Ideas and methods of family education

Family education is a long-term work that parents insist on, and family education can only be completed by parents; Parents must have the function of "two-way adjustment". The following are my family education ideas and methods, I hope to help you.

With the progress of society, technology plays an increasingly important role in human life, and more and more parents attach great importance to their children's education [1]. But many parents don't know that in the process of children's growth, family education should be the first education that can't be lost, and subsequent education can only be re-educated on the basis of parents [2]. In the end, what methods should be used to educate children so that they can have a good first family education class?

1, what parents should have.

Thousands of years of China culture have filled every new parent with the desire that their children can get ahead. Even before the children were born, they have been planning. But with the growth of children, how many parents have realized their hopes? The actual result is that many parents and children have a generation gap or even confrontation, and some even turn against each other. What's wrong? This is caused by the incompatibility between parents' educational ideas and children's growth psychology, personality and hobbies [3]. Parents should educate their children with the following concepts:

Idea 1: get along with children on an equal footing. Children come into this world as an independent individual, but their independence is poor when they are young, and they become more and more independent as they grow older. When I was young, I needed more care and care, but as I grew older, I needed more dignity, self-confidence, reason and modesty. Parents should educate their children in a relaxed, peaceful and pleasant environment, so that all parties can fully express their views through discussion and debate, and finally convince people with reason and words; Some issues that cannot be clearly debated for the time being should be allowed to be retained; We should seek common ground while reserving differences, persist in constantly solving old and new problems for a long time, and don't draw arbitrary conclusions.

Idea 2: study with children. In a person's life, everyone will make all kinds of mistakes at any time, because we learn to be correct through mistakes. Because the social environment is constantly changing, one's age, children's age and knowledge are also constantly changing, so parents' previous experience may not be suitable for children; It is natural for children to surpass their parents in some knowledge when they reach a certain age. In this era of knowledge explosion, who can master all the knowledge? Therefore, some parents said, "I eat more salt than you do!" " "These practices are not desirable. One thing parents should and must do is to learn from each other and make progress together with their children, rather than just asking them to learn.

Idea 3: Help children correct their shortcomings. Learn to use the method of dividing into two, affirm the advantages of children, and urge children to correct their shortcomings at the same time. In China's traditional concept, a person is often fully affirmed because of his achievements in a certain aspect; They cling to those who have shortcomings and mistakes. In fact, think about it, a person who has made outstanding achievements in a certain professional field is sick. Isn't it the same to find a medical expert to treat him? There are advantages and disadvantages in the world. People don't exist. All have their own advantages and disadvantages, but there are some differences in proportion. As parents, it is necessary to help children maintain their strengths, correct their shortcomings, and let the proportion of strengths continue to increase under the care of parents.

2. Parents should have methods.

It is not enough to have a dream of becoming a dragon in family education. Parents must realize that educating their children is a long-term and persistent task, and we must start from daily trifles. How can we achieve this goal? Parents should pay attention to the following points:

Method 1: Be sure to treat your child as an independent person. When children encounter problems, sometimes parents have enough knowledge to guide them, but sometimes they may encounter content that is not their own strength. At this time, some parents will treat their children rudely and dare not admit that they don't understand; Or borrow a job to shirk it. After a long time, children will not come to you for things, and the chances of natural communication will be reduced. In the long run, it is easy to have communication difficulties. When parents don't know the problem, the correct way is to teach their children to learn to teach themselves. For example, online search, taking time to buy books with children, helping children find experts, taking time to discuss with children and so on. When you disagree with your child, leave some space and time to solve it slowly.

Method 2: Cultivate children's rationality and don't make trouble unreasonably. Desire is human nature. Excessive desire or no desire is abnormal. The key is to grasp the degree and rationally choose what you want and give up according to the actual situation. Cultivating children's reason is a long-term task, and the most time-saving and labor-saving way is to start from the childhood. The best way is to "deal with a man as he deals with you". For example, it is often said that "my children are careless and adults don't listen." In fact, this is because the living environment provided by parents to their children is too good. It is understandable to let children live a better life, but the problem is that children always have to face the pressure of life when they grow up, so we should consciously "create" some environments for children to help them grow up. For such children, parents can "learn lessons" from their carelessness, such as deliberately "washing" girls' beloved clothes in a mess; "Accidentally" broke a boy's favorite toy, etc. After the child cried, it is many times better to tell him the consequences of carelessness than to talk about empty education for several years. Parents must not be soft-hearted when dealing with children's unreasonable troubles. This is something that children must experience when they grow up. The smaller they are, the lower the cost.

Method 3: Help introverted and unconfident children build their confidence. When children encounter problems that cannot be solved in the process of growing up, they will be depressed, and staying in this state for a long time will inevitably form an evasive character. In this case, we must take every opportunity to encourage children, and help them find solutions to problems in a relaxed environment, so that they can establish a confident and optimistic outlook on life in success and happiness. When children are depressed when they encounter difficulties, we can deliberately exaggerate the difficulties, saying that this problem children is really difficult, not a child's problem, but we can solve it by XXX. In addition, praise some things that seem normal to children, and talk about embarrassing things you have done in the past, so that children can get hints, increase their interest in actively finding solutions to problems, and establish self-confidence.

Family education concept sharing

The first and most important thing in family education is the establishment of parent-child relationship. Nowadays, children begin to sprout puberty in the fourth grade, disobey their parents and start to rebel. If the relationship between parents and children is distorted, children will not listen, because children themselves do not accept their parents' views. If the parent-child relationship is good, even if what parents say is sometimes unreasonable, children can understand it correctly, so they will have the spirit of progress, so the parent-child relationship must be handled well.

Secondly, family education is to let children maintain a positive and optimistic learning attitude. In fact, it is to let children have fun in learning and change passive learning into active learning. Only with a correct attitude towards learning can they concentrate on accepting what the outside world has given them, including knowledge.

Family education once again means that children should develop a good study habit, including listening attentively in class, not paying attention, not delaying, and not being careless in doing homework. The cultivation of study habits is also the most important thing for parents to assist their children. The most important thing is that parents should set an example. For example, parents should not do homework while their children are doing homework.

About family education, how to establish a good parent-child relationship? How to better communicate with children? How to better educate children? I'll give you some ideas about family education, hoping to help you!

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Finally, family education is to let children find suitable learning methods to improve their learning ability. For example, children usually memorize. If children have their own methods (summing up formulas, etc. ), they can remember quickly and accurately when reciting, which can improve learning efficiency.

If parents can do it, or even do it better in these aspects, then children will be well educated, and children will certainly grow, grow and change! Let's cheer together!