Housework in Northeast China. People who know the inside story will give you some advice.

This is a pattern with what sociologists call "fighting in the nest". I hope you can get some inspiration from the article of People's Daily:

Survival wisdom 69: the "throb" that should be completely abandoned

Shao daosheng

Historically, China had a "throbbing" problem. Although it is "unified", it is "fragmented" internally and its cohesion is extremely poor. In fact, thousands of years of feudal historical facts are "throat" history. Of course, as Mr. Lu Xun pointed out, the responsibility for this "fragmentation" is "not the king, but the rulers of all sizes"

After the founding of New China, this bad habit has not been completely eradicated, and it is still exerting its influence. Some people overemphasize the "class struggle" among the people, the struggle between "revisionism" and "Marxism", and the issue of "surname capital" and "surname society", killing cadres, intellectuals and upright people. China society has never solved the problems of "Left" and "Right" well, so it has been fighting in the nest. In daily life, the phenomena of "saying nice things to your face and making things difficult behind your back", "calling your brother to your face and touching the guy behind your back", "shaking hands to your face and kicking your feet behind your back" and "being a man to your face and being a ghost behind your back" are all too common. So, Mr. Shen Chang told such a story:

"When I was working in new york, I heard a story: at the end of the year, the American boss wanted to give his workers a raise, and the amount was quite large-500 dollars per person, but he stipulated that each group could only add one person, and the specific candidate should be decided after democratic discussion in each group. Most workers in this factory come from Asia, so they are divided into Japanese group, Vietnamese group, Korean group and China group. ...

After the notice was issued, the secretary asked each group to report the salary increase list before work. The Japanese team was the fastest, and the list was set in a few minutes. The boss is very satisfied, this person is exactly what he expected-high technology and fast speed; The Vietnamese team reported a poor man with medium skills and the lowest salary; The Korean delegation also reported that it was a peacemaker with the worst skills and very good popularity. The boss shook his head, very helpless.

What about China? Why did you delay reporting? After work, the secretary urged her again, but the result was: China people don't want a raise! The boss was shocked! Do China people really carry forward the capitalist style? Don't you want a proper reward? The boss didn't believe it, so he went to the China Youth League to find out for himself. Finally, the truth came out: the five members of the China Youth League discussed it for a long time, and they were red-faced and unwilling to give each other ... They suggested to the boss,' Either share it equally, add one hundred to each person, or none at all!' The boss waved angrily and cancelled China's salary increase!

Some foreign bosses have come to the conclusion that it is best to hire China people alone and several people will "fight among themselves" together. "

This is a "story" and its authenticity cannot be verified. However, it does show that this "throb" has a great market, and it is difficult to eliminate this "tradition" at once.

So, what are the characteristics of people who like "throbbing"?

First, people who like "throat" are often people who overemphasize "principle" and "line" and show more affection for the word "left". Some "theorists" are too keen on "principle" and "line", and they are "very uneasy" or even "very worried" about whether the vast majority of China people will stick to it. Therefore, out of one of their ideas, they raised the "principle problem" to an "absolute height" and regarded all social phenomena that were not "principles" as "principles". So I especially like to argue about "surname zi" or "surname she".

Why do some people like "Left" so much? The reason is too complicated. This is because some theorists are unrealistic and worry too much. It should also be pointed out that in real life, because of the "Left" for decades, "Left" has become accustomed to it, and "Left" has become a matter of course, but it is the "Left" that has been promoted, and it can also bring many benefits to some people, such as political interests, social interests, and even "by-products" of these interests: economic interests and so on. Therefore, people invisibly become very fond of the word "Left". Why? Because "'Left' is revolutionary, scaring people with big hats seems to be more revolutionary as the' Left' goes."

Second, people who like "throat" are often good at camouflage. Nobody wants to be branded as "throbbing". However, for the benefit, some people paint themselves with a thick layer of "political protection color".

As a result, these people who like internal friction all dress up in a sanctimonious manner, obviously know nothing about Marxism-Leninism, and even spoil Marxism-Leninism, but dress themselves up as "defenders" of "ism" and "principles"; Obviously, his bourgeois individualism is more serious than anyone else, but he criticizes the other side. Obviously, they have ulterior political purposes, but what they say is always so beautiful and noble.

People who like "throat" are best at disguising themselves in political movements, political slogans and political labels.

