Chaoshan wedding etiquette

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What are the etiquette of Chaoshan wedding customs?

Marriage customs and etiquette in Chaoshan

1. We met and chatted for a while, and both sides thought we could be partners. The matchmaker gives the woman's birthday to the man, which is called a wedding invitation. The man put Geng Tie in front of the throne of Si Mingjun. If there are no ominous signs at home within three days, such as smashing rice bowls and pots, it will be better for another three days. Then they exchanged jobs with each other. Ask the fortune teller for a blind date, thinking that the next step can be taken.

2. Look at the family style. After meeting and talking, we got to know each other. Both sides think they can be partners. The matchmaker gives the woman's birthday to the man, which is called changing the post. The man put Geng Tie in front of the throne of Si Mingjun. If there are no ominous signs at home within three days, such as smashing rice bowls and pots, it will be better for another three days. Then they exchanged jobs with each other. Ask the fortune teller for a blind date, thinking that the next step can be taken.

3. After the initial decision on the marriage of employment and re-employment, the woman begins to employ, and the employment form should be written in twelve editions in red paper. Bride gifts include cash, sugar, jewelry, clothes and so on. After the man receives the employment order, he can reduce it as appropriate, but generally he does not reduce sugar. Because sugar is for the woman and for relatives and friends. You can reduce the employment fee, which is called "reducing employment". Now it is generally written that the engagement fee is included. In the reply, the man can also specify what gift he wants the woman to give, that is, add the word Zuomu Yousheng after the bride price, and write the following items, such as X double contract and X double blessing cake. The matchmaker will send the employment form back to the woman until there is no disagreement between the two sides. The engagement fee doesn't need an integer of X hundred, because the dialect "Hundred Debts" is unlucky. Add a few numbers after one hundred. Chaoshan people should have a double mantissa, such as four or eight. Because the four are homophonic with the world, it is said that the world is good. Hakka people use nine, nine and long homonyms, which are called long and long.

After the engagement document is agreed, the man will choose the date according to the date of both men and women and carry out the engagement ceremony, which is called "engagement". On the same day, the man made a cone-shaped sphere out of brown sugar, called sugar mother. Because sugar is homophonic, it means that sugar mom passed it on to her grandchildren. Some people use white sugar instead of sugar mom. Putting pomegranate flowers on sugar means pomegranate bloom. Add brown sugar, cash, jewelry and so on. There are four kinds to be supplemented, of which cash and jewelry can offset the number of jobs. The woman came back with two sugar bags, usually wine cakes and sugar. Take its symbolic yeast and ferment Chang Rong. After receiving the candy, the woman distributed it to her relatives and neighbors to tell them the good news. After the date is fixed, the man decides to have a facelift, get a haircut, get married for his birthday and send it to his wife's house. This is called a day off.

5. On the day of re-employment, the man sent someone to send the bride price to the woman, including the bride price, bagged tea, jewelry, three animals, duck eggs, noodles and so on. And a bottle is essential. The quantity should be one Kyrgyzstan, and Kyrgyzstan and other projects can also be increased. The woman also returned bananas, contracts, pig hearts, bean balls, five seeds, a shrimp grass and spring grass, and taro seeds. There are twelve kinds of red eggs on the handkerchief, rice swill in the hip flask, and the gift money from the reading bag. The man received the gift, cut the pig's heart in half and sent it back to the woman. Husband and wife share a pig heart, which is called concentric liver and lung. Plant spring grass in flowerpots, carefully maintain it, and distribute bananas and contracts to relatives. Get married for about ten days, send bananas, and send invitations when signing the contract. The woman will also invite her in-laws that night. The bride's dowry is generally a basin, a bucket, a chair and a dowry in the room, such as a dresser and a gown cabinet. 2/kloc-0 In the first half of the century, the rich had a dowry called Quanting Mian, which included all the necessities of the bedroom and hall. Such as kang beds, round tables, drum chairs, paired armchairs, suitcases, five buckets of rice, bowls, feet, waist buckets, dressing tables, gold and silver jewelry, and even tablecloths in the kitchen. In some places, there are even long-lived coffins and title deeds. Of course, the engagement fee is much higher. Around 1930s, Hakka bride price was called "money for drinks". What wine goes with what dowry. Wine is graded, and the lowest one is called "rooster". The man only needs two Jin of pork, two pots of wine and a few pairs of eggs to send it to the woman. The higher level is called eating "basket", and the third level is called eating "basket". The fourth kind is called eating "some", and the highest kind is called eating "Zuo Mu You Sheng". According to different grades, the bride's dowry is also different, of course, there are simple and complex differences. This has become a historical topic and has been gradually simplified.

