When people are old, their children are not filial. What is the root cause?

People are old, their children are unfilial, and the evening scenery is bleak. However, "there is no love and hate for no reason", and any feelings are not produced for no reason. In fact, the root cause of children's unfilial is nothing more than the following three points:

1, the old man deserves it if he doesn't honor the old man himself.

Some old people, when they were young, felt that their old people were burdensome and never filial. Over time, when they are old, they have not developed a family style of honoring the elderly, and their children have begun to fail to honor themselves.

There was an old man whose son was unfilial to him and cursed him. The old man is not popular, but says, "You scold me, I am your father"! The son retorted, "It's not bad for me to scold you. When you were young, you hit my grandfather! In a word, he was speechless.

2. The old people dote on their children too much and are not properly educated.

Some old people love children so much that they are afraid to melt them in their mouths and break them in their hands. They have suffered a lot, but they are reluctant to let their children suffer a little injustice. In this way, when children grow up, they form a selfish, overbearing and unruly character. They have no responsibility, no responsibility, no love. One day, they will be useless and will naturally be rejected by their children.

3. Old people are incompetent as parents when they are young and lack love for their children.

Some old people, although they were parents when they were young, are not good people because of their lack of ability, failure to fulfill their obligations of raising and educating their children and their own conduct problems. Therefore, when the child grows up, the two sides have no feelings, and the parents have a very bad impression in the child's mind. Such parents, their children have no gratitude at all. When they are old, it becomes a luxury to let their children be filial.

When people are old, their children are not filial. What is the root cause? Yesterday, in the rest area in front of the shopping mall, I met an old lady. She was chatting with a middle-aged elder sister on the side about her children, shivering and wiping her tears.

The old lady is 80 years old, with a hunchback and shaking hands. She bought a barrel 10 Jin of cooking oil and some carrots, onions and potatoes from the supermarket. She called her son and asked him to come and get it. My son said that the company has something to do now and asked her to take a taxi home. So the old lady cried like a big sister, saying that the child abandoned her and left her alone, and she couldn't get it back. The elder sister said that all these things were bought by children in the future, and she said that she was not satisfied with what the children bought. About half an hour later, the old lady staggered away.

My first impression in my heart was that her children were disgraceful. The old lady is 80 years old, let her go shopping by herself. But then I calmed down and thought about it, remembering what the old lady said, she felt that what the child bought was not worth her mind.

Filial piety is our traditional virtue, and our law stipulates that children have the obligation to support their parents. But when people are old, why do many old people say that their children are unfilial?

First, children are under great pressure, busy with work and spend less time with their children. Old people feel lonely and neglected.

Second, the elderly have no pension, their children are overburdened, and they don't want to bear the living expenses or medical expenses of the elderly.

Third, people are old, too picky, don't like their children's living habits, and often have conflicts when they live together.

Fourth, doting on children since childhood has cultivated their self-centered and irresponsible character.

Fifth, the problem of providing for the elderly in families with many children is frequent, mostly because children are dissatisfied with some practices of the elderly, or children shirk each other, forming a situation in which one monk has water to drink, two monks carry water and three monks have no water to drink.

I have a friend with me. My sister has no job. After the divorce, she lived with her children in her parents' home all the year round and lived on her parents' pension. My friend advised my sister to find a job many times, but she held back. Every time a friend goes home, my father says that the economy is tight and the money is not enough, but he turns to support his second daughter and nephew. Tell everyone that my friend won't visit him. Friends said they were sad, too.

So, are many children really unfilial? After all, our traditional virtues for thousands of years. Personally, there are still very few people who do not show their heartfelt filial piety to their parents. Here I give some advice to parents.

First, don't be too hard on children. Children like everything they buy and are not used to living habits. Taking care of your health is the most important thing.

Second, parents of families with many children must pay attention to balancing the relationship between their children. Sometimes a parent's decision is the fuse of conflicts between children.

Third, if children really don't honor their parents, parents can take up legal weapons to safeguard their rights and interests.

