Daughter married out, the New Year and back to her mother's home over, is not the mother's family will be poor with this statement?

Some say, married out of the daughter, the New Year is not allowed to go back to the mother's home, if the New Year in the mother's home, will eat poor mother's home, is the same as to indicate that she hopes that the mother's home poverty. Some say, married daughter is someone else's family, since she has been married can not eat back, especially on the first day of the New Year shall not eat in the mother's home. Since the first day of the year can not go back to the mother's home for the New Year, there should be an institutionalized, formalized arrangements to visit the mother's family during the Spring Festival to leave a day, right? In some places, after the second or third day of the Lunar New Year, married daughters can go back to their mother's home without any restrictions.　　According to a long-standing custom, the second day of the Lunar New Year is "Son-in-Law Day", or, as some say, "Girl's Day". In other words, all daughters who are married off return to their families on this day. In the case of newly married daughters, they must bring their groomsmen with them. People call the return of young daughters-in-law with their husbands to visit their parents and families on the second day of the Lunar New Year "huimen" or "jining". Because this custom is very important to the mother's family, if any daughter-in-law does not arrive as scheduled, or does not have a gift ready to return the door, the family will have a very unpleasant, even unlucky or inauspicious feeling, but also affects the life of the next year.　　Married Women, Splashed Out Water In traditional society, a married woman is compared to water that has been splashed out of the door. From the relationship of inheritance, although the girl is the biological flesh and blood of her parents, but ultimately, after growing up, to be married and become a foreign family. When a woman is married is a natural thing, but also a woman's life destination, although on the surface still retains the inherent blood relationship, in fact, is very close from the gradual drift towards estrangement, like water has been splashed out of the door.　　Feudal rites require women three from: at home from the father (no father from the brother), married from the husband, the husband died from the give. It can be said that women in the old days, whether in the mother's family or in-laws, only filial piety and serve the elderly, care for their husbands, the responsibility and duty to raise children, but not their own rights and status. Even according to etiquette, a few times a year to return to the province of relatives, but also just to greet their parents well, live a few days, in the eyes of the family, this married out of the daughter has been a foreigner, the family will not allow her to participate in the affairs of the family, and her life and death has nothing to do with their own.