6. On the wedding day, the man sent someone to marry the woman. He used to use a sedan chair, then a bicycle, and now he uses a car. When a man gets married, he should write a 12 page post asking the bride to get on the sedan chair, which is called "sedan chair post", and also write several worship posts, such as in-laws, sons-in-law and fathers-in-law. Depending on the specific situation of relatives of both parties, plus sedan chair posts, there must be at least two. It is essential to get on the sedan chair, because the woman thinks that with the invitation to get on the sedan chair, she can say "I was invited by the twelfth edition" regardless of the quarrel between her mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law. In fact, some of them didn't send sedan chairs, so the woman refused to get on the bus and had to go home to make up for it. In addition, we will send you a sedan chair, two pieces of pork with stomachache, two bags of tea and sugar, and share the money with your brothers. These items were also delivered the day before the wedding. Before the woman gets married, she should invite an aunt with a full house of children and grandchildren to have plastic surgery. On the eve of my wedding, I invited my sisters to eat seven kinds of dishes, among which there must be thick food. Pick up people behind the door. That night, put straw in front of the stove, spread a straw mat on it and sleep on it. According to legend, in ancient times, a stepmother's daughter who abused money arranged this sleeping method. After Qian's daughter became a monk, she actually prospered. Later generations imitated this practice and became this custom. Hakka daughter sleeps with her mother on the eve of marriage. When the daughter gets married, the father sits in a sedan chair, pours a bowl of water on the sedan chair and makes four sentences. Because as the saying goes, "a married daughter is spilled water", which means that a married daughter is like spilled water, which is difficult to recover. Although people's ideas are no longer this set, the old rules still continue to this day. When the daughter gets married, the matchmaker will choose two red cloth bags, which will enlarge auspicious oranges, cereal seeds, coins, a suit and so on. I remember a nursery rhyme: "The water chicken carries a cloth bag, and the field crab comes to congratulate each other", which means this. In the past, the bride was accompanied by a "green mother-in-law", many of whom were full-time, usually middle-aged women, with decent appearance. She must be eloquent and intelligent. Because from eating to getting married at the dinner table, the man opens the box and obeys the company's orders. She can speak eloquently and export into poetry, and her luck is endless. There is another middle-aged woman with her, called the companion room. In some places, the bride still wants to cry and marry when she gets into the sedan chair, to show that although Chang 'an is happy, it is better to live in an ancient house. On the morning of the wedding, my sister-in-law and I had breakfast together, which was called "Sister Meal". After dinner, the sisters divided the money. It is to spread copper coins on the rice net, and then the brothers and sisters touch it from small to large. The day before the man gets married, he should write the words "Kirin is here" with vermilion on red paper. Beds, doors and the whole yard should be pasted up until the bride passes the village entrance. The man marries the bride and gets on the bus, but he can't get off on the way. He had to drive all the way to her husband's house. If he meets another married woman on the road, they should exchange handkerchiefs or towels. When the bride arrives home, someone must report it first. As soon as the bride enters the door, the whole family, old and young, should avoid it and come out after the bride enters the hall. So as not to collide with the bride. When the bride is about to enter the house, she must go through fire and smoke. That is, the straw is tied into a ball to make a fire, and the bride crosses it. It is a good life to make four sentences. After entering the door, both the bride and groom should worship Si Mingjun. Some places worship heaven and earth first, and then worship their ancestors. Dinner for relatives and friends at noon, when making reservations, mom and uncle should sit first. The groom's parents should also sit at the table, according to the four themes, each table has four companions, at least in the theme. On this day, the bride will also sit in a big position. Special seats can be set up in the bride's room, so that the bride can sit in the east. At the beginning of the banquet, the mother-in-law who sits first should hold the audience, propose a toast and say four sentences to grasp the audience's dining situation. When everyone was full, they thanked everyone and invited everyone to drink congou. The main table didn't leave, and they couldn't leave from the table. The master table is gone, so are the slaves. We can't stay. After lunch, the bride offered tea to relatives and guests at home one by one from the elder to the younger generation. When offering tea, you should kneel to your elders. The worshipper will immediately lift the bride, and now he just needs to kneel down. Drink two cups of tea. Give the bride red envelopes or gold and silver jewelry. This is called "bride tea". In the evening, neighbors, men, women and children come to see the bride, eat candy, and in some places send out fried peanuts. When the bridal chamber is noisy, it is both joyful and lively. Accompanying the bride can not only increase the courage of the bride's field, but also help the bride and groom clear the gap. Especially in the past, if there were books on the first four sentences, when the bridal chamber was noisy, they sometimes teased each other and used the form of duets. This young woman is a genius for dealing with everyone by herself and improvising. Now, for example, spectators say: the bride is watching, with her back against the wall, cooking for three reasons, cooking and making a fire. At this time, the young woman casually hit back: Du Bo insects fight with people, snails jump with people, sparrows chirp, and birds like Tianchi fly around making trouble in the new house. The spectator immediately replied: Du Bo can dig holes, and snails can spend the winter with water. Sparrows fly to sing, Tianchi flies to win the championship. At this time, another audience sang: I can be a green mother to write poems, I can be a sow, I can be a hedge, I can carry rice in a bag, and I can carry money in a Chinese pocket. The young woman immediately hit back: it's amazing to feed the sow. It's amazing to be covered in a good man. After giving birth to you, it's easy to sell when you go public. There are also four ingenious words, such as the guest reading first: the bride is born red, and the family is the best. The young woman thought she suspected the bride's misconduct and was about to strike back. Suddenly, she heard the chorus: she was hanging out with her sister, studying literature and martial arts ... The next day, the bride had to stir the rice trough and dig a well.

