by a person, you shake hands with them one by one. Superiors and subordinates shake hands, should be enthusiastic and sincere, smiling, watching each other's eyes, careless, perfunctory, indifferent, full frame, or in the handshake with the subordinate and that is to use a handkerchief to wipe their hands, are not decent or impolite.

(3) shake hands with women than with men have more to pay attention to

According to the general rules, on general occasions, women are always accustomed to nodding or smiling, whether or not to shake hands, depending on their personal habits and the degree of pleasure. If the woman is willing to do so, she should extend her hand first, and the man only needs to shake it gently. If the woman does not want to shake hands, she can bow slightly, or nod or say polite words instead of shaking hands. It is not appropriate for a man to reach out first to shake a woman's hand, as this will make the other party feel embarrassed. However, if the man has extended his hand, the woman is expected to respond, and in any case, it is impolite to ignore a natural and friendly gesture. Before shaking hands, men must remove their gloves and hats, while women may wear gloves.

Distinguishing between these types of handshake requirements, and being flexible and applying the etiquette of handshake, you can make a deep and good impression in social situations, at the first meeting. In this regard, people who want to learn the etiquette of interaction must not know.