In fact, the most important thing when people are old is health. Health includes not only physical health, but also mental health.

Finally, I wish the elderly all over the world good health and a long life.

It is often seen that some old people cry to others that their children are unfilial, but in real life, there are indeed many people who are unfilial. For example, many years ago, an 80-year-old man in Tai 'an, Shandong Province arrived at the Spring Festival. Because no one took care of Ou, he asked his son for a bowl of noodles. As a result, his son and daughter-in-law hung from the beam and whipped him. Finally, he left with a grudge.

However, while all kinds of unfilial behaviors are condemned, few old people reflect on themselves. The old man never realized his children's unfilial. Maybe he himself is the initiator of all this.

Let's take an example from life: one of my neighbors is an old man. Perhaps for this reason, he loves his son in every way until he loves fire and becomes arrogant. Right or wrong, they always take their son as the center, and as a result, they spoil their son into a selfish, self-centered ungrateful person. The old couple's future is miserable. The old couple spend all their monthly retirement wages by their sons, and sometimes they have to accept the help of their neighbors because they have no money in their pockets.

Everyone said that the old couple had an unfilial son, but why didn't anyone ask-who made this unfilial son?

This is just an example. In fact, there are many reasons why children are unfilial. For example, some parents have a serious style of work and abuse their children from an early age. Other parents are too partial to their children. All these have the possibility of bringing up unfilial children.

Another example: an aunt whose daughter stole from her classmates in primary school, but it has been many years, but she is a persistent mother. Later, her daughter was admitted to a key university in Beijing, but her aunt stopped her and insisted that her daughter was a thief and was not qualified to go to college. Later, with the help of the head teacher in high school, my daughter broke through her mother's block and went to college. After graduation, she stayed in Beijing as a teacher and refused to see her mother until she got married and got married. And that aunt is shouting around, saying that she gave birth to a baiwenhang and gave birth to an unfilial daughter-who is to blame for this ending?

Therefore, when we unfortunately meet unfilial children, don't forget to reflect on ourselves.

A person's children are unfilial and should not be unfilial for no reason. People say that parents are the best role models for children. First, have you ever reflected on whether you are unfilial or disrespectful to your parents or in-laws and other elderly people in your family? If you are like this yourself, you can't blame your children for being unfilial to you. This is called picking up samples and getting what you want.

If you have a good family style, children will grow up in a very cultured environment that respects the old and loves the young. When you are old, it is impossible for your children not to be filial to you.

When people are old, their children are not filial. The most fundamental reason, of course, is that your education as a parent has gone wrong. I didn't pay attention to this kind of education since I was a child, or I have my own problems and set an example by myself.

First, educating children, honoring parents and respecting the elderly is a fine tradition of the Chinese nation for more than 5,000 years. However, parents do not know how to educate their children, blindly spoil them, and meet their requirements and desires without principle; If you don't establish a good family style and find small problems and don't correct them, it will gradually lead to bad moral character.

Second, I don't know filial piety, I don't know filial piety to my parents, and I don't know filial piety to my children. "Everything will be repaid." Your disrespect for your parents will not be missed at all, and worse will be returned to you. No one is to blame.

Third, parents' love for their children is wrong in ways and means, which brings harm to children. For example, instead of understanding their thoughts and feelings, they force themselves to choose for them, which makes children disgusted and disrespects their thoughts and personality. When they grow up, they will definitely reject you from the heart. Even if they want to love you from the heart, they still show resistance and uncooperative in life, which is far from filial piety.

Fourth, children are too materialistic. Nowadays, with the rapid development of social economy, everything is mainly material, and material is full of the whole life. Thought is naturally materialized. For example, children often get material rewards and material comfort. When children are full of interest, family ties will fade and become stale.

In short, it is the fault of one's own education when one finds that one's children are unfilial in old age, but it is too late, and one has to blame himself for everything. If they are not properly educated, they will be able to taste the consequences for themselves.

In real life, many old people live happily according to their own wishes, and their families are harmonious, while some old people have backfired and their children are unfilial, which can be described as a bleak evening scene. The main reason lies in whether you can lead by example, educate and influence children to develop in a good direction, and whether you can realize the wisdom of life and be an unattractive old man.