Introduction of Chaoshan traditional wedding etiquette

1. Propose, also called propose. That is, the matchmaker proposes to the man, or the matchmaker introduces the woman to the man first, and then proposes to the woman after the man approves.

Get married. Here are two links. After the two sides agreed to get married, the matchmaker wrote the woman's name, birthday, place of origin and ancestors on the Geng sticker and sent it to the man. If nothing unexpected or unlucky happens in the man's house within three days, such as throwing bowls and basins, it is called "three days is good" With this good sign, the man agreed to exchange posts with Geng. After changing the Geng post, please ask someone to divine and get married to confirm whether men and women are born together or together.

2. Enter the engagement stage after marriage, that is, the man prepares the bride price and the woman decides the marriage. Gifts are usually a pair of gold earrings or a gold ring, as well as a gold necklace, sugar and noodles, which are all symbols of engagement. When the woman is engaged, she should give candy and cakes to her relatives and neighbors, inform them of their engagement, and then engage in bride price.

3. Recruiting people is also called sending them. In the past, the bride price of rich people was gold and silver, colored satin, pig and sheep wine and fruit; The poor are betel nuts and chicken wine. Chaozhou people regards betel nut as an auspicious symbol and a distinctive employment gift. Modern bride price includes physical objects and cash. There must be more than four items: sugar, noodles, Daji Chaozhou orange, gold and silver jewelry, cloth, cakes and so on. , but they cannot be odd numbers, but must be even numbers. Cash, also called bride price money, is divided into one, two and four, but they are all multiples. During the engagement, the woman should return the cake and food in the engagement, and give back "mandarin ducks and bananas", oranges, pig hearts and so on. Yuanyang and banana are two bananas that coexist, symbolizing a hundred years old; The orange homonym "Ji" symbolizes good luck; Half of the pig's heart stays in the woman's heart, symbolizing concentricity. At this time, the two sides will also solemnly distribute cakes and food from each other's gifts to relatives and neighbors to report the wedding. Friends and neighbors should also congratulate them in return. Invitation date, after the engagement ceremony, choose the date of marriage and tell the woman, including telling her when to cut the wedding dress, when to "pull a face", when to take a shower and when to get married. Most of the invitations are invited in the dark, and the hipster custom still retains the wedding custom of welcoming the bride in the dark, which is really an ancient heritage.

The wedding ceremony is the ceremony for the groom to marry the bride at the woman's house, and it is also the most important procedure in the wedding. There are two kinds of wedding banquets: one is the groom's wedding banquet, and the other is that the man invites a "lucky man" to meet him. At this time, the bride often burst into tears, which is called "crying marriage". On the one hand, I cry for being away from my parents. On the other hand, it is said that only tears can make my parents rich.