Third, people who like "throat" are often narrow-minded, short-sighted and paranoid. There is such a person in our society: the more progress others make, the more painful they are; The more "developed" others are, the more annoyed they are; When others are "proud of the spring breeze", the more jealous he is; The more benefits others have, the more he can't stand it. In short, as long as a person is superior, strong and weak, smart and stupid, he will have mixed feelings. Under the control of this kind of psychology, he can't help but frequently launch "provocations" or "attacks" on others: such as sarcasm, schadenfreude, spreading gossip, spreading rumors and slanders, making anonymous false accusations, and trying every means to pull the other person down. Even if he can't pull it down, it is good to "secretly kick someone's foot" and throw a bowl of dirty water on his head ... This is a kind of conservatism.

Fourth, people who like "throat" are often good at "cliques". All units or groups with serious "infighting" are generally surrounded by hills and factional struggles are serious, and there is always a struggle between "one faction" and "another faction". Moreover, units or groups with serious internal friction generally have "power factors" at work. Some are "leaders" directly in command, each pulling a group of people to fight to the death; Others, with the secret support of "leaders", undermine each other and engage in small moves; Some are even bigger than the "backstage", crushing people with power, crushing the weak with strength, and stubbornly crushing each other.

It is precisely because the "throat" in the real society has the above characteristics that it has caused great harm to our country, nation, group and individual.

Because of "infighting", not only the vitality of our country is greatly consumed, but also our country has lost one excellent development opportunity after another, thus making the development speed of our social productive forces very slow.

Because of the "throats", the cohesiveness and attractiveness of the group are greatly reduced. People can't work together because of the scattered sand. In these groups, people's enthusiasm for work is generally not high and they can't be mobilized. Of course, group goals cannot be achieved.

Due to the serious infighting, infighting has greatly affected the healthy development of national personality. If the members of a group live in a group that is "suspicious of each other, wary of each other, jealous of talents, spreading rumors and slanders, spreading factions, destroying each other, oppressing others with power, and striving for profits", then the mentality of group members will soon be alienated, distorted, and even reach abnormal levels.

So, how should we correct this vicious disease and stubborn disease of "fighting in the nest"?

The first is to start with the "head". Generally speaking, the head of a throbbing and busy unit is keen on throbbing. Because the "leader" takes the lead in fighting, "fighting in the nest" can be fought. The struggle between "number one" and "number two" has the following rules: when the leadership level of "number one" and "number two" is similar, they are both people with strong desire for power, selfishness and boastful personality, they are easy to disobey each other and fight with each other; When the "first-in-command" ability is relatively low, mediocre, weak and confused, while the "second-in-command and third-in-command" ability is relatively strong and they want to "take advantage", it is easy to fight with each other; When there are one or two "careerists" in the leading group, there will be troubles among the "leaders", and the "leaders" who did not fight before will become aggressive; When the faction of the leader "leader" tries to change the balance of power of the existing team, the aggressive "leader" will also become aggressive under the instigation of the leader "leader". In short, as long as the "leaders" who like "labor pains" are dealt with seriously, internal friction can be avoided.

Second, we should pay attention to the "making waves" of "little people". One of the reasons why some groups are "infighting" is that there are always such "little people" in the group, which makes the group restless. These people are short-sighted and narrow-minded; I don't work well, but I always find fault with other people's work; I just want to be the leading role, not the supporting role. If I don't satisfy my selfish desires, I will make a scene and look like a "stirring stick". As soon as others make some achievements, they are full of unhappiness. So, don't talk to your face, talk behind your back and gossip everywhere. Especially when the "leaders" themselves like to form cliques, or when rewards and punishments are indiscriminate and things are unfair, the energy of these "little people" will be fully exerted. Generally speaking, as long as these "little people" are not "successful", the group cannot fight.

Third, advocate and encourage reasonable and scientific competition. To develop society, we must advocate reasonable and scientific competition. In our society, there are many people who are afraid that others will surpass themselves, make inventions and make rapid progress. Some people get "rich" by their own labor, 100 people don't like it, 1000 people don't like it, and 10 thousand people are uncomfortable. So I tried every means to "consume" with them. Therefore, our society must create a social and psychological environment conducive to competition, create a social environment and a public opinion environment that allows outstanding talents to stand out, and protect, cultivate, believe and respect those new and practical achievements. Those who report behind people's backs, those who are good at flattery, those who watch the wind, those who don't do practical things, those who start from the whole person, and those who slander others with gossip, not only can't open the "market", but also should be severely criticized.

Source: People's Network