Break the traditional parenting style

For parents, having children is an unshirkable responsibility. However, the pressure of life is great now, and the cost of raising children is increasing year by year. How to raise children and how to make money is a difficult problem.

If you choose to give up your job and go home to take care of your baby, the quality of life will be greatly reduced, and it is really beyond your ability to maintain the expenses of a family of three.

If the elderly are asked to help with the baby, they need to live with the elderly, which is not only inconvenient, but also causes many contradictions because of child-rearing problems, and even seriously affects family harmony.

Therefore, in order to solve such problems, "shift work" has become a new trend. Not only are children watched, but there is no resentment between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If you think about it carefully, there are indeed many benefits.

Ma Bao Xiaomei, born in 1990s, has now encountered a big problem. Seeing that maternity leave is about to expire, what should I do with this little doll? After all, it is unrealistic to choose to resign.

Thinking about it, the young couple thought that asking her mother-in-law to help might be the safest solution, but how to avoid the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?

After discussing with her husband, Xiaomei decided to let her mother-in-law help her adapt in advance, so before the end of maternity leave, Xiaomei took her in-laws home. After hands-on training, Xiaomei returned to work and her mother-in-law officially took up her post.

Originally, she thought that after a period of running-in, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law could be harmonious, but it didn't take long for Xiaomei to find the problem.

Because the mother-in-law always has the final say at home, she is used to going her own way with her baby, and she has forgotten all the precautions Xiaomei once told her.

Xiaomei tried to communicate with her mother-in-law, but her mother-in-law was so strong that she didn't take Xiaomei's advice to heart at all. Therefore, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was once frozen, and Xiaomei even made plans to resign.

Finally, Xiaomei's husband thought of a way. He rented a house for his parents-in-law in the same community, sent the children to his parents-in-law during the day, and Xiaomei took them home after work, which not only avoided unnecessary embarrassment, but also did not cause too many differences because of parenting problems.

Sure enough, since then, the relationship between Xiaomei's mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been much more harmonious, and the children have helped to take care of them, and the quality of life has also been guaranteed. It can be said that everyone is happy.

Old people and young parents have clear responsibilities, and elders are more relaxed.

In fact, for the elderly, living with young parents will also have a lot of inconvenience and even a sense of urgency. After all, there is a big generation gap with young people's parenting styles and living habits.

Therefore, if you choose to take care of your baby in shifts, it will be more flexible and relaxed for the elderly.

Staggering parenting time to reduce parenting conflicts.

Nowadays, young people like to raise their babies "by the book", and they think that the parenting style of the older generation has many disadvantages, so when faced with these different parenting problems, contradictions arise.

Shift parenting perfectly avoids such problems, because the problems of taking care of children do not interfere with each other and the contradictions are reduced.

Parents don't give up, and the elderly are not absent, which is more beneficial to children.

Parents are the most important people to children, but the love of the elderly also plays an important role in children's physical and mental development.

Therefore, this way can not only ensure the parent-child relationship, but also have the care of the elderly, which is also very important for the growth of children.

Families with obvious conflicts in parenting concepts

If there is a big gap between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, such as the old people who are too traditional or even stubborn and unwilling to accept new things, or the young parents who are too eager for book knowledge and completely abandon the traditional family, this way of parenting is not suitable.

The old man tossed the family back and forth.

The prerequisite of this way of parenting is that the two families are not far away and it is convenient to go back and forth. If the two families are too far away, they spend most of their time on the road, so there is no need to choose this way.

A family in which the elderly overindulge their children.

If the elderly are tough and spoil their children too much, it will not only make children develop many bad habits, but also affect the parent-child relationship between children and parents, so this parenting method can be ignored.

Education should be persistent, so for the better development of children, young parents should learn the correct parenting experience, and the elderly should learn to accept new things.

If the parenting conflict between the elderly and their parents is too great, the first "pit" is dug for the children. First of all, children will confuse concepts and don't know which is right or wrong. Secondly, they will feel confused and affect the development of children's three views.