5. When the sedan chair comes to her husband's door, he will set off firecrackers to welcome her. The groom kicked off the sedan chair, rolled up the curtain, pulled off the wishful thinking on the bride's head and put on airs on her forehead. Kicking a sedan chair and tying a greeting message are intended to give the bride a fright: everything must be as her husband wishes in the future. This is a hint of husband's power. Then the bride stepped over a pile of burning "fire smoke" under the threshold with the help of the bridesmaid. After the bride entered the room, accompanied by the "mother-in-law" invited by her husband's family, she "married" the groom, entered the bridal chamber, and served tea to her elders and peers in the main room. At this time, the green mother will recite carols beside her. On the bride's wedding day, her family will give her husband lily soup. May the bride please everyone in her husband's family. The next day, I sent the bride a soup of fungus and pig heart, hoping that the bride would not forget her family and relatives. Only for the third time can I stay at my parents' house for a few days and talk about my feelings of missing my parents.

6. Girls here also have the custom of giving money to their sisters when they get married. The "sister money" is given by the groom who came to marry to the younger brothers and sisters who sent the bride on the road. Generally, 4 yuan's score is 4.8. Give your sister money to a man and a woman to show "good". 448 points, meaning "the world is good" and "the world is not divided". The groom should hold a solemn ceremony of "fixing the bed" when decorating the new house. When I was in bed, I asked the fortune teller to choose a date, and the orientation of the bed was also particular. When you are in bed, you should do "four sentences" for good luck. When the bride wears heavy makeup and gets on the sedan chair, the bride's family will pour a basin of water on the sedan chair and say, "When the water is poured on the sedan chair, the bride will become new." Send my best wishes to the married bride. However, of course, it is no longer a sedan chair, but bicycles or motorcycles and cars. In the past, the bride had to have two pairs of wooden shoes in her dowry, which not only facilitated her daily life, but also meant "growing old together" or "following suit". After the bride enters the door, she has to get up early to cook and cook a bowl of fragrant rice by herself. The old man, the old woman and her husband's brothers and sisters got up and invited them to taste some. It is said that this bowl of sweet rice, sugar should be brought from her family, and when cooking, you must mix your own saliva into the rice soup. Of course, saliva mixed with rice soup has to be made quietly, and people who eat it don't have to ask more. This custom means that the husband-in-law eats fragrant rice with the saliva of the bride, and the bride and the whole family can live in harmony.

7. Within three days of their wedding, the bride and in-laws should avoid meeting. On the fourth morning, the bride will go to the public well where her new home is located to fetch water. Before pumping water, put a handful of brown sugar and soil brought by her family into the well. This is to make the bride not "acclimatized" and live in harmony with her neighbors. Making trouble in the bridal chamber: a folk activity that has arisen in recent years is to worship the god of wealth at midnight. No matter where you are, the most important thing about a wedding is "getting married". The same is true of Chaoshan. The sachet was embroidered by the bride in the boudoir before marriage. People should judge the bride's dexterity, clumsiness, diligence and laziness from the skill and quantity of these embroidery crafts.

8. If you want to see the bride's face, you must say "four words of good luck" before the bride will put down the fan that covers her face. There are also some humorous hooligans who use the method of first restraining and then promoting, or first restraining and then promoting, so that a bride does not know how to answer. In the past, there were many special wedding customs in Chaoshan area. With the progress of society, some of these marriage customs have been eliminated, and some still have names, but their forms have completely changed.

Refers to marriage, also known as early marriage: old friends or close relatives get married, and if it is a man and a woman after giving birth, the parents of both parties designate two pregnant babies as future couples, which is called refers to belly marriage. When both men and women grow up, whether they like it or not, their parents choose a day to get married. This is called "changing rooms"

What is the etiquette for getting married in Chaoshan area?

1. Chaoshan daughter-in-law's etiquette is to teach family rules when she gets married: when a woman gets married, in addition to the general truth and knowledge of being a daughter-in-law, there is also a ceremony to let her daughter sit on the water tank before getting on the sedan chair. This custom implies that a daughter should be "open-minded" like a water tank, open-minded and not haggle over every ounce.

2. Recognize the rice jar: Listen to Weng Gu introduce the location of the rice jar and the number of people cooking porridge at home.