Parents are the best teachers for children, and children are deeply influenced by their parents when they grow up. If children want to know how to honor themselves, they should lead by example, honor the elderly and lead by example, and education will influence children. In a family, if parents express their views on things or people with extreme words and decadent emotions, children will also feel this way of dealing with problems, which is easy to be restless and nervous. If parents often quarrel, swear, cold violence, etc. Children are subtly aggressive, irrational and rude or refuse to accept communication and cooperation.

If parents are warm and kind to their friends and neighbors, filial and sincere to the elderly, what children remember is not what their parents said, but what their parents did in their eyes. If parents set an example, treat people with love everywhere, treat life and everything, and be good examples for children, children will know what is useful and love will take root in them.

Old people should not interfere in their children's lives, so that everyone can live a relaxed and happy life. In life, old people who are used to going to bed early and getting up early should not blame young people for going to bed late and getting up late; Old people who are good at careful calculation should not accuse young people of dumping leftovers and throwing away worn-out furniture; Also, the old people nag all day, ask questions regardless of this, worry blindly, tire themselves and bother their children. There are always different ideas in life. There is no need for old people to argue. They should learn the wisdom of life and learn to play dumb.

If conditions permit, it is best for the elderly to live separately from their children. Old people should fundamentally admit that they are really old, don't ask children with inherent thinking and concepts, don't think that children should take you as the center, fully implement your instructions and listen to your wishes. We should face the development of the times with a positive and optimistic attitude. The past is not entangled, the present is not troubled, for the future, don't argue, don't grab, be yourself, please everyone, and don't be annoying.

If the elderly want to be happy in their later years, they must have a healthy body and an independent source of income. If you want to be healthy and reduce the burden on children, you must strengthen appropriate exercise and increase immunity. You can go out for a walk, go to the supermarket, help buy some daily necessities, and take laundry and cooking with your children as the joy of life; Or read books and newspapers to discuss state affairs; Dance square dance, practice Tai Ji Chuan, and talk about oil and salt rice; Planting flowers and grass cultivates nature and makes people happy. We should also have a correct attitude, not engage in crooked ways, and not cause trouble to children. You can also learn unknown knowledge, broaden your horizons, keep yourself idle and have fun.

At the same time, you should have an independent economy, have your own small vault, or buy an insurance, so that you can easily cope with your daily expenses. Children who have been ill for a long time and have no filial son, but no matter how filial they are, will not stand this torture in the face of bedridden elderly people, because they also have lives and difficulties that they want to but can't do.

If there are two children, the old man should try his best to make a bowl of water even, and he can't love one and hate the other. The palm of your hand is meat, and so is the back of your hand. They were both born to the same mother. Why should we divide them into good ones and bad ones? Children who cry have milk to eat, who talk sweetly and do everything according to your wishes, you will like them better and give them everything good first. On the contrary, children who are taciturn, rebellious and always against you should be almost indifferent to them. Such eccentricity will only become the main cause of family conflicts in the future.

The child is very clever. He knows everything his parents do. Although he didn't say anything or have any opinions once or twice, what about three times and four times? Even if he is generous and doesn't care about everything about his parents, there is no guarantee that the other half will not complain or hate after he gets married. If old people can do things fairly, no matter how big or small, they will share them equally. Will children be ignorant and unfilial?

An old man, whether you come from a noble family or a poor family, can persistently educate and influence his children to develop in the right direction, be warm and kind, be strict with himself, be lenient with others, be indifferent to the old man, and put himself in others' shoes, which will certainly be welcomed by everyone. I sincerely hope that every old man can see more and learn more, improve his own quality, strengthen his self-cultivation and be a person with a sense of security and happiness.

Have you ever been filial to your parents? Parents' words and deeds in family life will affect the living conditions of the next generation of children. Teaching by example is more important than teaching by words!

Before answering this question, let me tell a story about an old man in our hometown, Li.