3. Water collecting tank: Listen to Weng Gu telling me where to draw water, where to hang buckets and bucket hooks, and how to keep drinking water hygienic.

4. Stir the rice jar: stir with a wooden stick to show the daughter-in-law that there is no cooked rice in it, indicating that it cannot be wasted.

5. Make a fire: teach your daughter-in-law to make a fire and cook. It is customary for the bride to cook instead of aunt Weng or sister-in-law when she enters the door. Even if the rich family has a maid to cook, it will take 12 days, or four months a month to do it well.

6. Eat standing up: When the bride is new here, she should respect the old and love the young, start eating standing up, and give meals to her elders. After staying for four or twelve days, the parents advised the daughter-in-law to sit and eat or not to add meals to the elders to avoid this gift. Also, you can't stand on the threshold and sit in the purlin; Hold tea according to the level of guest and host.

7. Washing clothes: men's clothes should be washed first, women's clothes should be washed first, older clothes should be washed first, younger clothes should be washed later, dark clothes should be washed first, and light clothes should be washed later.

8. Giving gifts and returning gifts The customs of giving gifts and returning gifts in Chaozhou-speaking areas of Xixian County are basically the same as those in Chaozhou-speaking areas. When sending an engagement, it is also called an engagement biography, that is, after the men and women agree on the wedding date, the man sends an engagement gift through an intermediary. There are wedding stickers and wedding books to send ancient gifts, and most people just send bride price. The bride price and the bride's dowry are agreed in advance. Engagement money to the woman's parents; Gifts such as gold and silver jewelry, clothes and cloth are for daughter-in-law; Brocade candy, biscuits and curlers are given as gifts to the woman's relatives and neighbors. If the woman has grandparents alive, she must give a pig leg; If parents are alive, they will give pork, commonly known as washing excrement meat, to express their gratitude for their parents' upbringing. The woman gave a simple gift, only candy cake, and asked the man to send all his relatives and neighbors away and inform the wedding date. If the man has a sticker or marriage certificate, he will reply and exchange marriage certificates. In addition to paper money, gold and silver jewelry, clothing fabrics, there are electrical appliances, sewing cars, clocks and watches. These all depend on the man's economic strength, and the woman's return is the same.

9. Propose marriage, also called marriage proposal. That is, the matchmaker proposes to the man, or the matchmaker introduces the woman to the man first, and then proposes to the woman after the man approves.

10. Marriage: There are two links. After the two sides propose marriage, the matchmaker will write the woman's name, date of birth, place of origin and ancestors on the Geng sticker and send it to the man. If nothing unexpected or unlucky happens in the man's house within three days, such as throwing bowls and basins, it is called "three days is good" With this good sign, the man promised to exchange positions with Geng. After changing the Geng post, invite someone to divination, get married with each other, and confirm whether men and women are born together or born together.

1 1. engagement: after marriage, the man enters the engagement stage, that is, the man prepares gifts for the woman to get engaged. Gifts are usually a pair of gold earrings or a gold ring, as well as a gold necklace, sugar and noodles, which are all symbols of engagement. When the woman is engaged, she should give candy and cakes to her relatives and neighbors, inform them of their engagement, and then engage in bride price.

12. Employment, also known as employment dispatch. In the past, the bride price of rich people was gold and silver, colored satin, pig and sheep wine and fruit; The poor are betel nuts and chicken wine. Chaozhou people regards betel nut as an auspicious symbol and a distinctive employment gift. Modern bride price includes physical objects and cash. There must be more than four items: sugar, noodles, Daji Chaozhou orange, gold and silver jewelry, cloth, cakes and so on. , but they cannot be odd numbers, but must be even numbers. Cash, also called bride price money, is divided into one, two and four, but they are all multiples. During the engagement, the woman should return the cake and food in the engagement, and give back "mandarin ducks and bananas", oranges, pig hearts and so on. Yuanyang and banana are two bananas that coexist, symbolizing a hundred years old; The orange homonym "Ji" symbolizes good luck; Half of the pig's heart stays in the woman's heart, symbolizing concentricity. At this time, the two sides will also solemnly distribute cakes and food from each other's gifts to relatives and neighbors to report the wedding. Friends and neighbors should also congratulate them in return. Invitation date, after the engagement ceremony, choose the date of marriage and tell the woman, including telling her when to cut the wedding dress, when to "pull a face", when to take a shower and when to get married. Most of the invitations are invited in the dark, and the hipster custom still retains the wedding custom of welcoming the bride in the dark, which is really an ancient heritage.

13. The wedding ceremony is the ceremony for the groom to marry the bride at the woman's house, and it is also the most important procedure in the wedding. There are two kinds of wedding banquets: one is the groom's wedding banquet, and the other is that the man invites a "lucky man" to meet him. At this time, the bride often burst into tears, which is called "crying marriage". On the one hand, I cry for being away from my parents. On the other hand, it is said that only tears can make my parents rich. When the sedan chair comes to the door of her husband's family, they will set off firecrackers to welcome her. The groom kicked off the sedan chair, rolled up the curtain, pulled off the wishful thinking on the bride's head and put on airs on her forehead. Kicking a sedan chair and tying a greeting message are intended to give the bride a fright: everything must be as her husband wishes in the future. This is a hint of husband's power. Then the bride stepped over a pile of burning "fire smoke" under the threshold with the help of the bridesmaid. After the bride entered the room, accompanied by the "mother-in-law" invited by her husband's family, she "married" the groom, entered the bridal chamber, and served tea to her elders and peers in the main room. At this time, the green mother will recite carols beside her. On the bride's wedding day, her family will give her husband lily soup. May the bride please everyone in her husband's family. The next day, I sent the bride a soup of fungus and pig heart, hoping that the bride would not forget her family and relatives. Only for the third time can I stay at my parents' house for a few days and talk about my feelings of missing my parents. Girls here also have the custom of giving money to their sisters when they get married. The "sister money" is given by the groom who came to marry to the younger brothers and sisters who sent the bride on the road. Generally, 4 yuan's score is 4.8. Give your sister money to a man and a woman to show "good". 448 points, meaning "the world is good" and "the world is not divided". The groom should hold a solemn ceremony of "fixing the bed" when decorating the new house. When I was in bed, I asked the fortune teller to choose a date, and the orientation of the bed was also particular. When you are in bed, you should do "four sentences" for good luck. When the bride wears heavy makeup and gets on the sedan chair, the bride's family will carry a basin of clear water and pour it on the sedan chair, saying, "When the water is poured on the sedan chair, the bride will look brand-new. Send my best wishes to the married bride. However, of course, it is no longer a sedan chair, but bicycles or motorcycles and cars. In the past, the bride had to have two pairs of wooden shoes in her dowry, which not only facilitated her daily life, but also meant "growing old together" or "following suit".

14. After the bride enters the door, she has to get up early to cook and cook a bowl of fragrant rice by herself. When the old man, the old woman and her husband's brothers and sisters get up, they are invited to taste some. It is said that this bowl of sweet rice, sugar should be brought from her family, and when cooking, you must mix your own saliva into the rice soup. Of course, saliva mixed with rice soup has to be made quietly, and people who eat it don't have to ask more. This custom means that the husband-in-law eats fragrant rice with the saliva of the bride, and the bride and the whole family can live in harmony. During the three days of their wedding, the bride and in-laws should avoid meeting each other. On the fourth morning, the bride will go to the public well where her new home is located to fetch water. Before pumping water, put a handful of brown sugar and soil brought by her family into the well. This is to make the bride not "acclimatized" and live in harmony with her neighbors.

15. making trouble in the bridal chamber: a folk activity that has arisen in recent years is to worship the god of wealth at midnight. No matter where you are, the most important thing about a wedding is "getting married". The same is true of Chaoshan. The sachet was embroidered by the bride in the boudoir before marriage. People should judge the bride's dexterity, clumsiness, diligence and laziness from the skill and quantity of these embroidery crafts. If you want to see the bride's face, you must say "four words" of good luck before the bride will put down the fan that covers her face. There are also some humorous hooligans who use the method of first restraining and then promoting, or first restraining and then promoting, so that a bride does not know how to answer. In the past, there were many special wedding customs in Chaoshan area. With the progress of society, some of these marriage customs have been eliminated, and some still have names, but their forms have completely changed. Refers to marriage, also known as early marriage: old friends or close relatives get married, and if it is a man and a woman after giving birth, the parents of both parties designate two pregnant babies as future couples, which is called refers to belly marriage. When both men and women grow up, whether they like it or not, their parents choose a day to get married. This is called "changing rooms"