Uncle Li is over 80 this year. He has a son and a daughter. His daughter got married and left a son to live with him.

Although uncle Li is not young, he is still in good health, except that one leg is a little disabled and he walks with a limp. Even so, he pushes a small hopper every day and rummages through garbage dumps and construction sites for waste products that can sell money, such as steel bars, cardboard and plastic pipes. And then collect a little and sell it at the waste station.

You can earn forty or fifty dollars a day in good times, and maybe only a few dollars in bad times. I often meet him outside, pushing a scooter and limping slowly. I feel sorry for him, too, but there must be something hateful about the poor man.

According to Uncle Li's son, Uncle Li was lazy when he was young. He doesn't look after the house, and his mother carries it alone.

Moreover, Uncle Li is a very respectable person. He often boasts about how much he has done outside, but there is no such thing at all. Uncle Li's son complained about these past events.

Uncle Li's daughter-in-law said that although the old man is an old man, he doesn't like cleanliness very much. In such hot weather in summer, he doesn't take a bath for a day, and he smells sour all over. His clothes are dirty and he won't change them. The hut where he lives is also a mess, and things are piled everywhere.

I don't know how to wash the white mosquito net when it is black. It's dirty when I go out to pick up garbage every day. I didn't tidy it up when I came back. I just use my black hand to eat at the table. She really can't stand it. She said that she didn't change it many times, and she helped clean it several times, but it didn't take long to recover. She was really at a loss and didn't want to take care of it.

Now Uncle Li lives with his son and daughter-in-law, but he doesn't eat together. He cooks by himself and lives in a small corner of the house.

From Uncle Li's story, we can see that in fact, most of the children are filial to the elderly, just because some old people made some mistakes when they were young, their children were unhappy, or they were old, and some problems could not be corrected, even relying on the old to sell the old, always thinking about how much glory they should win for their children.

In fact, the more so, the farther away the child is from the old man. On the contrary, the elderly who are considerate of their children everywhere are neatly dressed and pay attention to hygiene, and never want to rely on others when they are still active.

Such old people are more respected by their children, and they will buy things and come back to visit them during the Spring Festival.

Therefore, in order to be loved, we must stand on our own feet and love ourselves at all times. For the elderly, don't always expect to raise children to prevent old age. When children grow up, they should have their own lives and should not interfere everywhere. If they can stand on their own feet, that is the best. There is a sense of boundary between them, which will bring people closer.

Some are because when the elderly are healthy, they don't know what they will look like when they are old. They are too smart to leave some room. Some of them meet those children with black conscience, so we can't talk together.

When people are old, their children are not filial. The root cause, I think, is that the wife is not virtuous and the son is unfilial, and there is no cure. According to my chat with the elderly, there are many reasons, the main reasons are as follows;

First, the son is unfilial, and the father and son live together, because parents are good examples for children not to forget your initiative, and the root cause of children's mistakes is that adults have not taught them well. After five years of traditional education in China, children learn and grow up by what adults do. Zhu Dexiao comes first. First of all, you should honor your parents and plant a good influence in your child's young mind. When you are old and can't walk, they will naturally honor you when they grow up. On the contrary, if you are unfilial to your father, the children will treat you in the same way.

Second, "at the beginning of life, nature is good", parents should establish friends with their children and don't beat and scold them often. Especially when children grow up, they also have self-obedience. On the contrary, don't throw it away at will, understand children's psychological wishes well and create a good growth environment. They will repay kindness, which is conducive to physical and mental harmony and family responsibility harmony.

Third, in today's society, because everyone has a child, because the phenomenon of pampering students is more common. I hope my son becomes a dragon, but he becomes a rebellious son. All the five poisons make adults feel chilling, hopeless and regretful. You know, today, he is better than at first. It is imperative to pay attention to children's early education.

Therefore, when people are old and stupid enough to cheat on their children, don't complain too much, because you don't pay much and get very little. If you raise them young, they will certainly raise you old. Everyone has the responsibility to honor the elderly, which is a traditional concept, and children are duty-bound.